Having kids in nursery all summer whilst you’re off

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Just seen a friends post about being happy to be off for the whole summer (teacher) because now she can pick her kids from nursery (they’re in full time whilst she works)
Would you still put your kids in full time nursery if you worked full time and then had summer off-6 weeks, where you could be with them?

No I wouldn’t send them, I’d see it as a great opportunity to spend time with them, do outings and activities and relax together.

perhaps I’d send them for 1 day a week to keep them engaged in the setting and have time to do adult related tasks but no, I want my children with me as much a so can whilst they are small and want to be with me

I think it depends on the situation and the kids.
If it was just a couple of days a week for kid who loved nursery, that would be fine. If it was full time for a kid who would prefer to be at home, then that's crap parenting. And yes, I would judge.

Mine only went 2 days the past year so I kept her in the 2 days over summer. She has more fun there than at home!

I wouldn’t do fill time as I want to spend the holidays with them (it’s one perk of being a teacher).

however, I’d bloody love some time to myself so I’d absolutely put them in a couple of days a week!!

all my childcare has been term time only, though.

Per week. Then 1-16 august going full time to a preschool camp which will be even more fun

Well of course money is part of the issue. She's forking out what is likely to about 1k a month in fees which she will still have to pay and you're totally judging her because she's choosing to send her child to something she's paying for.

I don't know many people who could happily write off all their nursery fees and then also spend more money providing entertainment for their child for 6 weeks. Must be a nice life.

OP is a teacher too

Not for the whole 6 weeks, no.

But each to their own.

I’d be surprised that they didn’t have any plans all summer. Most teachers do get away at some point for a week or something. She probably is though - you just saw a post and have made assumptions, she’s hardly given you her holiday itinerary. Chances are she doesn’t mean the whole holiday anyway.
But no I definitely wouldn’t judge either way. If she wants some time to herself, why not?Besides, some nurseries don’t do term time only so if she’s getting her money’s worth and the kids enjoy being there then fair play.

Why not ask her straight out on FB, since you aren't being judgemental!?

I’ve been in school three days this holiday and have taken them with me twice (partner had them the third day). It was nigh on impossible to get anything done and if I’m honest, they’re driving me mad with their fighting. I know from experience that they need a week to decompress though, and that they will start getting on much better next week.

Preparing a classroom takes about a week.

Maybe if you’re renovating it 😂

Teacher here, no children, but would also point out that pretty much every teacher in my school has been and is planning to be in work for at least the first full week to move and sort classrooms and next week I’m going to be planning, so would probably leave them in nursery if I could do I could crack on!

Teacher here also. I think it’s awful tbh. Surely one of the perks of the job is having the holidays off together to make up for the number of hours worked in term time? I would never do this. Mine are going in for 4 random days when I have made plans with friends. 4 days in 6 weeks and I’m already feeling guilty.

@Temporaryname158 I feel the same

@User135792468 It's definitely one of the massive perks! 💜

I'm a teacher. My DS goes to nursery term time only but I do book extra sessions throughout the holiday when I can afford it. 1/2 sessions a week. 6 weeks is a long time for a 2 year old to be out of routine of going. Also he loves it. I think it's good for him.

6 weeks with mummy on tap and then saying ok poppet 7.30am see you at 5.30 is very hard for him.

Maybe she's planning to use the time to find some friends who don't read her posts and then find themselves sufficiently overcome with jealousy and/or judgement that they post about them on Mumsnet?

Or perhaps she has loads of DIY to get through, or needs a proper rest, so thinks she may as well use the nursery place she presumably has to pay for regardless.

@Beees As I said, money isn’t an issue

Because if she pulled her daughter out of nursery she would either lose the space or still be paying? Most nurseries are all year round. I would be doing the same as your friend 100%. Pull DD out a few days here and there depending on hours for day trips but rest of time i want some rest and peace and quiet at home

DS is still going to nursery and with grandparents during the week too (3 days). Not only do I have lesson work, DH works from home half the week and we have cleaning and packing to do as we're moving. All of that is easier without a 3 year old in the house too. DH has a week off mid August, so very likely we will keep DS home that week, but I find the routine easier for him plus, I still have to pay even if I keep him home.

I think, you do what works for you, sometimes that looks like your child being in nursery while you are home.

@Okeydoky Jealousy why? I could do the same though.
I’m not judging, I just honestly don’t get why you’d have them in everyday for six weeks when it’s a great opportunity to have some summer quality time with them.

What are some of the other "massive perks"?

4 days in 6 weeks and I’m already feeling guilty.

Why? Are you leaving them in a kennel?

I don't understand why you keep saying this. Even if she earns very well why should she not use what she has paid for?

Are you not sending yours and still paying for it?