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Haunted house scaring the shit out of me

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Goawayghosts · 31/07/2022 22:23

Deliberately OTT title and I’m not into the paranormal but I’m getting freaked out in my house.

We’ve lived here 10 years. The house is only 20 years old. Built on marsh land.

A year or so after we moved in weird shit started happening. Stuff moving around, noises, dog going nuts in certain rooms, doors opening by themselves etc. DH got freaked out by it and started getting angry at me everytime I mentioned it. He outright refused to discuss it but admitted he had seen and heard the same stuff as me.

Then it all stopped. Nothing happened for years. All good.

Then, a couple of weeks ago I was messing on my phone and behind me I saw a shadow go past in the hallway out of the corner of my eye and heard it brush along the wall. The dog (different dog) flew over me barking and growling, all heckles raised. Back door was locked, there was no way anyone could have got in without me (or the dog) hearing the front door. I sent the dog around the whole house - nothing at all. I put it to the back of my mind but ever since the noises have started up again - footsteps on the first floor, doors opening and closing, muffled voices

DH has heard it too and is laughing it off saying the ghost is back but he too is randomly sending the dog into rooms and upstairs before him and telling me not to be stupid when I mention it. It’s seriously starting to freak me out.

It happened again 10 minutes ago … the sound of the floorboards creaking upstairs in the pattern of footsteps - DH looked up and muted the TV - then the sound of something being moved. I said “You’re not telling me you didn’t hear that?” And he said “I’m not getting into this shit again” and turned the TV up.

it’s a detached house, we don’t have neighbours. WTF is it??

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Mississipi71 · 01/08/2022 00:45

Sounding too much like Poltergeist 🎃

Perime · 01/08/2022 00:46

Had there been a heatwave last time you experienced this OP?

BirdWatch · 01/08/2022 00:57

Maybe swamp gas or something structural wrong in the house or the land it is on.

leisurelystroll · 01/08/2022 00:57

Discovereads · 01/08/2022 00:24

If humans can in some where detect the presence of a ghost, we would absolutely have an instrument that could capture that.

Really, and what instrument do we have that can detect emotions? None.
And yet humans can detect the vibe of a room of people…something no camera or instrument can detect (yet).

In short, we don’t (yet) have instruments that can detect all humans can sense.

You're conflating the detection of evidence with the interpretation of the evidence. A camera and microphone could capture all the information needed of a room for a human to be able to detect the 'vibe'. Same goes for emotions, that's interpretation. The data required to deduce an emotion would be easy to capture.

leisurelystroll · 01/08/2022 01:02

Discovereads · 01/08/2022 00:38

Not relevant as humans can detect dead people as well by smelling them…something we also have no artificial instrument to detect. Which is why we have cadaver dogs.

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No, we have cadaver dogs for practical purposes, their job is to locate the remains. We most certainly can detect nearby dead people using air and soil samples. That's not anything new.

mamabear715 · 01/08/2022 01:20

Lot of folk here convinced ghosts don't exist.
You'll find out eventually!
OP, ask a sensitive / medium round to the house & take it from there. Burning sage definitely can't hurt either, say a favourite prayer while you're doing it. I can't imagine a mouse would throw a big enough shadow for you to notice it as some suggest (shakes head) & you'd have found droppings somewhere in the house too.
It would be a good thing to have a carbon monoxide monitor too, not that I think for one moment that that would cause footsteps..
Good luck. x

Amandasummers · 01/08/2022 01:22

Never understand the arrogance of people who "know" xyz doesn't exist when we as a race literally have no idea how or why we came to be and we live on a giant floating ball in the middle of nothingness.....ghosts are no more impossible to exist than we are!

HobnobsChoice · 01/08/2022 01:33

VanillaIce1 · 31/07/2022 23:43

I never believed in woo stuff until my mum had a basement flat in Tooting bec . It was awful if someone lit a cigarette it would burn back somehow and cause you to drop it. Anything left on the draining board would start banging and fly off.
If you had the tv on the volume would go down and the radio would come on full blast it was horrendous and really scary. My dad doesn't believe in ghosts but even he wouldn't visit.
My mum woke up one night and saw a reflection of an old man in the mirror, she moved out a day later.
What done it for my dad was he gone into bed one night and he thought mum had got in as something lifted the cover, mattress sunk down and a cold breeze came in.

