Aibu about school WhatsApp group - feel hurt

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I’ve been added to the school WhatsApp group for the primary my DD is joining in sept. Nice enough chat, some parents I know from nursery etc.

There was some chat on there about registering for something for the kids for September and I didn’t know what it was so asked “sorry, what website do I need to register on what’s it for please?” No one replied and then about an hour later someone wrote: “oh god, it’s not going to be one of those groups where people ask stupid questions and no one can do a thing for themselves is it? If so I’m leaving!” And immediately loads of other parents liked the comment leaving me feeling so awkward.

Someone eventually replied it was to register for a school book bag you need to pay for.

AIBU to ask the question in the group chat?

I would have left like a fucking shot. Never felt the need to be a member. All info is on the newsletter anyway.

Don't send a petty reply - rise above instead. Just thank the person who answered.

You can't if you've just been added.

OP, I'd add something to that effect - that new people can't see anything previously posted and that therefore there is likely to be repetition in the beginning.

I was in a group
Chat like that wirh 'friends'

Put me off whataapp ansd i left it laat year
Not going back

I would ignore, I don't think there's any 'good' answer to that nastiness tbh. The really sad thing is the other parents liking it and not one standing up for you.

I have limited patience for school/nursery WhatsApp groups, but I have found them v useful (especially as a working parent who can't always/ever do the school run myself) for party invites, which newsletters obviously don't cover.

Are you the tw*t who commented on the OPs WhatsApp?

Your life will be greatly enriched by not joining such groups. The school will text you anything you need to know. Groups like this are for people for whom parenting is their entire identity. They live for school events and what the other parents do and it's so fucking sad.

I didn't talk to a single school gate person - drop kid off and leave! You don't need weirdos pretending to be friends because of some 4 year olds.

But if you've just been added the earlier chat won't be visible to you

Please do this 👏👏👏👏

I genuinely don’t understand this attitude. A chat group like this is literally meant to be a resource and source of support. It’s not a forum for showing off advanced parenting logistics.

If people feel they can’t ask questions there is no point to the thread other than one-upmanship and showing off.

If someone asking a well intentioned question offends you that much just ignore it and roll your eyes in private.

OP for what it’s worth behaviours like this are driven by insecurity. Ignore it and rise above it. Don’t be bullied off the thread by small minded idiots.

Say thank you to the person who explained.

If you really want to point out to the cowbag who was mean that you’ve only just been added. But it’s likely better to move on and ignore them now and in the future

I'd reply: "are you ok, darling? That was so rude...
Straight to her. In the group.
Ppl like that are cowards and don't know what to do if you don't argue back but instead act pitted like the they are poor crazy things.

This. You have to stand up to people like this. They are always spineless.

Maybe say "u ok hun?, u seem stressed?"

oh god, it’s not going to be one of those groups where people ask stupid questions and no one can do a thing for themselves is it? If so I’m leaving!”

'Great. Don't let the virtual door hit you on your arse on the way out you cunt.'

I really don't understand our school WhatsApp group, where one person reposts every email or letter from school. Worse still, people thank the person effusively so they keep doing it.

Don't mind people asking the odd question like you did and someone posting the answer as the email's been lost or whatever. But it drives me up the wall when every single bloody communication is reposted. Or the irrational pile-ons of school criticisms.

Funnily enough, our school's just closed all their created year WhatsApp groups as a parent posted something particularly inappropriate. Of course, the parents just recreated their own but I don't blame them. Thankfully I just put ours on mute as it's about ten messages a day.

Wow! I ask things on the group WhatsApp all the time!! In the first few weeks I was was very reliant on the helpful / know it alls with older kids and they seemed to relish in being asked questions. This person is a mean dick clearly.

Yes you were totally in your right to ask, but I would rely on it for help going forward. Don't leave though as it might have party invites on it etc. thank the person for helping you, (I'd state I was new so it was helpful for them to point you in the right direction) then sit back and make note to avoid Mean Dick.

There’s a reason why those of us with older kids don’t get involved in class whatapps, or playground chit-chat…

That is so bloody rude!
I’ve been part of a school group chat since before covid, and in that time lots of us have asked questions whether they sound like stupid questions or not. Everyone has been nice to each other and helpful.

Comments like that are so unnecessary. All they needed to do is either not answer you or answer your question. No need for snipey comments like that. I hope he or she does leave or better, gets kicked out of the group. But seeing as lots of people liked the comment, I doubt they will get kicked.
Good luck dealing with that person over the next 7 years.

Leave the group - it is totally unnecessary and just causes trouble. If you need information, the school will give it to you.
When DT’s were at school there were no WhatsApp groups. No problems.

I genuinely don’t understand this attitude. A chat group like this is literally meant to be a resource and source of support. It’s not a forum for showing off advanced parenting logistics.

My DD is in Year 11.
here is the activity in the chat group over the last few weeks
Post 1: When are GCSE results out? <someone replies with date>
Post 2: Do we know when GSCE results are out? <someone attaches copy of school letter detailing this>
Post 3: Has everyone seen this letter? <person attaches copy of same letter about GCSE results>
Post 4: Can someone remind me when GCSE results are out? <someone replies with date>
Post 5: My DC doesn't know anything about GCSE results - does anyone else's? <someone posts copy of email sent to all Year 11 students; which is the same as the letter sent to parents>
Post 6: Aarrgh. Lost the letter about GCSE results - when are they? <someone posts the date> <someone else points out that letters are on the parent portal> <someone else attaches a copy of the letter.>

<numerous other posts on same topic not included to save everyone's sanity>

You get the idea. This isn't really showing off advanced parenting logistics. It's just a case of not being totally lazy when wanting information. Particularly as, GCSE results day is a national date and could also be found by use of Google.

This is the type of shit I was referencing.

But apparently I'm a twat 😂

@MoveBitch

so just ignore it?

Scroll on.

You would, would you?

very mean and outright rude.
OP you need to set the record straight and say that the previous msg aren’t visible because you have just been added to the group and that you want to make sure you are up to speed with what’s needed for school and that you don’t miss important info as a newbie.