Does anyone think there baby isn't cute

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Does anyone out there actually think there baby isn't the cutest or good looking ? I don't have children but have always wondered this hope I don't offend anyone

Being a middle-aged woman at work, I dread younger colleagues coming in with their newborns and having some weird idea that older women are just dying to hold their warm, slightly moist, often smelly, spitty, sicky, cradle-cappy infant.
An ex-pupil came into school, about 9 months after leaving, with her new baby, her mother phoned later to complain that I hadn't shown enough interest or enthusiasm for her prodigy. As I'd just got my end of year tax paid statement I definitely wasn't drooling!

TBH most babies always looks weird the first few weeks of their lives and then they grow into their looks.

One of mine was very late and very big and didn't have that weird, wrinkly, newborn look. He looked like a 4 week old.

DS was really sweet and cute, but he had a cone head going on from a ventouse delivery and looked a bit like an extra from Cocoon. He's the spitting image of his dad now in his 20s and the cone is no more.

I fucking adore babies. Tbh I'm a "kid" person, I'd rather be on the beach with kids than out with friends etc. I just find the little gremlins gorgeous company.
I went to our local food Hall recently and a family were shouting. They were the stero typical poor scouse family with mild learning disabilities, (not judging I know of them through work) and they had a really "quirky" looking baby. But I was just drawn to his smile as his dad was crouching down to give him attention, he obviously had something not right with him, but he had an amazing smile. The mother who was yelling at other people dining (fuck knows why tbh, she was just on one 🤣) saw me smiling at her little one and called me over. (DP was expecting me to end up getting punched or something) anyway I said, "he's beautiful, congratulations!" And they explained he wouldn't be able to see me and if I wanted to I could say hello to him face to face. I did, they told me he was awaiting special glasses, once he could see a face close up, he was so perfect, so animated. His parents said they didn't really get anyone chatting about his looks because people were concerned they'd offend them, but to his parents he was just perfect, you could see how proud they were of him and were quite happy that someone else had seen his enchanting grin as opposed to his straining expressions.
I know that's not what you asked, but I just think all kids have something perfect about them ♥️

My mum always says that when my brother was born, she was aware that he wasn't a 'pretty' baby but that she thought he was adorable anyway. But she certainly knew he wasn't going to win any bonny baby competitions, put it that way. By the time he was about three months old he was much cuter but he was quite a big baby and it was a home birth so he was quite squashed-looking when he emerged. He basically looked like WC Fields.

That's so sweet @Lwren. I'm that person always making faces at babies, babies are lovely and cute if they have a great smile, even if they're not so pretty.

My health visitor actually said she’s the prettiest baby she’s seen which was sweet.

This sounds really shallow but when I see other parents post about their ‘beautiful’ babies I do wonder, do you genuinely believe your baby is objectively beautiful to the world or are just saying that because your meant too? Because these babies are bald and plain. They all look similar.
Then I read the comments that say ‘beautiful prince’ etc and I think aren’t we seeing the same thing? An average at best baby?

@SpicyMama honestly my eyes rolled so far back in my head reading this it's amazing I'm still upright.

My gran always laughs about the fact that when one of her children was born, a friend came to see her, looked into the cot and retreated saying 'oh well, she'll improve'. Fortunately was right and the baby grew into a nice looking child and adult.

DD looked like this until she turned 1.

I thought my DS looked like a bald imp as a baby, his personality made him cute. He now looks like a toddler Winston Churchill most of the time, but his cheeky grin is still the cutest! Most parents I know who have objectively ugly babies are constantly gushing about how gorgeous they are 😁. I don't subscribe to "every baby is beautiful", not every baby/ child/ adult is and that's fine. There are more important things than how conventionally attractive you are, I'm no oil painting!

I thought DD1 looked like a little hairy old man at first and DD2 like a hairless alien, but decided to love them anyway! I can tell you now as teenagers they are absolutely stunning girls.

I remember being amazed that DS was so beautiful as a newborn - looking at the pictures now, he was your standard red faced angry little Winston Churchill lookalike, but with hairier ears.

I think I still have mummy-goggles on to some extent, because when I see a photo of him with his friends I suddenly notice how gangly he is.

