To be offended by a comment my friend made?

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Hello :)

So I am getting a gorgeous French Bulldog puppy in a couple of weeks. I was discussing this with a very good friend of mine, about how I'm excited.. yadayada. So I then asked her "Would you ever get a dog or want to own a pet?". She immediately began to burst out laughing and said "No! I want to enjoy my life". A bit I asked "What do you mean by that?"- she then said "As I said it... I want to enjoy my life, owning a pet- particularly a dog, I wouldn't get the spontaneity back, I would be worried about leaving it in the house for too long, paying for this and that, having to take it for walks when I don't feel like it. Sometimes- out of the whim, I just want to book a holiday but with a pet, I will have to think about who is going to take care of it, dog sitters...I may get a cat as they are a bit more independent but still, a pet comes with a lot of responsibility".

I think subconsciously she is trying to sway my decision from getting a pet or do you think she's a tad jealous. I was a bit offended by her comment but she can be very out there/too honest for my liking. What do you all think?

I am very very aware of the risks associated with French Bulldogs and I am happy to take on those risks.

You aren’t the one who is going to suffer though. It’s so irresponsible to do no research into the breed before committing to one.

I hope they are banned in this country soon:

www.petsradar.com/news/french-bulldog-pug-ban-uk

She is not jealous and as others have said if you have not considered any of the points she raised then you should not own a pet as you have not given thought to the commitment it brings

She is actually quite right. Think about what she said and please please please don't get a French Bulldog or any of the other flat faced breeds.

I've just booked a holiday without DP as he needs to stay home to look after our dogs. He'll go skiing in the spring without me as I'll be on dog duty.

Why would she be jealous that your about to make your life 10 times harder and 10 times more expensive with a dog thats been bred to not be able to breathe?

No such thing as a reputable French Bulldog breeder

Bit insensitive of her, to pour oil on your happiness at that particular point, but...she does have a point, and honesty seems to have been what you were after. So you got it. It just wasn't what you wanted to hear.
What are you going to do if, for example, you ended up breaking your ankle and needing a 7 hour wait in A and E?

Could not agree more - and I have a vet in my family (DD)

i don’t think she’s jealous at all. I think she is right. I didn’t get a dog before I had kids. Kids already strip you freedom 🤣 so may as well get a dog! And the walk/time out walking - is a welcome!!! Your friend is right. You can’t just leave the house without thinking about the dog.

It is a huge commitment BUT it is the BEST thing I ever did! Enjoy your lovely dog.

She’s doesn’t want a dog, you do. That’s all there is to it.

My comment ^ was meant to answer PurpleMarie - I tried to include her post as a quote but I went wrong somehow

...no; DO let it stop you from going through with the purchase if your friend has given you second thoughts.

Sadly, for that breed it isn’t. My vet told me that at a recent national conference, colleagues across the country are finding that for a significant percentage, it’s only 4 to 6 years 😔

How can someone extrapolate from what the friend said to ‘she’s jealous’. The stunted emotional development you come across here, jealousy being a prime motivation for action, is startling.

She's not jealous. I totally agree with what she said and it's bloody obvious, frankly.

I think you are way too sensitive.

She is being honest.. its a lot
That said I love my dog and don't think it an imposition at all. I wouldn't be without him x she doesn't have that capacity I am guessing

She speaks the truth. Animals are a great responsibility and do hold you back, if you like to be spontaneous.

Doesn't come across as jealous or wanting you to change your mind. 🙄

This, in spades!

Grow up. She’s being honest and I wish more people had this mentality before they got a pet.

Everything she said is true.
Every. Single. Thing.
I have a dog, the first one I’ve ever owned. He adds so much to my life but he is loads of work. I would like to travel more or even get out more, but I feel guilty seeing that sad face as I leave home! My dog was a year old when I got him,so I missed the entire puppy phase. You have some hard work ahead. 😂

A very blunt response, not what you would expect a friend to say, when you are excited to get your puppy. But what your friend says is the truth, about dog ownership, it’s a huge commitment, but there are huge positives too. Good luck OP.

I don't think she's jealous OR trying to sway you (to think again) Can't you accept that you got a truthful answer to your question, yet it's you who are ignoring that and trying to put forward the jealousy/sway your mind scenario. Why ask, if you're not prepared to accept her answer?
Most of my friends, married and single across most adult ages, have pets.
I don't...and my reasons are exactly the same as your friend's reasons.
I like to please myself and you can't with pets. They need routine and they can cost a lot of money. I like my own company.
Don't try to put your own slant on it, one which suits you. She gave you her answer.

I would not be offended by this comment.

You’ll find out how right she was when you get your pup! (owner of 16 year old chihuahua and 9 mnth old PomChi).

Well You asked her xxx