He won't talk about it at all now, he doesn't like nothing that can't be explained. Since found out they used to burn suspected witches on the common up there really sad.

The last part of this isn't anywhere neat being true on several counts.
People suspected of being witches weren't burned in England. They were tried and hanged, that was the punishment for withcraft.
Death by burning was the sentence for heresy and also for women convicted of treason including killing their husbands.
There were a number of places around the London area where people were executed . Smithfield was the main site of execution for heretics. Tyburn which is where Marble Arch is now was where Joan Peterson who was known as the witch of Wapping was hanged there on the same day Prudence Lee was burned for killing her husband. The closest place to Tooting Bec was Kennington Common and there's no record of any executions around Tooting at all.

CoffeeCoffeeTea · 01/08/2022 01:39

Do you have teenage children or could you be pregnant

Ilovechinese · 01/08/2022 01:47

CoffeeCoffeeTea · 01/08/2022 01:39

Do you have teenage children or could you be pregnant

Why how would that affect it? I ask because I have had weird stuff happen in my home and my daughter who at the time was around 9 or 10 said her lunch box started banging on the side then flew off. Other weird stuff also happened when the kids were at school and my partner and I were the only ones there

jennyofthenorth · 01/08/2022 01:48

I would sage the house, ask a medium or sensitive to come though and nicely ask the ghosts what they want and to get lost, and if that failed, find a priest to bless the house.

nightfairy · 01/08/2022 01:50

There's no such thing as ghosts. They don't exist and the laws of the universe mean they cannot exist.

The Laws of the Universe don't mean what you think they mean!

I'd call some people who know more about this sort of thing and ask them if they can recommend someone in your area to come out and move it on.

sagb.org.uk/contact-us.htm

Onlyhereforthebatshitneighbours · 01/08/2022 01:52

@VanillaIce1 not disputing your experiences, but women believed to be witches weren't burnt in England, they were hung.Burning was reserved for heresy and witchcraft wasn't considered heretical by the English church at the time of witch-hunts...Fire was believed purge the soul of heresy, so Mary I burned Protestants who refused to recant. So someone either made up the rumour that witches were burned, or its been muddled with the site of a different punishment.

leisurelystroll · 01/08/2022 02:00

Amandasummers · 01/08/2022 01:22

Never understand the arrogance of people who "know" xyz doesn't exist when we as a race literally have no idea how or why we came to be and we live on a giant floating ball in the middle of nothingness.....ghosts are no more impossible to exist than we are!

It may look like arrogance to the ignorant. Ghosts would defy the laws of thermodynamics, humans don't. So no, they are not equally as likely to exist as humans.

CBAMumma · 01/08/2022 02:15

I'm not a woo type person either OP, but we had a 'presence' in our old house. It started when we were doing some renovations, and I won't go into detail but we all experienced it over a few weeks, not dissimilar to your experiences. Based on advice (probably from MN) I told the 'spirit' it could stay, but it wasn't allowed to frighten us. I felt a bit daft talking to the air, but seriously after that, nothing ever again.

Dita73 · 01/08/2022 04:56

I’d be terrified in your situation too. Terrified that my house is very unstable! I’d be desperately hoping it was haunted but I promise you it isn’t. Get a decent builder round to check it out

Clairewentoverthemountain · 01/08/2022 06:34

MN is so biased about these things, refuses to acknowledge anything paranormal. On the one hand it's comforting but on the other hand you could have a ghost or a demon living in your house and MN would convince you it's the pipes 😂

The dog thing is seriously weird, and the shadow. A friend of mine used to live in a house with a weird sort of funny glass window between the living room and the main corridor. The glass was the type that you could see shapes clearly but not details - I don't know the name of it. Meant to look pretty, I suppose.

I OFTEN saw a figure walking as if coming through the front door and heading up the stairs, but no person ever walked past the living room door to actually go up the stairs, and there was nobody in the house. Scared the daylights out of me, but she had lived there her whole life and wasn't really bothered anymore.

