To think Tattle is disgusting?

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I was just searching for a lady I have followed on Instagram for some time (The Nurse Mum) who's little boy Jaxon sadly died. She's doing a ball event and I wanted to find out more info......anyway, after putting her name into Google I came across a website called Tattle with her name there. I've never seen this website before but having gone onto it my god it's awful! Such evil spouting from women about other people....I couldn't read on it was just so horrible and contrived.

How is something like that allowed to operate? Makes some of the 'harsh' comments on here look lovely 😕

It always amuses me on any thread here about Tattle that people manage to form such strong opinions on it from “a quick glance” or “accidentally reading a post”. I always wonder which particular thread people happened upon (and obviously shut down instantly😉) before deciding the entire site is given over to ripping people apart.

I suppose in that way the comparison is that people coming to look at MN might only look on AIBU and conclude that everyone on here is horrible. And not venture any further? .

Between this and KiwiFarms it's refreshing to find places you can actually be honest with your opinion without getting cancelled or hounded off a forum.

I don't agree with a lot of what goes on in these places but there are some harsh truths on them that are pretty valid.

Name changed to post this. I follow some lifestyle and fashion influencers. One fashion person was starting to sound really dubious (inconsistencies and the smoke and mirrors scenario) so I searched and found out what was going on from Tattle as there had been multiple threads about this person. I unfollowed them after that.

The fake-rich snobs who post here wouldn't be tolerated over there. Though I like Mumsnet and lots of us post in both places. I was glad to see the Jack Monroe thread was allowed to stand here on Mumsnet recently.

Sure, but this doesn't change the fact that you don't get that level of nastiness directed to other posters on tattle

I have a Tattle account, I don't use it to post but I do read the threads on some influencers I used to watch, I'm a similar age to most of the OG British beauty bloggers.

Generally what they post on those is right - some of these women are awful people. But I hate when they start attacking them for things they can't help, like the shape of their jaw or teeth! So it's a mixed bag - kind of like MN!

I am glad I found it though, because I was very blind to a lot of what they're doing when I was only watching through their YT/IGs/blogs.

As others have said, tattle is no worse than here. Been on this site about 10 years under various names and seem some truly horrendous threads tearing people to pieces for the flimsiest of reasons.

I only discovered tattle when I had inklings about certain influencers etc that seemed a bit suss and googled them. I only read, I don’t comment myself and some of the stuff people say is too harsh at times. I find the one on Alice Evans particularly interesting right now.

Anyone who engages in such nasty spiteful hate on Tattle about strangers are blatantly toxic, inadequate, insecure and poisonous individuals who make themselves try and feel a tiny bit better about whatever shit show their lives are by ripping to shreds someone else.

I think it must stem from jealousy, a lot of the people discussed are ‘successful’ in their online lives (however you view that) often beautiful, nice homes, nice kids etc, everything I suspect those on tattle are not.

Threads about the nurse mum are disgusting.

Isn't your post a bit ironic @LAS123 ?

You're calling people out people for being nasty, whilst referring to them as:

"blatantly toxic, inadequate, insecure and poisonous individuals who make themselves try and feel a tiny bit better about whatever shit show their lives are"

See I don’t understand this. It’s exactly why tattle has been successful, tbh. The ‘jealous haterz’ defence is reductive; it’s ignoring that it started (and carried on) because people were feeling manipulated by the ‘beautiful, nice homes, nice kids etc,‘ which are mostly false and used to flog rubbish to unsuspecting followers.

I tend to agree.

If Tattle didn’t exist, it wouldn’t stop people having negative opinions of influencers and other celebrities. People are going to think their own thoughts, and share them. You can’t prevent that, and nor should anyone attempt to

I think it’s healthy that Tattle exists. There will be a few nutcases on it, as with all forums. But, where else will cynical attempts to monetise young people be questioned and exposed?

Who are the ‘influencers’ mostly influencing? Oh yes, kids and young people. Why was the flinty-eyed Zoella attempting to sell kids a crappy advent calendar for £50? Because whoever was making money from it knew that little girls are susceptible to being influenced by these calculating people, who know which buttons to press.

Why are Gleam Futures, who manage many of the U.K. influencers, making money? Because they are tapping into the vulnerabilities and insecurities of young people and exploiting them. With the help of sponsors. Every time an influencer affects e.g. mental health problems, claiming to offer hope or support to innocent followers, what are they really interested in? Really helping people, or just the clicks and likes and follows?

That’s why it’s right that a place exists where this sort of business is questioned and challenged. I don’t doubt that there are some less pleasant corners of Tattle, but it’s right that it exists. Better that than nobody ever being allowed to express a negative opinion about these people. Influencers’ followers, some of whom might see the influencer as a friend or advocate or even, god forbid, a role model, are nothing more than revenue and future EBITDA projections, to be milked for their spending power.

Many threads on tattle are very unpleasant, and I avoid them.

Some, however, eg those on parttimeworkingmummy call out real, concerning behaviour, such as filming her 16 year old son - without his knowledge - walking around in just his pants. She also ask for donations for things that never seem to quite materialise….whilst her standard of living has gone through the roof. Real people were setting up standing orders for £50 a month to her etc.

Pot, Kettle, Black springs to mind. MN can be absolutely vile at times, much worse is said on here to an anonymous poster than about people on Tattle. Threads on public figures are deleted here as "not in the spirit" but posters can be abused without recourse here. I don't believe that it is because the posts aren't being reported, just that it is a lot lower when about a public figure.

I do find it strange though that the transphobic claim is never directed at Tattle, just MN. They are a lot more blunt over there.

Anyway I ended up with a Tattle account after being 'sent' from here.

PTWM was the reason I found tattle as I had been following her on fb and was a bit at some of what she was posting and the amount of people donating money to her “cause”.

I am referring to entire group that actively enjoying collectively joining up and targeting one single person, its very different and I would have thought that was obvious.

It disgusting and any decent human being would see that but I guess joining forces with other bullies, because thats what it is, makes people feel justified in their actions.

i think if you enjoy or engage in being horrifically hateful to others there is something very wrong in your mind.

There is absolutely no comparison. The language used on tattle is vile. People are routinely called fat, ugly, ageing, worthless cunts that look like they don't wash and should be ashamed to be alive. Mumsnet has never been like that.

Why interesting??!!

@OhMerde I haven't checked it out, but I imagine from youcantspell's post that it's plunged into the depths of vileness that you mention.

So is Mumsnet.

It really is no different to this place. MNers use bigger words and spell better than most Tattlers, but the level of abuse is the same.

Alice Evans is a dumpster fire and the people on those threads call out her frankly appalling behaviour and attitude. It can be interesting. Depending on your point of view.

I think that many people don’t realise what goes on with some of these influencers and there does need to be a place to discuss it. Mumsnet doesn’t allow for much discussion on this kind of thing.

I find it shocking that someone like Chris Ingham is still being gifted holidays, that the same family sell £200 dolls of their children to vulnerable fans, film their children in hospital in distress and upload it to YouTube as entertainment for strangers . That’s just one family there are plenty more of them out there selling their kids in order earn a few pounds and encouraging people to buy products that they proclaim are amazing but will never be seen once they’ve been paid. It’s so fake and toxic.

Whoops....not my intention and I didn't realise there would be so many responses! 😬

That was I response to PP suggesting I've increased traffic to Tattle today.

I wouldn't worry. I doubt many will stay on there after a first look.