To throw this food shopping away???

[Cffee]

I ordered my shopping from Morrisons via Amazon prime and one of the bags had a massive fly in it.
I know flies are everywhere etc but that's pretty gross I think? It was stuff like berries, milk, hot dogs etc but I don't have any anti bac wipes and the idea of eating food that a flies been crawling and pooping and whatever else all over seems pretty grim, Aibu tk throe ther bag of shopping away?
I do have a tendency to over react so interested what others would do
(I don't particularly have the money to be throwing bags of shopping away but k also don't want us to get sick, and I don't have any anti bac wipes in to give it a wipe over)

This has to be one of the daftest things I've ever heard

To be fair she has diagnosed OCD. Hopefully after reading the posts she’ll realise that there’s no need to throw good food away.

I didn't want to spray the food with dettol because when it comes to things like this everything spirals and then I'd think I'd poisoned us all. No I'm not being goady on purpose, I've done far more ridiculous (in hindsight) things than this because of my ocd. e.g I was scared to go in my own bedroom for almost a year because I thought it had been contaminated by a battery so I slept on the sofa because I really thought if k went in there I'd die. I knew that was ridiculous too but that's how ocd works, it doesn't matter if it's ridiculous or not.
I've just come out of that really extreme period with my mental health and am mostly better now but that's why I posted to see what others would do because I can't fully trust my initial reactions to everything still
seeing the fly in the bag just really threw me off because I've lost all track of what "normal"
people would do!

Yes you're being silly! Don't waste food.

You know your fruit will have had insects crawling on it whilst growing in fields/greenhouses.

Do you set your kitchen on fire everytime a fly comes into the house?
No

Wash them with soapy water (washing up liquid) and rinse. You don’t need dettol.

@Cffee

I'm so sorry for the rude things that have been said to you. Unless they have or know someone with OCD, people are unlikely to understand how very hard living with it can be. How difficult it is to treat; how when you get one symptom under control, another is likely to pop up. Kind of like playing Whack-a-mole.
OCD isn't just hand-washing or counting or being a neat freak. It's overwhelming and embarrassing at times.

You were trying to get unbiased opinions. You wanted to know if your reaction was "normal" for most people, instead of normal for someone with OCD.

My daughter has OCD and it's been a struggle most of her life. And I have it, although not necessarily the same as hers. I never understood I had a compulsion to "confess" and how often I worry or feel guilty about things other people wouldn't brood over.

I know I've written a short story, but I you need to know some people totally get what you're going through. It may be time to talk to your doctor about upping the dosage or changing to a different medication.

I did that yesterday. after I caught myself mentally apologizing to a dented box at the grocery store. I was worried I'd hurt it's feelings if I didn't take it home. I'm having trouble with decisions- that little voice tells me that if I eat that piece of candy, I'll have an accident. Or that someone I love will. I can't decide which route to take. Which one will be safest?

I know this is not normal, but I refuse to let anyone's comments hurt me anymore. Most people have some degree of crazy about something. Some phobia that in their heart they know is unreasonable.

Oh, and for me, I would wash the fruit in a sink of diluted dish detergent. Then gently rinse and drain. I'd wipe the packages with the same thing or hand sanitizer. The bread would probably go in the trash, but that would be all.

I really hope you get some relief soon. Don't hesitate to add therapy to your medication. You can PM me anytime

.Things will get better, for sure. 😊

Your veg and fruit have flies all over them when they're growing. Food warehouses are pretty grim. A small fly is not a big deal. Wash the fruit and veg as you normally would under the water before using. Everything else is packaged so not a problem, its a none issue.

I do understand a fly making you feel off. But please don’t throw the food away.

Can you wash the containers with soapy water? And surely you wash loose fruit and veg anyway before eating it so just wash it as you normally would.

It’s no different to you having a fly trapped in your kitchen.

Having OCD doesn't make you devoid of all common sense.

The OP knows throwing it away would be pointless and wasteful - having OCD may make her unable to keep and eat it, but it doesn't make her unaware that it would be due to the OCD.

She also knew the reaction she was likely to get by asking thia question on a public forum, at a time when so many people are struggling to feed their families.

So sorry, OP, my youngest has OCD & it's life-altering.
He knows it's irrational, but can't help it. I don't think people here are quite getting it..

There is no need to judge when someone openly says they have a mental health problem. And also I think it’s dangerous to use kitchen or cleaning spray on food / fruit / veg you going to consume as it is full of chemicals not intense so for ingestion.

I don't think anyone is suggesting is suggesting cleaning products for fruit - more for the packaging. However there was a thread a while back were a poster claimed to soak her strawberries etc in Milton before eating 😬

I might have misread, if so I apologise. Oh no, Milton for fruit 😬 that’s one stop from drinking bleach against Covid 😅

Wash and rinse. You should be doing that with fruit etc anyway. I always assume that somebody may have touched them who doesn't have very good hygene habits.

Not everyone has ulterior motives. I wasn't trying to get any kind of reaction, just what other people would do really.
for me OCD does actually make me somewhat devoid of common sense-

a lorry once drove past me with containers of mystery liquid so I threw my whole outfit away if I could just simply say to myself "this is ridiculous" and not do it then I wouldn't have OCD...
I'm better with that type of stuff now but these type of more realistic situations are hard, because flies can be an actual hygiene issue so for me then it's really hard to tell what a normal reaction would be.

It threw me into a bit of a panic and actually I can't afford to be throwing my shopping away that is why I asked. I've wasted a lot of time and a lot of money that I absolutely cannot afford to be wasting because of my ocd, it's not a luxury it's a problem because I absolutely cannot afford to do things like that

Yes you are over-reacting but, i would be exactly the same. I over-react with stuff like flies, spiders etc etc. And dont get me started on a hair in my food!!!!!😩I wish i was that person who could pick it out and then eat but, i really cant!

I often pick wild rasps / brambles - there are always flies dotting around them.
You are being silly.

I know OP has ocd but fo the love of god others. Do not wash your fruits in god knows what cleaning products.

People wonder why everyone has lower immunity and digeative issues🙈

I picked a load of blackberries last week and made a bakewell cake. I tipped the blackberries straight into the mixture and whacked into the oven.

I didn't wash the blackberries first, just had a quick look to see there were no stalks still attached. I think the 45 minutes baking probably sorted out any trace of flies being on them while still on the bush.

It was delicious too!

4) I would be more worried if it was something like raw meat juices that leaked through fruit - then I would bin the fruit and any food it has spread to, but a tiny fly is not a concern.

Agree re: this

Always wash fruits and veggies. You never know where worker's hands h have been.

My teen-age cousin worked in the produce department at a grocery store. He also spent a lot of time working on engines, so his nails were always black.One night at dinner he announced that he'd spent the day washing lettuce in a sink and bagging it for sale. He held up his hands and said "Look how clean it got my hands!"

All of the black grease was gone.

Always wash fruits and veggies. You never know where worker's hands h have been.

It's more the whole 'grown outdoors/underground then transported in lorries across the country/continent' thing

I hate to tell you this, but flies have been all over any fresh food you have purchased ever, it is grown outside after all. Organic food uses manure to grow food most likely. Others often use pesticides. If any of your food comes from a country that abuses migrants to pick their food, they often don't have bathroom breaks or bathrooms close by. Make of that what you will. Also, large food production facilities have to keep everything as clean as possible, but there are just some things you can't keep out and that has most likely touched any food you have eaten. It is just a fact of life that you have to take in, process, and then get rid of any difficulties with. In other words, that is not the first fly to have touched your food and it has probably been grown in feces, sprayed with pesticides and picked by people outside all day with no way to wash their hands.