Clairewentoverthemountain · 01/08/2022 06:37

Also don't sage the house or do anything by yourself. Best to call a priest or other professional if you're seriously scared. Saging and stuff could just make it worse.That's a really culturally specific practice that people have seen on TV and assume works in every instance. But best just to not acknowledge it at all by yourself and get a professional in!

FindingMeno · 01/08/2022 06:41

Our last house had unexplained goings-on.
It was nothing nasty and so we basically announced that we were glad they were there and we didn't want to do anything other than live alongside them.
When we moved we missed our extra family member for quite a while.

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Goawayghosts · 01/08/2022 06:52

girljulian · 31/07/2022 23:38

I grew up in a haunted house. It didn't bother us hugely. We lived in a very rural area of the north east where belief in ghosts was more the norm than not and they were essentially considered a pest, like having rats. There was an old man who sometimes came into my bedroom; he would go away if I told him to. However, there were also mice that skittered along the skirting boards in the dark and they did not go away! The thing you mention, about seeing something out of the corner of your eye and hearing it touch the walls, I'd really be thinking about mice or rats.

If it is ghosts, tell them to go away.

Was it New Ellerby by any chance?

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Discovereads · 01/08/2022 07:25

leisurelystroll · 01/08/2022 02:00

It may look like arrogance to the ignorant. Ghosts would defy the laws of thermodynamics, humans don't. So no, they are not equally as likely to exist as humans.

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Actually ghosts would not defy the laws of thermodynamics, namely the law of conservation of energy. Right now, one thing that seems to defy the law of conservation of energy is death. Our bodies rot, all good- dust to dust, ashes to ashes and all that. But where does our inner energy aka “the soul” go? MacDougall weighed people just before and just after death and, there was always weight loss after death. The law of conservation of energy says that “energy” which makes us conscious beings cannot be destroyed and so must go somewhere after death. The existence of ghosts (of all living creatures) would actually mean death doesn’t defy the laws of thermodynamics.

Discovereads · 01/08/2022 07:26

Onlyhereforthebatshitneighbours · 01/08/2022 01:52

@VanillaIce1 not disputing your experiences, but women believed to be witches weren't burnt in England, they were hung.Burning was reserved for heresy and witchcraft wasn't considered heretical by the English church at the time of witch-hunts...Fire was believed purge the soul of heresy, so Mary I burned Protestants who refused to recant. So someone either made up the rumour that witches were burned, or its been muddled with the site of a different punishment.

True, but witches were burnt in Scotland and the Americas.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/08/2022 07:28

If you truly believe the house is haunted, get someone in to deal with it.

I know of two people (both utterly non woo types until they experienced something weird) who got a medium in to ask who/whatever it was to leave, and they did.

In one case it was only their dog that was freaked out, refused absolutely to enter a certain part of the house. The humans hadn’t sensed anything.

But afterwards, the dog had no problem. I dare say someone will tell me the dog had imagined it!

The other case involved a sense of a male presence sitting on the bed in the very early mornings, after her dh had gone to work. ‘It’ gradually moved closer and although didn’t feel threatening, it was obviously creepy and unsettling. They began to realise why the former owners had been in a hurry to sell at what seemed like a bargain price.

The medium just said that his name was Albert and he was an old soldier. She asked him to leave, and he left.

ClumpingBambooIsALie · 01/08/2022 07:28

Discovereads · 01/08/2022 07:25

Actually ghosts would not defy the laws of thermodynamics, namely the law of conservation of energy. Right now, one thing that seems to defy the law of conservation of energy is death. Our bodies rot, all good- dust to dust, ashes to ashes and all that. But where does our inner energy aka “the soul” go? MacDougall weighed people just before and just after death and, there was always weight loss after death. The law of conservation of energy says that “energy” which makes us conscious beings cannot be destroyed and so must go somewhere after death. The existence of ghosts (of all living creatures) would actually mean death doesn’t defy the laws of thermodynamics.

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🤣

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/08/2022 07:29

I should have added that the medium in the ‘dog’ case was unpaid.,
I don’t know about the other.

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