Haunted house scaring the shit out of me

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Deliberately OTT title and I’m not into the paranormal but I’m getting freaked out in my house.

We’ve lived here 10 years. The house is only 20 years old. Built on marsh land.

A year or so after we moved in weird shit started happening. Stuff moving around, noises, dog going nuts in certain rooms, doors opening by themselves etc. DH got freaked out by it and started getting angry at me everytime I mentioned it. He outright refused to discuss it but admitted he had seen and heard the same stuff as me.

Then it all stopped. Nothing happened for years. All good.

Then, a couple of weeks ago I was messing on my phone and behind me I saw a shadow go past in the hallway out of the corner of my eye and heard it brush along the wall. The dog (different dog) flew over me barking and growling, all heckles raised. Back door was locked, there was no way anyone could have got in without me (or the dog) hearing the front door. I sent the dog around the whole house - nothing at all. I put it to the back of my mind but ever since the noises have started up again - footsteps on the first floor, doors opening and closing, muffled voices

DH has heard it too and is laughing it off saying the ghost is back but he too is randomly sending the dog into rooms and upstairs before him and telling me not to be stupid when I mention it. It’s seriously starting to freak me out.

It happened again 10 minutes ago … the sound of the floorboards creaking upstairs in the pattern of footsteps - DH looked up and muted the TV - then the sound of something being moved. I said “You’re not telling me you didn’t hear that?” And he said “I’m not getting into this shit again” and turned the TV up.

it’s a detached house, we don’t have neighbours. WTF is it??

@Hallamus Spot on. Not my words but I thought they illustrated a good point:

'If someone says to you "Prove to me this investment is going to be a good investment, or prove to me that 2+2=4 and not 5", that's one thing. But if someone says "Prove to me that human beings need love" or "Prove to me that we feel bad when innocent people suffer" or "Prove to me why you're feeling so sad that you're crying about something". All these are dealing with an area of life that's sometimes irrational and emotional. Frankly, I think that intelligent people know that asking for proofs when you're dealing with the sublime is like asking to see a microscopic subatomic particle with the naked eye. It's a different world, a different realm, and you need different tools.'

I would advise buying a carbon monoxide alarm - high levels, from a faulty boiler for instance, can do a number on the brain and be fatal.

If it is a genuine haunting, do not attempt to communicate with it or carry out a cleansing ritual yourself. There's no such thing as a friendly ghost and it could indeed escalate things.

The Christian/ Baptist Deliverance Study Group has some useful information. You could also contact a local Vicar, who I'm sure would be happy to help. Good luck.

I mean usually I would say it's the house settling but I saw on Reddit some poor poster had a similar thing and someone was living the posters loft.

There's a actual word for it, obviously it's the internet so may not be true but my god it creeped me out.

Are you people clinically insane?! 😂

How is it that, on a website supposedly frequented mostly by intelligent, educated people, there are so many woo believers?

You would have to be completely batshit to think that ghosts really exist.

This thread is bonkers. 🤣

I’ve not witnessed the curvature of the earth with my own eyes either………

👍 Brilliantly put 👍 😂

Might be worth getting a survey done - do you have new cracks in the plaster anywhere and have you checked the roof from the inside? If it was built on marshland and you get floods, I'd be more worried about subsidence. Central heating can make weird noises too, even if you haven't actually had the heating on, pipes contract and dilate and you still are using hot water. Otherwise, check for birds in void spaces, or, I hate to say it, rats or mice.

I'm getting a bit sad at the thought of becoming a ghost after I die and trying to mind my own business just walking about and having a chat with other ghosts and the living people just keep yelling at me to move on 😞 where am I gonna go?

BBC Ghosts might cheer you up then :)

I'm in a sceptical paranormal group. We've been to private cases and managed to debunk a lot of stuff like this. In one house there was 'pencil markings' that appeared from nowhere on the wall - turns out it was from their large dog's collars. Shadows that crossed the room in another house were cats, squirrels and birds crossing a fence outside casting a shadow. In one house voices from nowhere were actually just new neighbours next door speaking a different language. I'm sure it could all be explained.

'THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A FRIENDLY GHOST'.

This is not true. I rented a cottage when I left home and it was haunted by two separate entities but they were both totally benign and when I asked them to stop doing stuff they did. The house had tiny windows, it was dark, damp and the thatch made it drip all day after rain but it had a lovely warm happy family feeling constantly that I put down to the entities whom I called Ada and John.

I would politely ask them to stop scaring me and they would for a few weeks and then they would gradually go back to normal. I got used to them, I stopped being scared and stopped asking them to change their ways. After that, we lived in harmony for seven years until I went to college.

Visitors and guests were freaked out by them as they were very playful at times but they exuded peace, love and friendliness.

...also just to add...if you were to buy a cheap camera for every room you'd soon concluded that nothing is paranormal. Where previous posters have said that camera's don't pick up everything it would certainly rule out tangible objects moving from one place to another by themselves.

