Husband rage

[Tessabelle74]

Just lost my sh#t at my husband and kids because I'm sick of doing everything around the house. My husband told me not to talk to him for the rest of the day because of my silly little attitude. AIBU to ask where I can dispose of a rolled up rug I no longer need?

My kids have chore charts but in my absence, when I'm at work, my husband doesn't ensure they do them so I have to come home and "nag" them. The row is about me having to constantly chase them or do stuff that is time sensitive as they haven't done it. Final straw today was when he came in from the garden to tell me someone needed to do the dog poo, and when I suggested he got a bag and did it, he got an arse on and said he couldn't because he was lighting the BBQ 🙄 I'm not a martyr, I don't really do everything but it's always be having to ensure I don't!

Oh and "I lost my shit" as in I sat them down and read them the riot act that I refuse to do anything that's on the chore chart for someone else to do, I didn't verbally abuse anyone, I told them exactly how things will be from now on 🙄

@ulteriorbread I'm going to remind myself daily that I'm not a skivvy! Like most women I'm too used to just doing stuff if it doesn't get done, I'm going to be more like my husband and step over the mess and ignore the jobs I'm not on the new and improved chore list to do

peridito · Today 19:55
How did that work out Lizzie ?

Really well! I don’t know why I didn’t do it earlier because it was such an easy way to organise things. The jobs just became second nature to everyone and it made for a much happier household.

He's in need of a silly little divorce.

oh please! Op is the one that exploded and she is the victim?? Typical MN BS 🙄

Well she is partly responsible for her children getting away with it, or is she a victim there too?

Wow

You martyred yourself and snapped

Agree with this, and I am someone who knows martyrdom when she sees it, having practised it for many years.

Loosing your shit does NOT make you an abuser!! Ffs people can only take so much before snapping in not very nice ways!. Even in cases of domestic violence, women can end up "loosing their shit" and retaliating, that doesn't make them the abuser, even in a court of law!

There is a meme on Facebook that says when you see me shouting at tue kids to do something, please know l have already asked them about 100 times to do it.

That is how l feel sometimes.

My dd seems to wait until l get cross to do something then wonders why l am annoyed.

Hope things change OP.

Case in point. I emptied the bin yesterday! Normally I moan at them then empty it. Now I'm going to ignore it. Yes I did snap, but sitting them down a reading the riot act is NOT tying them to a chair and waterboarding them or beating them with my slipper to make them do stuff. I'll just quietly do my jobs and ignore the rest

Exactly what I thought.

These pearl-clutching others are being silly.

Ikr?
Pretty telling.

If a man lost his shit at his wife in a rage your response would be different.

Thats because when a women says they lost their shit it more often than not means they got upset and/frustrated and told their family what they needed - sometimes shouting at them but not always

When a man says they lost their shit more often than not it involves them getting angry and physically aggressive (punching a wall, throwing things even if not physically aggressive directly to people)

The response on here is often different because the same words mean different things

How old are your children? If their father is useless they are a lost cause as well. I feel sorry for you.

Apparently, yes.

@ulteriorbread I've explained what I meant by "losing my shit" and the title is "husband rage" because THIS THREAD is my rage, or rant or blowing off steam however you describe it. My youngest child is 6 and I would NEVER scream or throw stuff etc anywhere near my kids, I did NOT rage in front of them, I came on here to rage instead!