To think it's silly to refuse a C Section?

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I have been attending an NCT class didn't have one in my area with DA

I've made a good friend who has a friend who's joined us recently.

We were talking about birth plans (and how they probably won't go to plan), and her friend said 'the only thing I'm saying on there is 'NO Section'

I said what do you mean, she said 'I will refuse a section'. I said but what if it's an emergency for example baby is in distress? She said 'nope, I won't have one. Simple as that. No section means no section. I may consider it if I'm dying from something like dramatic blood loss but otherwise, no. What'll be will be with the pregnancy itself'

The conversation then moved on but AIBU to think it's a bit silly to say no section whatsoever? So many variables can happen at birth

@RedHelenB oh yes; thank goodness babies could die because they have selfish, ignorant mothers who put their own desires before the well-being of their unborn children.

Thank goodness indeed.

I can’t speak for another poster obviously, but I didn’t take that to be what RedHelen meant, so I think that’s really unfair. More like they were saying thank goodness we have bodily autonomy, even though that might occasionally lead to bad outcomes.

That's how I read it aswell.

After suffering 3 prolapses from a prolonged caginal birth I really wish I'd had a c-section!

🤷🏻‍♀️ We had an IUGR baby, who’s placenta was failing, I was not keen on a C-section or induction, but hadn’t voiced that to the consultant, regardless the consultant put it very simply ‘babies die, so we need to get this one out to make sure it doesn’t’ in hindsight as a terrified first time mum of a soon to be premature baby this was probably not the best way to explain it to us, but it was very to the point and DD (after a failed induction, that’s a whole other story) was born the next day via emergency C-section. I would have done anything to get her out safely. Much the same as when placenta issues were identified with DD2, we booked in a section as vaginal delivery was too risky. I didn’t want to be cut open but I wanted to give my babies the best chance

This is how medical consent works. As long as you have capacity, you are free to make decisions, even stupid or dangerous ones.

I sincerely hope this never becomes an issue for this woman and her baby.

If she’s delivered two children naturally then chances are higher the third will be too so hopefully her willingness to be reckless won’t be tested.

Friend of the family had two by c-section - first had been emergency very early in pg and because of that was a type much more prone to rupture so they recommended c-section for rest plus she had other complications.

Second one planned c-section all fine - third child she'd gone gradually more woo - crystals homeopathy etc and suddenly went anti- c-section she wasn't having one - freaked the HCP and her DH out as risks for her were high for a variety of reasons walked out of consultant meetings shut down MW conversations on the matter but in end she listened and agreed and had planned c-section and everything was fine.

Afterwards she seemed to block out she'd every done that - c-sections weren't big deal to recover from were often better frequently often said at other pg women - and she was the worst critic and really nasty to us for declining one despite our good reasons.

If OP friend had two VAC births chances are high she won't need one - if it's two c-sections it could just be moment fear of missing something - or if it's a mix perhaps it's based on her own recovery and experiences.