Family wants to come and stay… only when we are not there

[coaplious]

AIBU to think this quite cheeky?

I have a younger cousin (18) who lives back in my home country. He has a girlfriend who I have never met.

I live in London and have just moved back here from the US.

At a family gathering recently, in front of all family, he asked me “Can you let me know when you’re going away- so I can come and stay in your flat”. And then later on said “I want to go to london with my girlfriend… so let me know when you are not there”

On one hand, I get it, he wants to come and visit London and not pay crazy hotel prices. But equally, it’s my home and not a shag pad for an 18 year old who doesn’t want to visit his family!

Eeww no way. Are the going to disenfect all their bodily fluids before they leave 😂 not a chance if it was me in that situation!

I knew was aware of all those things when I was 18 and living at home, it's more to do with the way he's been brought up than his age.

Don't be ridiculous.

That's cute! Young ones are SO clueless about good social graces sometimes! He could at least PRETEND he wants to see his family, but I guess that might be a reach for him! LOL! I would tell him no!

He is young and wants to explore a new city. It's great you have a younger cousin that feels close enough to make such an informal request. Perhaps compromise and arrange to be there for a couple days so you can all enjoy London together and then leave them to it for rest of the trip? It may be that he feels you might not want him around when you are there. You can always correct him and say he is welcome anytime and it would be great to spend time with him and his GF 🤗great opportunity to have young people in your life. Keeps us in touch and younger! (I like to think!). Just my bit.

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Oh my goodness! What have you said to them? Have you explained that they will now need to pay for the decorator to come another time?

It's great you have a younger cousin that feels close enough to make such an informal request. Perhaps compromise and arrange to be there for a couple days so you can all enjoy London together and then leave them to it for rest of the trip?

Yes it's great that she has a thoughtless pisstaking younger cousin,

Aww yes he’s young, just tell him you let your flat out for £750 per week x £40 for cleaner, when you go away, and he’s more than welcome to book it when it’s available 🤣🤣👍

Definitely not! I learned my lesson with the mess l came home to when my 18yr old DD had a house party without my knowledge and left a right wreck of a Shit heap and loads of work for us to walk into on our return.
One of the Lads even turned up a few days later saying he had ‘Squatters rights’ as he had been living here with some friends during my absences.

Luckily DH was here and soon slammed the door in his face!

Talk to him about safe sex. Where you keep you’re sex toys and your expectations of cleanliness of said sex toys ….. or if you think he’d believe you tell him no sec before marriage under your roof so his Gf would have to stay elsewhere! …. He’ll work out it’s a no !

Or this!

basically I wouldn’t say no as you’ll be the meanie…. Just set clear boundaries for him to work out himself! …… & I’d go WAY More than £40 for a cleaner!!