No longer find DH attractive.

[Tryingtobehonest]

I know I will get some hate for this but there is a lot to unpack.
DH is a few month older than me but looks a few years older. I go to gym, work hard to look good and keep him interested. He WFH, smokes, drinks from 5pm and doesn't do any exercise. Got worse during COVID and he doesn't make an effort.
Here is the corker, if I gain weight, he calls me fat, if I refuse sex, I'm frigid or a lesbian. Watching TV the other night he was going on about how much he would bone some buxom but slim woman on TV.
I now get dressed in the bathroom (he works in the bedroom so I have no space to get up and dressed).
He is middle aged, beer gut, balding and I feel sick having sex. But I can't be anything but attractive and even then it's not enough.
Am I being unreasonable to want to tell him that giving him a BJ with his fat gut in the face would not be attract to a hot busty Brazilian and he needs to get over himself? Or would I deflate his ego?

I agree
You clearly have no self respect t if you think this is ok

If you are concerned that he is an alcoholic OP, then I would imagine that making the courts aware of this, and your concerns that he wouldn't be sober enough to be responsible for the care of your 10 year old, would be enough to ensure that he wasn't allowed access to your child overnight, and let's face it, you leaving him is likely to lead to him hitting the bottle even harder, in an excess of self pity, which will only work in your favour and that of your child, when it comes to him getting access.

As far as your own self worth, I think it will ROCKET, the moment you walk out of the door for the last time, leaving this selfish, ignorant, slob behind you! You're clearly intelligent OP, so use those brains of yours, and get planning. Oh, and do come back and tell us when you do it, won't you? Hopefully we won't have to wait very long.