To think Tattle is disgusting?

[Irishgene]

I was just searching for a lady I have followed on Instagram for some time (The Nurse Mum) who's little boy Jaxon sadly died. She's doing a ball event and I wanted to find out more info......anyway, after putting her name into Google I came across a website called Tattle with her name there. I've never seen this website before but having gone onto it my god it's awful! Such evil spouting from women about other people....I couldn't read on it was just so horrible and contrived.

How is something like that allowed to operate? Makes some of the 'harsh' comments on here look lovely 😕

This is actually a really good point. IMO, MN can be incredibly toxic. Just look at any thread in AIBU.

I posted a dating query and the amount of vitroil & insults directed to me was crazy (thank you to the many posters who gave helpful replies). To be clear, I got a 70:30 split on the poll so it's not like my question was clearly me being a dick

I was suprised by how nice & helpful posters are to each other on tattle. No one gets torn to shreds or bullied.

Well done, OP, you probably boosted their membership loads today 👍

Is it useful to compare what is essentially a Parenting Chat forum with Tattle? They aren't supposed to be the same thing are they? Tattle Life is a commentary website on public business social media accounts (their words). MN is 'by parents for parents'.

TBH, you can see similar posts on mumsnet, but towards other users.

Of course it will

Plenty think mn is bad news, at some point people need to stop trying to police the internet, unfollow what they don’t like, stop engaging instead and let other people do their thing

The best way to make sure something sticks around is threads like this anyway

That get deleted as personal attacks...

Well the name of the site is a good indicator...

Well the name of the site is a good indicator...

I guess so, tittle tattle and gossip. If that's your bag and you don't mind not having adblocker that is.

Exactly - it's a gossip site.

If you don't like to gossip...why would you go on there and then moan about it? Daft!

Yep, I also agree. From what I've seen of Tattle, the posters are actually really supportive of and kind to each other. They may be gossiping about "influencers" (who make a living conning susceptible people and monetising their own children) but the atmosphere of the site is decidedly less toxic than here. No snobbery or one-upmanship either.

I wonder if it's the copious use of emojis thay has riled so many of you up? We all know Mumsnetters really look down their noses at such frivolity...! So common!

I think that a big difference between Tattle and Mumsnet is that on Tattle there's a huge amount of venom towards specific women in the public eye. Whereas on Mumsnet there's a lot of venom from posters towards other posters.

Alice Evans' feet were discussed a few days ago on Tattle. The hate towards her is gob smacking, but because she hasn't posted anything on her social media accounts for a few days the Tattlers were having to really scrape the bottom of the barrel to continue their discussions of her!

I guess I shouldn't be surprised that you can't link to Tattle on Mumsnet, as the opposite is also true...! Haha

Thread will be zapped soon anyway

See the many many threads which turn into a pile on to OP and stay up.

Well, Clemmie got outed and this restored balance in the multiverse, so Tattle stays...

There does need to be reports, maybe they aren’t being reported. 🤷‍♀️

I posted a dating query and the amount of vitroil & insults directed to me was crazy (thank you to the many posters who gave helpful replies). To be clear, I got a 70:30 split on the poll so it's not like my question was clearly me being a dick

I think that's the difference with Tattle. The first couple of posts on MN tend to dictate the tone of the whole thread so anyone who agrees or disagrees will be unlikely to put their head above the parapet for fear of getting a pasting. I've done it myself when I've seen the way a thread is going. I won't bother entering the fray because it's not worth it.

Tattle has reaction emojis, so you can agree or disagree that way and there tends to be less attacking of individual posters. You can't change username either, so if you come and bitch plop, you have to stick by it. Just my opinion, but it's a much more friendly forum than Mumsnet.

What I've found bizarre is the time and effort and just thoughts the people who are on there hating on the people they talk about, like u can have an issue with what they are doing (exploiting children etc) but to comment every new post they do and comment on clothes , face , body is just so weird to me. If ur hobby is ripping apart people for fun then I would argue u need a new hobby , which isn't do toxic, surely its not healthy.

Only in so far as coming on to this site to complain about how awful it is Over There, when this site is equally as nasty at times. Feels hypocritical and lacking in awareness.

If you actually read any of the threads you would see some of the terrible things some influencers do.

Scamming charities, ripping off vulnerable people, selling their kids semi naked bodies online.

Yes there are some threads that are just plain bitchy but a lot of it is eye opening.

This. They sometimes go too far - but the same happens here. MN doesn't exactly have a saintly image.

If you choose to be an influencer then typically you are using your own life to make money, sometimes in underhand ways. You are commoditising yourself and quite often your children as well. If you pursue fame you have to accept that not everyone will adulate you without question. Why shouldn't there be a forum for criticism?

@Irishgene I too followed nurse mum. I read the tattle thread a while back and it was quite eye opening. Whilst some of it is bullying and nastiness, a lot of it is finding the truth out in influencer lies. Xx

Come on now.

A cesspit and the worst of humanity is not a bunch of lasses on a forum talking about how influencers are ripping us all off. You must have led a pretty sheltered life if that's what you think.

The thing is, people are right,there is a nasty side to MN as well.

I've also seen threads on Tattle that are absolutely fine, and threads where the users are shocked by the hatred expressed on other threads for particular people in the public eye.

I agree that those in the public eye have to accept the bad with the good and if they're going to open up their lives it's reasonable to expect criticism. But those people who post viciousness about the way someone looks? About their children? Those who say someone they dislike deserves horrible things happening to them?

That's out of order, imo. And the mob mentality does come into play there - it creates a space where such venom is acceptable. People forge friendships by sharing nastiness about others and when they run out of material for criticism they resort to bullying. That's not ok.

The difference, I think, with what I've seem with this site is when that happens here - as it does - moderators step in. Not always in good time, but they do seem to react to shut down hate and bullying.

And re the comment about gender criticism on this site- it's not censored. I'm not gc myself but I don't go around reporting all those posts that espouse the opposing views to mine because I respect free speech, and given the overwhelming number of gc posts that remain, others do too.