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Having kids in nursery all summer whilst you’re off

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 21:19

Just seen a friends post about being happy to be off for the whole summer (teacher) because now she can pick her kids from nursery (they’re in full time whilst she works)
Would you still put your kids in full time nursery if you worked full time and then had summer off-6 weeks, where you could be with them?

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SnackSizeRaisin · 26/07/2022 22:00

I wouldn't but if someone else does then that's fine too. Not everyone loves being with young children and maybe she has lots of other stuff to do

flumposie · 26/07/2022 22:01

I was able to use a nursery that I paid for term time only ( also a teacher). I think I paid extra for her to go in once during the summer holiday so I could go to the cinema. Needed a break !

Runnerbeansflower · 26/07/2022 22:03

DD loved being with other children doing fun activities. Did reduced hours and days off over the holidays. But still went substantially to nursery as she enjoyed it.

That gave me time to do any household stuff I needed to, rest, and have the time and energy to do more activities with DD in the extra time we had together.

CallOnMe · 26/07/2022 22:03

I would do it for a few odd days so they can still have the social side and so I can do some work but I definitely wouldn’t do it everyday as the best part of the holidays is spending it with my DC.

CustardGoodJamGoodMeatGood · 26/07/2022 22:04

Yes I'd still send them. I'm currently on mat leave and eldest still goes to nursery (2 days). Her nursery would either require full payment still or she would lose her place and I wouldn't want to pay for something that I wasn't using

Runnerduck34 · 26/07/2022 22:06

OK if Im honest I would secretly judge! Of course she wants and needs some down time but maybe her kids do too.
So even accepting Id still have to pay I wouldn't send them every day.
I'd have some chilled family days and have a chance to spend quality time together and keep up some days at nursery for time to myself and so they still are used going.

watingroom2 · 26/07/2022 22:07

When my DD was young I kept her in nursery - as a teacher - if I had taken her out I would have lost her space... when she left nursery and went to reception I took her out for the summer.

I had time to breathe - teaching is a stressful job - having a bit of time - to chill is important too...

I always think about those airplane things you get oxygen for you then help your child.. perhaps she is in need of a break

Meandmini3 · 26/07/2022 22:08

OP what are your childcare arrangements? Are you paying for a nursery place this summer but not using it? I’m guessing not.

KerryO87x · 26/07/2022 22:09

I'm not a teacher but I normally work full time. Im on maternity leave and my dd is still going to nursery the 2.5 days shes funded for meaning I get some time with ds. She loves it and means she's not stuck to me 24/7 lol.

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 22:11

@Runnerduck34 That’s what I’m doing too

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 22:12

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz Partner is a teacher too, so also off…I said about her as she told me and I saw the post

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Beees · 26/07/2022 22:13

Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 22:11

@Runnerduck34 That’s what I’m doing too

So you're sending your child to nursery some days and keeping them at home on others and you're criticising her even though you don't actually know she isn't doing the same?

switswoo81 · 26/07/2022 22:15

Absolutely not..I paid half to retain the place for the full nine weeks and all Easter)summer hols when mine were under 3 and after that it's pay as you go. The best part of the job is having that time with my children. They are 7 and 4 now and if they thought I was sending them to creche for the summer they would be devastated.

And I don't do any work for school during the holidays so there's no excuse for me.

CatSeany · 26/07/2022 22:15

Yes! I'd probably pick up and drop off a little earlier and later, and I imagine I'd take them out a day a week or so to do something fun. Otherwise I'd enjoy the break. Sadly I don't work term time so I'll never know!

Tee20x · 26/07/2022 22:15

If she is still having to pay for it why would she take the child out? My child's nursery is 1.7k a month, if I still had to pay that over summer of course I'd be sending them.

Basilthymerosemary · 26/07/2022 22:15

Teacher too. Kids are at nursery during summer. No term time contract- so am paying already, why not use the service? Kids love nursery and I get to have some down time and get on with chores I've ignored for months. I'll take them out for the family holiday (week) and a day every week, but otherwise they'll remain in nursery. Stop judging other mothers; it hard enough being a mother and working full time. Don't start the guilt trip.

sarahc336 · 26/07/2022 22:17

Yes I'd send mine, both mine have loved/love nursery and are far more bored at home. She might have stuff to do around the house, decorating etc. plus we'd be charged still and it costs a bloody fortune x

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 26/07/2022 22:24

She will have to pay anyway.
She might need a break,
She might want to get on top of jobs she's neglected during term time that she can't easily do alongside childcare.
She might want to get ahead with planning for next year so that she can spend more evenings with her children.
She might want to have lunch with friends which teachers can't do during term time, unlike those of us who can take a half day off work and leave our children in childcare.
The children are very young, so maybe she feels 6 weeks at home with Mum then back into full time care would be unsettling.
Lots of reasons other than not wanting to spend time with her children

surreygirl1987 · 26/07/2022 22:25

I'm a teacher. My two little boys are in full time nursery throughout this summer. I absolutely adore my sons but there's no way I'm paying around £2.5k a month for NOTHING 😂 also, I need a break. I'm very much enjoying having some time to myself. We've reduced my sons' hours from 8-6 to 9-4 (lowest our nursery would accept) and it's working well - we still get a few hours with them each day. My sons also really like their nursery and it would really throw then to go from spending most of their time there to not at all. Plus I have heaps to do this summer (just been doing A Level exam marking, and now I'm working around 6 hours a day planning for next year - I'm hesd of department). I was actually in school for a few hours today. Finally, I'm aware that from next year we'll have the children with us anyway in the summer, so I'm going to make the most of the 'me' time this summer!

surreygirl1987 · 26/07/2022 22:25

Stop judging other mothers; it hard enough being a mother and working full time. Don't start the guilt trip.

Exactly!

surreygirl1987 · 26/07/2022 22:27

Oh and my partner is a teacher as well, like hers. He feels exactly the same as me.

ivfbabymomma1 · 26/07/2022 22:29

I work in school admin and have finished for 6 weeks and my son is in nursery twice a week over the summer! And no I don't feel guilty for it! He's got friends, he's learning! Stop judging!

theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity · 26/07/2022 22:29

I wouldn't judge her but I wouldn't do it.
Like many things in life and people will certainly feel the same about some things I do as a parent

schnix · 26/07/2022 22:31

Absolutely, I'd imagine they are probably spending the weekend doing fun things with the kids because they aren't spending it running errands/doing housework etc. it sounds an amazing idea.

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 22:37

@Beees She’s sending them everyday as I said. I’m sending mine once per week

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