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The Ick

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Ahostofgoldendaffodils · 31/07/2022 11:40

Inspired by an article in today’s Observer, AIBU to think that you just can’t get over ‘The Ick’ even if the other person is practically perfect in every other possible way?
When I was 18, I started seeing a man in his 20s - he was like an alpha male on steroids- muscular, deep voice, powerful. This was the 90s and his double denim look reminded me of a young Bruce Springsteen. He really was gorgeous and I was smitten. But…. every time he got drunk, his voice would go high pitched, I mean, if we were in a nightclub and he was trying to tell me something he’d come close to my ear and suddenly turn into Joe Pasquale. This was THE ICK. This perfect man, gorgeous, masculine, respectful, confident made me cower in horror at his squeak.
He spoke normally 90% of the time and was a great man but I just couldn’t get over the drunken voice and the fact that the day after every night out my ear would throb in pain at his shrillness. So I dumped him. This could have been a beautiful relationship with lots of mini young Springsteens on the horizon with a lavish wedding. I just couldn’t get over it. Was IBU?
But what I really want to know about are your Icks?

OP posts:
ToastedWaffle · 01/08/2022 23:04

Guy I was seeing said "bum bum" for arse. Also a sloppy kisser. Gross.

SavoirFlair · 01/08/2022 23:05

Let’s be real here. Those who use the term “the ick” are really cat ladies in waiting, who have the sexuality of a ceramic bathroom suite and are looking for an excuse to dump before they’re dumped.

Wombat100 · 01/08/2022 23:07

AffIt · 31/07/2022 15:35

Many years ago before meeting the OH, went for dinner with a man who seemed nice, normal and attractive.

Went to a nice restaurant, where he ordered Toulouse sausages and ate them off a fork - literally just off a fork, without cutting them up, like a character from the Beano.

I could barely look him in the face. There was no second date.

This cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣🤣

ToastedWaffle · 01/08/2022 23:08

SavoirFlair · 01/08/2022 23:05

Let’s be real here. Those who use the term “the ick” are really cat ladies in waiting, who have the sexuality of a ceramic bathroom suite and are looking for an excuse to dump before they’re dumped.

Put the crack pipe down.

CandyLeBonBon · 01/08/2022 23:08

A guy I was seeing did the helicopter thing with his dick. Lovely bloke, but he did this one thing and it Properly gave me the ick.

My lovely lovely now DP does lots of things that SHOULD give me the ick but don't! It's weird isn't it?

CandyLeBonBon · 01/08/2022 23:09

SavoirFlair · 01/08/2022 23:05

Let’s be real here. Those who use the term “the ick” are really cat ladies in waiting, who have the sexuality of a ceramic bathroom suite and are looking for an excuse to dump before they’re dumped.

Who pissed on your chips?

ToastedWaffle · 01/08/2022 23:09

Its probably pointy penis guy

Friffle · 01/08/2022 23:10

SavoirFlair · 01/08/2022 23:05

Let’s be real here. Those who use the term “the ick” are really cat ladies in waiting, who have the sexuality of a ceramic bathroom suite and are looking for an excuse to dump before they’re dumped.

You've given people the serious ick in your time.

Sapphirensteel · 01/08/2022 23:15

Mykittensmittens · 31/07/2022 15:07

Hmm.

nice guy. Met him at the gym. Had several nice dates which were not exactly mindblowing, but I’d previously come out of a really toxic relationship and knew I should look for someone with a whole lot less drama.

he said he’d never had sex, which I was actually okay with. Until it got to the point where it was on the cards….and his eyes lit up at the prospect and in a rather overly enthusiastic voice he said…

’OOOOOH goody goody!! I’ve never even touched a real BREAST before!! Woo hoo!’

kind of a sexy mood killer. Sex didn’t happen. Called it a day.

he also ended phone calls with ‘toodle pip’ - !!!

I really shouldn’t be laughing so much at that.🤣

Guy booked posh restaurant, my meal was yuk but I said nothing, ate it. Server asked if we wanted coffee. He asked for green tea, and when it arrived sat in his chair pushed back with his legs crossed and a finger sort of almost crooked as he sipped his tea. It was just so wrong, I could feel my stomach turning and it wasn’t just the food.

Pinksparkleypanties · 01/08/2022 23:17

QuimReaper · 31/07/2022 14:47

Mine was when he used 'pound' as a plural. Several times in one monologue. 'She travels all the way here every week. But that must cost a fortune. Like a hundred pound for the train. Then a hundred pound for a hotel. But she stays like three nights, so about three hundred pound. Then she eats out while she's here, easily another hundred pound. So about five hundred pound! Then she has to get back, another hundred pound. Now we're at at least six hundred pound.'

I was so fatally attracted to this man, and I can't express how powerfully I wanted to clamp a pillow over his face at this point.

I laughed so much at this! Absolutely hilarious !! Thanks for the giggle after a crap night ! Hilarious.
300 pound !!😂

Juhennia · 01/08/2022 23:18

A guy I absolutely fancied the pants off for weeks and weeks until after so much flirting he finally asked me out. Finally. It felt like forever. I was so chuffed!

