Refusing to pay back my "friends " mum money I owe aibu?

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6 months ago I borrowed a friend £300 and they promised to pay me back.
I didn't pressure them and mentioned it after 5 months ..to be told "I can't right now"
This person now has plenty of money(I won't go into detail how but she does)
She said she would give me them on her pay day (28th )
Pay day came and went and she didn't give me a penny and said she would have to take it from the kids school uniform money and did I want her to do it.
Whilst the day before uploading pics of new trainers she bought herself and designer glasses.

We bought concert tickets and she put them on her mums credit card £100 in June.
I said great il pay on my pay day.
My pay day came and she asked for the £100
I was fuming and said "just take it out of the £300 you owe me and just give me £200

All hell broke loose calling me a thief and told her mum I was refusing to pay her
Writing all over Facebook how you can't trust anyone blah blah

Aibu ?

I would make sure everyone knows she owes you three hundred quid....she is no friend...she is a user and a thief.

Go to her mum and explain, she might be able to help sort it. Sounds like 'friend' has bad form with money

I would pay her DM the money owed.

disagree.....I understood poster said she would pay on her payday.....as a way of highlighting its what her friend had promised too.....so basically doing the same to her.

I had a ‘friend’ like this, maybe it’s the same person 🤔 She borrowed £130 a year ago and after a lot of drama she went nc after she was sacked from place where we worked together.
don’t give her anything, at least you got £100 back 😃

Tell her she sets up a payment plan or you take her to the small claims court.

Don’t pay her. At least you’ll get £100 back. Why are you going anywhere with her?

This! Also maybe a good idea to tell the mum you can't pay her yet and why. Did the friend's mum even know she was lending you money?

Agree with this

Reply to her on Facebook that she's never paid you back. She's got a cheek!

I don't see the relevance of an English degree.

Start your own social media posts, stating the truth. Fight fire with fire. In fact, when she posted pics of the glasses and trainers, that is when you should have outed her. I cannot believe you still wanted to go to a concert with her. I would speak to her mum.

Who did you say you’d pay the money back to? It reads like the ‘friend’. In which case the contract is with the friend by the sound of it. Where she got the money from is not your concern.

Say you can't afford to pay the £100 until she pays you back the £300.

I was in a similar position many years ago when I lent a friend money for a holiday(we were going together) I was far from rich, but didn’t want to go on holiday alone.
It took 18 months to get the money back. She made no effort to pay me back and continued to spend her own wages freely. After lots of awkward hints about not being able to afford to go out etc .. , her boyfriend kindly paid me back the money. She sulked a bit about it after and I do wonder if she just thought it was a free holiday, even though I had used the word “lend”. I think some people don’t take it seriously. Lesson learnt there, Nowadays I have even less money so it’s not a problem anymore!

I would so write this 🤣

Personally I would go see her mum. I would check the story out. I would also tell her mum she owes you money. If it was her mums card pay her mum. Then I would have nothing to do with her again. You dont need friends like that.

it’s not fair that her mum is left without due to her daughter. If you had said when booking the tickets that you’d rather your friend pay her mum out of the money owed, that’s fair enough.

Your ‘friend’ is a CF and you may have to accept that you have lost £300 and a friend, which is no fault of your own but a lesson not to lend friends that kind of money again. Sorry this has happened, when it was a nice gesture from you.

This ^ forgot to quote in my last post…..

Nope. The English dictionary doesn't vary from town to town. You might 'say' it, but that doesn't make it grammatically correct.

Why are you all advising to pay the mum back when I guarantee half of you wouldn’t do that if someone owes you money…..i would tell her to return your £300 then you can pay her mother out of that!

OP come back and tell us who you were seeing in concert please 😀

@SheSaidHummingbird

Nobody said it was grammatically correct. But, as this is an online chat forum and not the 11 plus, there is no need for posts to be grammatically correct, and using regional slang is completely acceptable. Much like how ‘nope’ isn’t really the dictionary correct language.

God, I really never knew there were so many sad, sanctimonious little dicks on here.

You should pay her mum directly for the tickets and then seek the return of the money from your "friend". Do you have any evidence of the transfer. If so you can threaten to go to the small claims court.

Screw that, I wouldn’t give her a penny. She needs to pay back the money she owes you. I would comment on social media that she owes you £300 and you will happily pay her mum the £100 once you have that. She is a cheeky rude cow, that’s no friend.