Im not a woo person but we moved last year from our previous house which we had lived in for 20 years

apart from one instance when it honestly sounded like someone was in our hallway (we were watched a scary movie to be fair 😀) and children talking in their sleep (perfectly normal if not unnerving) nothing weird happened

but

after 8 months or so in the new house i made a passing comment to adult ds1 that I wasn’t afraid in this house, and he said that he felt exactly the same

i think its weird that in our old house (which i was very fond of) even though nothing at all spooky or bad happened the two of us were afraid

OP
you need to go to your local Catholic priest and ask him to come and exorcise the house.
i didn’t believe in this stuff but there are loads of houses and the pub here that people have had experiences in.
A family I know had such bed happenings that they moved the children out because they were so scared. Things were flying off the shelves and breaking. I was still sceptical but then it was in the newspaper. Our local priest went three times. He said it was the worst house he had every been to. I didn’t even know that the priest still did that.

It is polite to offer a donation. I am not sure if they charge for their time but if not a donation would be appropriate. I am not sure if they all do it but Father M was the one to go to in our area.

So I'm not going to bother getting into the whole do ghosts exist debate.

However OP I'd sell up and move, it sounds miserable to live this way. Also sounds as though the house is a bit shit itself.

OP do you know anyone who has lived in your road since the houses were built? Twenty years isn't so long...someone you could ask.

I would personally be looking into more natural causes on the first instance. Also, I have had a couple of experiences and there was always a shift in the atmosphere when it happened.

Never understand why houses are built on Marshland!
I would get a surveyor and an exorcist!

Every Church of England diocese has a priest who does exorcisms. Ring the diocesan office and ask for him/her to get in touch. The success of the exorcism does not depend on your being a person of faith.

So the house is on marsh land and the garden frequently floods? However at the moment we are in a drought. I don’t know about where you are but with me the ground is just dust. All the grass has just dried up.
My worry would be that the ground is drying out and the house is moving/subsiding. Also there is no way I’d be buying a house on marsh land where the garden floods all the time. You’d need to drop the price to get me to even think of it.

And, if this was marsh land then often pre Christian burials would happen there, what good would a Christian priest do?

We’ve lived in quite a few houses over the years and some just are noisier than others. Especially ones with wooden flooring somewhere in the house. It doesn’t mean some of our houses had ghosts and some did not. You should stop this crazy talk before your husband gets seriously annoyed.

I lived in a bedsit in 1980/81 that was haunted, by what who knows. Started off with things like the kettle lead unplugged and tidied up, instantaneous water heater switch, turned off, not by me, other stuff I wont detail. Maybe I was sleep walking, but I dont think so, landlord eventually, after months of denial and laughter/ taking the mickey, admitted my room and the one next door had a "presence".

Logical explanations...

House movement due to being built on clay, animals or birds causing footsteps noises... we know from experience this can really echo through the house & sound louder in parts of the house than it actually is

If just you you sees the shadow people... get your B12 checked, these types of peripheral vision hallucinations are a symptom
If you BOTH see the shadow people ... get your carbon dioxide & flues thoroughly checked... CM poisoning causes b12 deficiencies & so the related auditory & visual hallucinations

If non of that covers it, then sometimes, in my experience as often as not, hauntings are real & you can have a residual "stone tape" hauntings which is more like a video recording of past events & people, so it's not going to interact with you & you can just learn to live with it & ignore it. Or an intelligent haunting, where the presence does notice & react/interact with you & this too can often be something to learn to live with. Though occasionally you'll get one that doesn't want you there & that can be harder to live with. A spiritualist church or any church can point you in the direction for help

You should ask women in real life about it. There was a similar thread to this years ago on mumsnet and I was so perplexed at the general consensus that ghosts exist I started asking the people I work with and friends. I would say 90% of women I asked believed. I would have guessed 20%.

It actually really depressed me on a feminist level then I remembered that men make up the majority of conspiracy theorists, sov cits etc. Woo is very gendered.

Are we? I'm in NW England and it's rained heavily every day since the 2 day heatwave a couple of weeks ago.

It sounds really stressful OP for you and your DH and to be quite honest I would be considering moving house

@HyperionWarbonnet I'm very glad you didn't feel threatened and I do love a thatched cottage!

Don't like to use the word Christan as it's such a broad term now and can cover anything from Catholics and Quakers to Mormons and Jehova's Witnesses (all very different and conflicting belief systems). However, from my perspective ghosts are not actually the spirits of dead people but deceiving spirits (fallen angels) masquerading as dead people. I realise that sounds bonkers, but if it makes someone think twice about getting involved with 'woo' stuff then great.

It actually really depressed me on a feminist level then I remembered that men make up the majority of conspiracy theorists, sov cits etc. Woo is very gendered.

Way to go with the naval gazing, & you think we are bonkers 😂😂😂😂