Was I BU when I confronted this young man

[48YearsYoung]

My daughter is in year 10 and works at a chain food store. When she finishes work, she sometimes goes to the other big chain next to her workplace. This afternoon, she went there and was served by a boy from her class. When he got her drink, he took it back and shoved a wooden spoon in it and told her to go kill herself. When she told me, I went back to the store and asked to speak to the manager and the young man together. I introduced myself and recounted the events back to them both and then gave him a calm, but stern and serious talking to. I should mention that he constantly taunts and belittles the girls at school and often tells them to kill themselves. He was humble and apologetic and made no excuses. I spoke separately to the manager afterwards and apologized for insisting to speak with them both as I'm sure it was embarrassing for him. I felt it had to be done. Now that I've reflected, I realise I will feel bad if he loses his job though he will likely pay her out at school tomorrow. Did I do the wrong thing? My daughter didn't have a problem with it.

You did the right thing. This type of behaviour is serious, and it’s happening more now than ever. I, personally, am sick and tired of listening to the way kids speak to one another and it’s high time
that their parents, grandparents, family and friends call them out on it. It should not be happening in schools, parents/carers need to get a grip and be far more involved in their child’s lives and understand how they’re speaking to their friends and peers - it should be stopped at home, we can’t keep running to teachers to fix poor parenting 😡

Set boundaries, standards and expectations, apply them fairly and consistently and put in place sanctions when necessary!

Make school aware too so he can be supported and the harm he does limited to both yo ur daughter and other girls

In this situation your dd was a customer. If he can’t put his twattishness aside in his job then his manager needs to know.

Yanbu. (I’d speak to the school also).

I’m appalled, op.
If I was his manager, he’d have been out so fast his bullying little feet wouldn’t have touched the floor.
Awful thing to say to someone.

You have helped him. Noone else is taking these shitty internet-addled kids in hand. He won't forget it and he will hopefully think about what he does a bit more from now. I think you were very right to do this. It's an extremely serious and disgusting thing to say to anyone and kids need to know this.

Do not feel bad, OP
If I was his boss He would be dismissed
Horrible little Oik

You're nice aren't you ??
Not

You his mother ?

What?

He's lucky that's all you did. Lose his job? He should be prosecuted for assault.

Have you spoken to the school? Do you intend to? No WAY would I stand for ANY repercussions to be allowed toward your dd tomorrow. Not a chance. The school would be fully aware of the events and I'd expect/ demand that they act to protect your dd from this boy throughout the foreseeable. His actions have consequences and he would do well to learn that. I hope he loses his job- he shouldn't be working in a public serving role where he uses his position to taunt others- he's not mature nor nice enough for customer service. Teenagers HAVE acted on taunts to "kill themselves" and his disgusting behaviour could have far worse consequence than (fairly) loosing his job.

"Apparently he says that women are just here to be slaves to men and they should be treated that way. My DD and friends say he is not joking when he says this stuff."
It's very likely he's been sucked into incel stuff on the Internet. He could grow up into a very unpleasant, dangerous adult if there isn't some kind of intervention.

It may well be learned behaviour from his home life which is unfortunate but that attitude should be pushed back on in the real world so he might get some idea that it's not correct.