Mine was cute (not a stunning Pears-type child, just cute) but she had weirdly enormous thumbs! She seems to have grown into them now but they really were a bit alarming.

DD had baby acne and I still thought she was lovely. DP described it (the acne not the baby) as "unsightly" and kept trying to clean her face with baby wipes!

Fortunately it lasted about 2 weeks only and now of course now at 18 months she is beautiful! As @RenegadeMatron pointed out this is what happens to all our newborns! I think she has the loveliest face in the world and absolutely love what she looks like. But i will concede that in a photo next to one of our friends who has what i would say is a "textbook beautiful toddler" DD probably isn't the most conventionally attractive of the pair. But i still prefer DD's looks over friend's baby. Becuase it's her lovely face!

My DD was a really cute baby, my DS looked like my DHs brother when he was a newborn which was hilarious but he wasn't very cute, he turned into the cutest older baby/toddler though 😂

I don't want her to be too harsh since this is an anonymous forum after all @SpicyMama

But don't be the stereotypical smug woman who has a mixed race child and fetishises their features. I'm sure your dd is pretty but it's not a great quality to go around thinking your child is soooo much prettier than all the other ' bald and plain' babies. And it won't help your dd with either.

I'm biracial myself and my children are mixed.

See the thing is, in the same way that you think your baby is beautiful and people tell you your baby is beautiful. Other people see their babies as beautiful and other people will tell them that too, because it's polite.

I must confess to finding this absolutely hilarious 😂.

In my case, DC was a skinny, pugnacious little creature with a bloodcurdlingly loud scream right from birth (to the extent that I'd have people coming up to me and asking if my baby was ok when DC was just grousing a bit). As DC was a terrible sleeper for the first few months, I felt more like I was being held hostage by a small angry, red-faced alien than like cooing over my beautiful baby. But somewhere along the way we learnt to rub along together and, although I would not say DC is conventionally beautiful, they've grown into themselves and have lots of character and determination. Also, it's a bit of an unreasonable thing to expect, given their genes are half me, half DH 😁!

DC's grandmother, on the other hand, has always been besotted with DC. I remember her referring to another (very placid, lovely and conventionally pretty) baby as a 'potato' when we took DC to be weighed at around 4 months because this baby was lying contentedly cooing and smiling while DC was trying their utmost to wriggle off the table.

I thought both boys were beautiful as babies. Neither were wrinkly newborns and DS2 had perfect skin. When I look back at photos they weren’t ugly ugly newborns but they did get cuter.
We regularly get stopped by random strangers so they can admire DS2 so I think he might be one of the cute ones now. As I expect family and friends to say he is lovely but not random people.
My cousin recently had a baby and all I can see is a fat squishy, hairy blob in the photos. A cute newborn is rare luckily most of them are cute by six months.

My son looked like a roswell style alien. He was born at 37 weeks. Such a thin triangular face! It kind of shocked me! He grew chubby and cute later, but I remember once when he was ten months old and he had cradle cap and his checks were almost weeping pus from teething, I thought "omg, only a mother could love this face!"

I vividly remember looking at my brand new firstborn (maybe on day 2?) and saying "Oh sweetie, I think you are the best ever, but people will think you look like a stone." An ugly stone.

A few days later it evened out and he became pretty.

I thought.

Looking back he still looked like a newborn, nit very cute.

My husband swears to this day he was the most gorgeous baby.

My 2 were not the cutest newborns but they evened out when the decreased. I knew they looked a bit rough post birth and said so. They are lovely now though but I am more than a little biased.

I find that it is very rare to find a toddler or a child who are strikingly beautiful to the point of stopping their parents to comment.

Lucky MumsNet, where all the mothers of stunningly beautiful children have come to rest - some of which reluctantly admitted their children to be fugly as babies, but of course the parents didn't notice then either.

I so hope the irony is not missed...

My MIL always says she had the most beautiful children in the world as if it's a fact.
I find that so braggy. Yes, YOU think they were beautiful but not everyone else does.

Also they were both very strange looking babies

Also, it's a bit of an unreasonable thing to expect, given their genes are half me, half DH 😁!

Same - I'm frankly relieved DS looks average!