Dinner was great. The view over dinner was great. The kiss afterwards? Such anticipation... Think bloodhound .. How can the most gorgeous bloke be such a bloody awful kisser?? I was gutted.. Double ick!!! And promptly dumped. Over twenty years ago now, I'll never forget the disappointment 😅

Pinksparkleypanties · 01/08/2022 23:20

AffIt · 31/07/2022 15:35

Many years ago before meeting the OH, went for dinner with a man who seemed nice, normal and attractive.

Went to a nice restaurant, where he ordered Toulouse sausages and ate them off a fork - literally just off a fork, without cutting them up, like a character from the Beano.

I could barely look him in the face. There was no second date.

‘like a character from the Beano.’ !!!!! I am giggling away !

Ushkin · 01/08/2022 23:21

I loved that article, OP! Examples of the ick for me include:

— using my name too much (e.g. “it’s so good to see you, Ushkin”, “I’ll give you a call tomorrow, Ushkin”). NO.
— second date with gorgeous man and I suddenly realised his torso was disproportionately long. Could not un-see it, and it killed any desire stone dead as all I could see thereafter was a massive torso walking around on little legs.

— Utterly beautiful guy I’d been eyeing up all night came over and asked for my number. Major fanny gallops, until he introduced himself as Ian. Never returned his call as I couldn’t imagine ever saying the words “this is my boyfriend, Ian”.

Oh, to be young and shallow again!

oakleaffy · 01/08/2022 23:22

Wombat100 · 01/08/2022 23:07

This cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Haaahahaha!!! Desperate Dan! I'm literally laughing out loud! 😂

Rosewaterblossom · 01/08/2022 23:23

My "Ick" guy was when we went to his, it was the date where something was going to happen.. he was a bigger than I was used to, but I overlook that as he seemed alright. Until it was "time" to get it on and started making this grunting/growling noise as though he was some sort of hunting animal getting his prey.. i got the instant Ick and there was no going back from it! I was as nice as I could be then ran for the hills! It still makes me shudder!

Juhennia · 01/08/2022 23:23

Ushkin · 01/08/2022 23:21

I loved that article, OP! Examples of the ick for me include:

— using my name too much (e.g. “it’s so good to see you, Ushkin”, “I’ll give you a call tomorrow, Ushkin”). NO.
— second date with gorgeous man and I suddenly realised his torso was disproportionately long. Could not un-see it, and it killed any desire stone dead as all I could see thereafter was a massive torso walking around on little legs.

— Utterly beautiful guy I’d been eyeing up all night came over and asked for my number. Major fanny gallops, until he introduced himself as Ian. Never returned his call as I couldn’t imagine ever saying the words “this is my boyfriend, Ian”.

Oh, to be young and shallow again!

😂

Rosewaterblossom · 01/08/2022 23:24

Ushkin · 01/08/2022 23:21

I loved that article, OP! Examples of the ick for me include:

— using my name too much (e.g. “it’s so good to see you, Ushkin”, “I’ll give you a call tomorrow, Ushkin”). NO.
— second date with gorgeous man and I suddenly realised his torso was disproportionately long. Could not un-see it, and it killed any desire stone dead as all I could see thereafter was a massive torso walking around on little legs.

— Utterly beautiful guy I’d been eyeing up all night came over and asked for my number. Major fanny gallops, until he introduced himself as Ian. Never returned his call as I couldn’t imagine ever saying the words “this is my boyfriend, Ian”.

Oh, to be young and shallow again!

I love this 🤣🤣🤣

oakleaffy · 01/08/2022 23:25

A chap I had a major crush on I saw once..And he had frayed shirt cuffs.
He lived in Kensington, , so not short of a bob or two, but the sad, frayed cuffs just caused my fantasy to implode.

LINABE · 01/08/2022 23:25

AllPlayedOut · 31/07/2022 11:43

My "ick" is people using the term "The ick".

Me too. Can't stand it. It's so naff.
Makes me feel sick.

ChampagneLassie · 01/08/2022 23:32

Really lovely man, but he had a very small thing, pale penis that reminded me of those chicken sausages you get on breakfast buffets abroad. And once I thought that I just couldn't face it ever again

Stickworm · 01/08/2022 23:33

Anytime a guy just has absolutely no idea how to kiss well 🤮

oranmore · 01/08/2022 23:35

The guy I had a crush on sat on the floor of the disco when the DJ played "Oh sit down" by James.
Killed the romance dead

OrlandointheWilderness · 01/08/2022 23:41

My ex used to eat raspberries by the punnet. It was the was he shovelled handfuls into his mouth at a time, just eeeeegh. And seeing him naked repulsed me tbh. I used to have to be fairly drunk to sleep with him. I've never had such a visceral reaction to someone's physical appearance before or since!
It wasn't a brilliant relationship!

Oh and a gorgeous, lovely Portuguese man I dated when I was 18. He serenaded me in public. Wearing bright pink cord trousers. That was it!!

OrlandointheWilderness · 01/08/2022 23:44

Oh and long fingernails!

Tablechairtable · 01/08/2022 23:46

Blind date where I left my handbag with the guy while I went to the loo came back and he had gone to the loo and left my bag on the chair. When he gave me a goodbye hug he sort of patted me on the back in an awkward way.
Another was a sloppy noisy kisser. Nice looking and fun but the noise! Omg was like he sucking a sweet!
Someone I saw at a dance class not actually a date but looked down and he was wearing slippers I kid you not!

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