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Secret Confessions thread 2

217 replies

ThePoorWeeDonkey · 29/07/2022 01:20

I missed the boat on the first thread and really needed to get this off my chest. Apologies to original op.

I resent my dad for not dying instead of my mother. I absolutely adored her and now just feel negatively towards my father for being the one I'm left with. All of my other siblings/wider family adore him so I have never told anyone this irl, not even my DP.
I know it's disgusting but I'm hoping once my loss is not as fresh I will start to feel differently.

OP posts:
limitededitionbarbie · 05/10/2022 21:05

cantbelieveheletmedown · 29/07/2022 15:18

I wiped my exH toothbrush round the rim of the toilet. Our split was brutal, he deserved it.

Yaaas queen

limitededitionbarbie · 05/10/2022 21:14

FloraTurd · 29/07/2022 17:14

When I graduated I had to move at little notice to start a new job in London. I ended up joining a house share that was quite close to work but I regretted not doing more due diligence on the my new housemates as they were to a person utter arseholes. I was pretty much blanked when I moved in, food nicked, personal possessions taken when I was out and generally I was pretty miserable. They were not interested in making friends, just wanted someone to fill the empty room and pay rent. It slowly escalated to outright bullying and thankfully I managed to find another really nice flatshare and handed in my notice. Before I left I bought a large tub of Flora, turned it upside down, removed the carton and scraped out a cavity before shitting in it, replacing all the packaging and popping it in the fridge. I spent my last week watching them help themselves to it, getting closer to the horror at the bottom. I left without saying goodbye smug in the knowledge they were literally eating my shit.

Omfg. I don't know how to feel about this. Not that
You will care but omfg. Did you ever see any of them again? Did you get your deposit back?

I wonder what happened when they realised? Did they just put the butter back at the first bit of brown or did they bin it? Did they realise?

limitededitionbarbie · 05/10/2022 21:17

thesecretshame · 29/07/2022 18:04

My secret shames are

Due to an error on an occupational health report my work have incorrectly added a mandated three days a week WFH element to my rota as a reasonable adjustment. This was put into practice just as my line manager changed so it was not questioned and the subsequent manager did not know any different.
I have never corrected the assumption. The OH team was outsourced just after, so I am unlikely to be discovered inadvertently.

I have a friend who I grew up with. We lived in the same street, our mums were in each other’s houses all the time. We went to school together and then off to uni together. We shared our first house together and then took a couple of years out and travelled the world with our partners. I adored her. We had such a wonderful bond and shared some life experiences that were utterly magical.

She was my best friend. We had a wonderful balanced, fulfilling and supportive friendship for several decades.

Due to some seriously poor life choices over the last ten years she has become so self-involved, petulant and so unremittingly negative that talking to her just sucks you dry. I am beginning to dislike her intensely. Which I wrestle with, as friends support friends when their mental health is poor. But increasingly, because she refuses to help herself or get help, I feel I am being held hostage by her choices.

I know I am not a true friend, but as she has absolutely no one else so I remain out of a sense of obligation and debt towards the friendship we used to have - then despise myself for my mental unkindness while we talk.

My attached neighbour has a long term serious illness. I feel bad as because of her illness she is very quiet and keeps to herself - therefore is the best neighbour I have ever had. I was selfishly upset when she put her house up for sale and was relieved when it fell through – even though I know it would be terrible for her. After having some horrible neighbours previously, and knowing how thin these walls are I just couldn’t help myself and still feel bad about it.

Your just normal please don't beat yourself up x

RobertaFirmino · 05/10/2022 21:19

limitededitionbarbie · 05/10/2022 21:14

Omfg. I don't know how to feel about this. Not that
You will care but omfg. Did you ever see any of them again? Did you get your deposit back?

I wonder what happened when they realised? Did they just put the butter back at the first bit of brown or did they bin it? Did they realise?

Did you get your deposit back? 😂😂😂

KnackeredHag · 05/10/2022 21:20

Draughtycatflapreturns · 29/07/2022 14:15

Everyone who knows me would be shocked but I’ve been doing things with the manager in the local supermarket carpark. He brings a handbasket and we get in the back seat of his car and I hold up my skirt and bleep at him whilst he scans tins of ham across my nonny.

Wins the internet this evening 😂😂😂😂

2ndMrsdeWinter · 05/10/2022 21:22

laughed out loud and reached for my vibrator

limitededitionbarbie · 05/10/2022 21:26

ShesGotAMapOfTheWorld · 29/07/2022 22:08

I have a vape with cannabis oil in it, and I enjoy getting mildly stoned after a crap day. I hadn't touched weed until a few months ago and was given the vape as a gift because I was having trouble sleeping.

