should Dd 13 have a tv in her room?

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Dd dad walked out on us in January. We are both doing well.

dd now wants a tv in her room, but I feel like she is a bit too young to be in her room all the time. i often give her free reign of the living room and tv and go to my room to watch tv

Aibu? At what age did you child have a tv in their room?

for context Dd has a phone and gaming platforms which she is allowed in her room

From our open toilet window , we can see the tv in the 14 year old's bedroom next door. It's often still on at 1am on a school night. We didn't allow tvs in the bedrooms until they'd passed their GCSEs

Nope, no and no. Maybe back when there were only four channels to choose from and even then they switched off overnight. Now we have hundreds. Putting aside the content of some programmes and films past the watershed, you obviously haven't come across the seriously dodgy channels (and no, you don't have to pay for them).

My kids do - we all like to watch different stuff, saves the arguments! I do not see it as a distraction

The only rooms I don't have a TV is the bathrooms.

i don’t think it really matters if you’re letting her have her gaming stuff and her phone/tablet in her room. They’re both way more dangerous than her ability to watch Love Island!

Tv’s in all the rooms here. Have done since the kids were about 10. All their friends the same.

I had a tv for my 13tb birthday. Only 4 channels then! My DD's have never had TVs but had tablets around 10 years old and smartphones about 14 years old

My 3 all had TVs from about 11/12 I think. They haven’t disappeared to their rooms forever and there were no issues with gcse or a levels in terms of studying or results.
Just do what suits your family OP

My DC all have them. We are together most of the time but everyone needs some alone time sometimes. And I don’t want to watch stranger things.

I tell them when to turn them off if they are watching in the evening, and they do. The control is still there.

My kids have their own tvs in their rooms and hasn't caused any issues.

My two are 7 and 9 and have had tvs in their bedrooms for about a year. Doesn't cause any issue. Barley watch it in there tbh they still prefer chilling in the living room.

My DD got one when she was 10. Just a TV. No gaming or you tube but has Netflix set with parental control. I remove the remote control when it is bed time or she has homework to do, or as a punishment. It gives her a bit of freedom away from her sister which I feel is needed as she gets older. We still spend a lot of time together as a family but this just gives her a little space and independence.

I do not like having a TV in our bedroom (but we do, because DH won that argument). It makes me feel like I'm in a bedsit, and reminds me of the dodgy houseshares I lived in as a young adult. However, I had a TV and video player in my bedroom as a teenager, (from age 14) and I loved it. It made me feel grown up and like I had my own space. I was very good at not watching too late though (my parents would have heard if I did) - I was much more likely to be reading into the small hours. So I suppose you will know if your daughter will be able to manage her bedtime etc. with the added temptation!

@TomBradysLeftKneecap I agree with this, particularly the gaming if she can chat with strangers.

dd now wants a tv in her room, but I feel like she is a bit too young to be in her room all the time. i often give her free reign of the living room and tv and go to my room to watch tv

What's the difference between her being alone in the living room or alone in her room?

Exactly.I think it's fine too. I have a huge TV in my bedroom so I can watch whatever I want too. I don't see it as 'isolation' just a break from watching tv downstairs. Not everyone wants to watch the same thing.
My DC had TVs in the bedrooms as teens, and now they have them for gaming. Most stuff they watch now is on laptops.

It's a no from me. What is she watching that's so insufferable you can't ensure it for an hour after tea or over lunch etc? So I'd say you're happy for her to watch her stuff but you can watch together or she can watch whilst you read etc.

Now isn't the time I'd want her to have an excuse to lock herself away endlessly

I don't agree with TVs in bedrooms full stop.

That's rubbish. Not all children have TVs in their rooms & poverty shaming is unpleasant.

I'd agree with the comments that's it's not so great for prolific gamers.

But our DD has a tv in her room since younger, though initially only for DVDs, significant health problems made it a necessity. It hasn't affected her schooling at all, she's done brilliantly in all exams

Oh & I agree with others, at 13 it's quite normal for their peers to have their own tv

I had a tv in my room for my 13th birthday BUT this was in 1997 so there were only 4 channels I could watch. Mostly I watched the big breakfast while getting ready for school.

At the moment we don't have a tv in our room and I don't think I'd let my kids have one now.

What's the difference between her watching TV alone in her room, and watching tv in the livingroom alone while you're in your room watching yours?
I don't think 13 yos should be forced to spend all evening watching TV with their parents, I'd rather my kids watch their shows that I'm not into in their own rooms.