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Having kids in nursery all summer whilst you’re off

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 21:19

Just seen a friends post about being happy to be off for the whole summer (teacher) because now she can pick her kids from nursery (they’re in full time whilst she works)
Would you still put your kids in full time nursery if you worked full time and then had summer off-6 weeks, where you could be with them?

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 21:20

*Pick her kids up from nursery

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FirstAidKitNowPlease · 26/07/2022 21:21

I'd not be making any judgements!!

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stuntbubbles · 26/07/2022 21:22

A real friend that actually exists or a hypothetical friend designed to work MN into a frothing bunfight?

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MumTrain · 26/07/2022 21:22

Don’t judge her. She probably needs. Rest and a break.

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AllFreeOwls · 26/07/2022 21:22

It's her choice, not your place to judge.

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Beees · 26/07/2022 21:22

Mine adores nursery and goes 3 days a week. He will absolutely still be going during the holidays. If he was full time I may take him out for odd days out or do later drop off or earlier pick up but I wouldn't want to massively disrupt his routine and he wouldn't cope well with much change.

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ohidoliketobe · 26/07/2022 21:22

Don't know which way to vote as it's unclear.
Some nurseries don't operate term time so she'd be paying regardless. Even if it was term time offering, if you van afford it then whats the problem.
(and frankly it's not of your business is it)

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ItsAllInMyHeadImFuckingUpAgain · 26/07/2022 21:23

If her children don't go, she still gets charged. So yes, I'd still have sent mine.

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TooMuchGoogling · 26/07/2022 21:23

I think full time is a bit much to be honest. One or two days to keep them in routine and give parents a break, yes.

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lochmaree · 26/07/2022 21:24

Our DS (2.5) was at the childminder 3 days a week to cover the days i work pt, I am now on mat leave and DH is a teacher so on holiday, DS still does 3 days a week!

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Simonjt · 26/07/2022 21:24

Lots of nurseries are year round, meaning you pay year round. Would you really pay for six weeks of nursery and not actually use it? I can’t imagine being able to throw away so much money.

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ohidoliketobe · 26/07/2022 21:24

Side note. I have 2 weeks off to look afyer my school age kids this summer. The younger is still going to nursery. I might even book the older 2 into holiday club on one of her nursery days as it'd actually be nice to have a day to sort some shit out

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justfiveminutes · 26/07/2022 21:24

I think I might still send them a couple of times a week - for continuity, so that the return in September isn't quite so jarring, and so that they are happy and busy doing things that they love. Nice to have some time to do schoolwork, chores or grown-up lunches without them too.

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alsjejlpo · 26/07/2022 21:24

If I was paying for the time regardless then yes I would, not everyone is lucky enough to have term time nursery contracts.

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Hankunamatata · 26/07/2022 21:24

Perhaps they are children who thrive on routine. Most teachers I know spend first week of holidays sorting out last terms stuff. Then at least two weeks prepping before going back to school. So only really take 3 weeks off

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 21:24

@stuntbubbles 🤷🏻‍♀️A real friend

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alsjejlpo · 26/07/2022 21:24

Also I'd have less judgemental 'friends'

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alnawire · 26/07/2022 21:25

I did. DS is autistic and needed the stability.

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Beees · 26/07/2022 21:26

Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 21:24

@stuntbubbles 🤷🏻‍♀️A real friend

Maybe as a real friend you could pay the fees for her so she can use the money she saves to do stuff with her child whilst she's got them at home.

Nope thought not.

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 21:27

Not judging at all, was just curious as although my Dd is hard work and going through a massive pain in the arse phase, I was quite looking forward to the holidays when she’s with me (teacher also)

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Willwejustbehotforevernow · 26/07/2022 21:28

@Beees Eh? She has enough money, money’s not an issue.

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WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 26/07/2022 21:28

I’d definitely use some of it if I had to pay anyway but I wouldn’t have them in full time. Obviously there are circumstances where it might be appropriate such as If I was pregnant or on mat leave or ill (physically or mentally).

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Helendee · 26/07/2022 21:29

Two days max for continuity.

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ElspethBoomingHowsen · 26/07/2022 21:29

I am doing just this. He starts school in September so I am taking full advantage of the time to get he house decluttered and redecorated. I did ask him if he wants to stay home with me and his answer was “no, our house is boring!”
We do have some trips planned and I drop him off later and pick him up earlier.

Its paid for so why not use it? He much prefers his well equipped nursery and all his friends to me!

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sleepyhoglet · 26/07/2022 21:29

Teachers do work in the holidays you know. Preparing a classroom takes about a week, then a little planning. I would send them for about 3 weeks but not everyday and pic up earlier. She probably needs some time for herself and to sort her life out. Teachers tend to do their living in the hols! Don't begrudge her (or yourself if this is one of those posts)

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