Here is your mate

Onlyhuman123 · 05/10/2022 21:33

I often wish my sil was dead...especially from a hideous, painful disease. Fucking hate the bitch

1dontunderstand · 05/10/2022 22:34

I was sexually abused by my cousin when I was aged about 5, the abuse only stopped when I moved out of the country with my parent. I guess that he has abused at least two others, due to their ages at the time, their relationship (how he would play with them the way he played with him at the time) and how disfunctional their lives have become. His nephews are displaying similar behaviours now and he has two young daughters, but i can’t bring myself to do anything about it.
I hate myself for not doing anything about it.
I self medicate with alcohol, it was drugs too for a long time.

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 05/10/2022 23:27

Onlyhuman123 · 05/10/2022 21:33

I often wish my sil was dead...especially from a hideous, painful disease. Fucking hate the bitch

Shock
WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 05/10/2022 23:28

1dontunderstand · 05/10/2022 22:34

I was sexually abused by my cousin when I was aged about 5, the abuse only stopped when I moved out of the country with my parent. I guess that he has abused at least two others, due to their ages at the time, their relationship (how he would play with them the way he played with him at the time) and how disfunctional their lives have become. His nephews are displaying similar behaviours now and he has two young daughters, but i can’t bring myself to do anything about it.
I hate myself for not doing anything about it.
I self medicate with alcohol, it was drugs too for a long time.

Flowers
AndYouCanBuggerOffAsWell · 06/10/2022 02:17

RobertaFirmino · 05/10/2022 21:19

Did you get your deposit back? 😂😂😂

No but she left a rather large one......

Dexysmidnightstroller · 06/10/2022 11:09

LoveYouForever1 · 05/10/2022 18:17

He doesn't know.

He had a vasectomy, you had an affair and got pregnant in a time frame which exactly fits the affair, which he knows about - are you sure he doesn’t know? Again, not judging - we all (or many of us) have been there and had the exhilarating affair, but the chances of him finding out are extremely high - not least if the child looks v different, or in a myriad of other ways. It might be best to let him know now, since the later the worse with these things.

TomPinch · 06/10/2022 22:56

Ihatecocomelon · 05/10/2022 20:49

I try to be a good Christian but I can be a vile cunt.

Fair enough, but we're supposed to acknowledge that each Sunday aren't we?

Almighty and merciful God
we have been vile cunts and sinned against you
in thought, word and deed.

Splutteramo · 06/10/2022 23:39

in my 20s I had a hideous, bullying sexist boss. He was awful to me and his assistant.
he was a health nut and kept at liter bottle of water by his desk and drink 3-4 liters a day. He would tell asst to re-fill it from the watercooler by the loos, make sure it was topped up.
small company so on our tiny floor just one unisex loo for about 8 of us.
one day I went into the loo to find the asst with the bosses water bottle pouring water into it from a little jug.
it was lucky it was me who walked in when she forgot to lock the door as she admitted that she frequently topped up his bottle from the water in the toilet bowl.
I didn’t say A word, and she carried on…

Flapjack637 · 07/10/2022 12:20

Splutteramo · 06/10/2022 23:39

in my 20s I had a hideous, bullying sexist boss. He was awful to me and his assistant.
he was a health nut and kept at liter bottle of water by his desk and drink 3-4 liters a day. He would tell asst to re-fill it from the watercooler by the loos, make sure it was topped up.
small company so on our tiny floor just one unisex loo for about 8 of us.
one day I went into the loo to find the asst with the bosses water bottle pouring water into it from a little jug.
it was lucky it was me who walked in when she forgot to lock the door as she admitted that she frequently topped up his bottle from the water in the toilet bowl.
I didn’t say A word, and she carried on…

😂

Wauden · 02/01/2023 11:28

nevernevermind · 31/07/2022 16:55

NC.

I used to be a prostitute. One of my clients abused me and at least several other women I know of. He wasn't the only one, but unlike (most of) the others, I found out his full name, address, place of work (a school about 10 mins walk from where I live), and place where he regularly practices his hobby.

For over 2 years I have done nothing with this info. I wrote a letter to send to his place of work, but got paranoid I would somehow be reported to police and found out (my fingerprints are on police database). I rang to make an anonymous crimestoppers report, but due to my history I do not feel safe making a concrete report. I also know from experience it would be unlikely to go anywhere, and he would probably take out his anger on more women and girls.

My dh thinks I should leave it as it is me holding on to the past. I don't want to jeopardise the livelihood of my own children or let my past life meet my present. However I think he deserves a comeuppance, even if it's just being publicly shamed. I don't have the bottle to flyer his workplace or building just yet, but I think about it far too much.

I also don't think prostitutes are seen as credible victims.

@nevernevermind He sounds horrific plus it is concerning that he works in a school.

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