Sorry for title.... didn't know how to describe it.
Been with DH 10+ years and the same argument crops up now and then. DH likes to put his hand up my top when I'm not expecting it, I.e. in the kitchen with kids in the next room. Or I'll be lying in bed reading and he'll just start twiddling my nipple, or last night I was almost asleep and he decided to start stroking my nipple out of the blue (the conversation before turning light off to sleep had been about his work so not at all romantic).
I am self conscious about my breasts and also as a mum of three young kids I don't appreciate unexpected/ unwanted touching as I am usually touched out. I've told DH I need romance and a build up to intimacy, so I'm not sure what he's expecting from these interactions. We are cuddly so there is affection but we're not intimate frequently (about once every two/three weeks).
After last night's surprise 'tweaking' he got defensive by my reaction to move away as I was just about to nod off. He told me he thinks I'm weird and that a husband should be able to touch his wife when he wants and i should enjoy it.
I think sometimes he does it to be playful and other times I think it's his way of coming onto me, but it's always out of the blue and he knows I don't like it.
Am I weird or is he overstepping the boundaries?
AIBU?
DH surprise touching my breasts?
HelloSunshine2 · 06/08/2022 09:38
Am I being unreasonable?
417 votes. Final results.
POLLDisplayPurposesOnly · 06/08/2022 11:14
Every time I read one of these posts (sadly too frequent), I like to imagine stabbing that gropey hand with a fork.
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