Does anyone think there baby isn't cute

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Does anyone out there actually think there baby isn't the cutest or good looking ? I don't have children but have always wondered this hope I don't offend anyone

@pierpoint have you ever seen those threads on Facebook where some usually scammy looking company asks for children to be a child model? It's just a string of people posting pictures of their very average children, gushing over how gorgeous they are, and I can hear the shouting in my head 'hey you guys!'

Not going to lie, when I was pregnant, I worried that my baby would be a big ugly thing like a wee sumo wrestler. I was measuring about 2 weeks ahead since about 28 weeks pregnant and she was 9 days late. She ended up being only 6lb 7oz and a gorgeous wee thing. When she opened her eyes more, they were so bright and beautiful and her wee gummy smiles were so cute! I was then worried she wouldn't be as cute when her teeth started coming in...she's now 8 months old, has 2 bottom teeth and the top ones are coming in - she's still so beautiful! In my very biased opinion anyway! Nobody has argued with me in all fairness though!

My baby , like all new borns , looked like a tiny alien when he was born. Once he chubbed up a bit he became very cute. We get comments all the time on how adorable he is.

I knew there were aspects to DD that other people didn't find cute but I thought they were mad and that it's just as well we all have mothers to think we're just lovely even if the rest of the world doesn't agree.

Exactly the same situation. DC2 isn't exactly a potato but definitely not as stunning as DC1 was since birth at 39 weeks as DC2 was at 40+2. DC1 was subjected to stares and whispers about beautiful big eyes and still is 6 years later 😜

There’s an old Irish saying is geal leis an londubh a gearrcach féin that I fear will sound racist when translated but is not meant to be racist at all, it’s basically saying that every mother thinks her child is beautiful, but the literal translation is “the blackbird thinks her chick is brightly coloured”. It epitomises this thread for me!

It's terrible when a parent shows you their new baby, full of pride, and the baby is hideous. I've had this happen twice. One was bald, chinless and grumpy-looking, the other was very big and long boned. Fortunately both the mums were besotted and oblivious.

It's terrible when a parent shows you their new baby, full of pride, and the baby is hideous.

In all fairness I've never seen a hideous baby. I can always plausibly say they are adorable, even if it is really the new family unit which is adorable rather than the angry squashed little features on the baby.

My ds was an absolutely gorgeous baby, extremely cute. It used to get commented on all the time. He was born with a full head of hair with a little natural quiff that grew out when he was about 2! He's now 16 and very handsome with perfect features. He now cringes when people comment on his good looks!

I’m amazed by how many MN posters have teenage model sons!

Ds was a 'pretty' baby. Midwife got broody over him. Now a lovely but not handsome teenager, the teenage years did not go in his favour. No doubt will change again late teens/early 20's.

my boy looked just like gollum when he was born and my girl like an angry potato with a lot of hair!

DS1 was IUGR and we both thought he looked like a little alien. He never looked really 'baby' like and is more handsome than cute.
DS2 is very conventionally cute and I suspect that's why he gets away with things- he has this huge blue eyes that old ladies and random strangers feel the need to comment on. He barely sleeps through the night (very occasionally he treats us) nearly aged 4 though - you can't have everything 🤣🤣

Haha, I have wondered this. I have two friends who are each other's best mates, and had their first babies (both boys) within a couple of weeks of each other. Now toddlers of nearly three.

Toddler one has been gorgeous from day one - child model material. Tall with blonde curls, rosy cheeks, big green eyes with long dark lashes and perfect features.

Toddler two is extremely slight and short, with a kind of... alien shaped head, pale to the point of being translucent with barely any hair still and oddly tiny features other than bulging eyes.

It sounds awful but I do wonder how the mum of toddler two feels about it - we share a lot of friends and toddler one is always getting gushing comments on pics on FB or in real life whereas toddler two... not so much. I always comment that he's cute etc and his mum always posts how gorgeous he is, but realistically she must realise and feel a bit crappy about it??

As an aside, based on photos I was hideous as a baby (I looked like an angry baby pig with squinty eyes and a massive nose) but my mum still maintains I was utterly beautiful!

@sammylady37

The Arabic equivalent is: shadi bil en umm ar gazal (bad transliteration). Literally: A monkey in the eye of its mother is a gazelle.

Most of these old sayings sound pretty bad nowadays tbh.

My boys are going to be lookers when they grow up but my god, absolute goblins.

I love every podgy lugubrious wrinkly inch of them.

Both were pretty unattractive from birth to about 3 months! But then I would say my eldest son was beautiful! My youngest took longer to grow into his face! Maybe a year! But I think all babies are cute just some can be a bit ugly too!

I wonder where all of these Adonis teenagers live because I only see gawky, awkward, greasy haired spotty looking adolescents when I’m out!

@DangerouslyBored Perhaps a better question would be does anyone actually think their teenager isn't attractive? My mum told me I was very pretty when I was a teenager. I WAS NOT. I had bad skin, hadn't grown into my facial features properly and had no idea how to care for my extremely thick 3B curls. I got dramatically better looking in college.

My babies were the cutest ever. So There 😆

My DD smiles at everyone when we're out and because of this attracts a lot of attention. They often tell me that she's gorgeous (I mean I think so!) and that she looks like me. It's the biggest boost to my self-esteem ever 😆

Neither of mine were attractive as babies. I knew that at the time. However they became more attractive the older they got, were lovely children and are now very attractive adults in their 30's.

A colleague of mine had a very different looking baby, when she took him to the office to show him around, there were no words exchanged but there were glances exchanged from around the room as if we were thinking the same thing, like did he have some form of deformity or illness she hasnt mentioned. I know that sounds really bitchy but it was as if his face was so squished that his cheeks, nose and lips all overlapped, he had really small sunken eyes and was extremely wrinkly, with dry skin cracks in the folds. I had honestly never seen a baby look like that.

Anyway he is 6 months now and from her fb pics he is very cute and his face has somehow all spaced out and his eyes have desunk.

But I do wonder if she noticed that he had some unfortunate features as a baby, but it's not something anyone can really ask!

My old colleague had a premature baby. We saw pics of when he was first born then met him a few months later. One person in the office who was not known for tact said, "Oh, he looks like a baby now! Not like a...a...." The mother said,
"A wizened monkey? I know."

I knew objectively that my DS was a beautiful baby, incredibly photogenic, constantly stopped by well meaning folk saying I should get him into modelling etc. While my DD was a funny looking little thing, like a potato with a ginger afro and red cheeks ….but I found them both adorably cute anyway!