Brother-in-law/family have named their dog with my name

[Raul57]

My OH's brother and I get on but more recently no the case. We used to argue over anything and everything and take the Mick but this was often restricted to when it was only our family their family is there ie my OH and children and the same for him.

BiL retired early at 50 about a year ago and his son and his wife that live in the same house decided to get a dog. This was about a month ago. They've named the dog the same name as mine and I found it very insulting. My OH said they have always loved my name and this is why they have done. When we met last week at a wedding I said to them they could have picked another name out of the millions, they just smiled and said it was a lovely name. They all had smirks on their faces. My children lol initially but they get it and told me to ignore it.
My OH is saying I've always been too 'sensitive' and a 'hypocrite.' EG, I often take the p out of the BiL and his wife but as I said only when the two families are alone

I'm seriously embarrassed, hurt and fear others finding out about this and mocking me.

AIBU?

No, I would too!

Just ignore them. Be the bigger person. Just as your DC are suggesting.

I've just adopted an older dog that already has the name of a (much loved) family member. It's a lovely name. It never occurred to me that the family member might feel insulted - it made me feel happy when I found out new ddog's name. But FM doesn't like dogs. Yikes!

OP, your update does you no favours. Your MIL had to step in like a teacher in the playground? Grow up, even if BIL and fam don't.

Your BIL is a twat and your OH the same.

Abusive men are always so quick to call victims "sensitive".

Have you thought at all what an awful example to your children their father is, allowing their mother be so obviously disrespected?

What awful modelling in your home for your children to see.

Your children deserve better, so do you.

So what's the name? If it's something like, I don't know, Caroline, that dogs just don't get called they may be doing it to annoy. But who would want to call their dog a weird (for a dog) name that they'd get funny looks for shouting in the park?

If it's more commonplace like say, Sally, Zoe, etc, I'd say you are really overthinking it.

Didn't your husband say they weren't smirking? I'd stop this petty battling, it is rather immature.

I think they probably have done it on purpose and you all sound incredibly immature.
You're not painting yourself to be much better than they are, with your comments about your BIL's height and hoping the dog messes on their white sofa 🙄
My guess is that when they we're trying to think of a name for their bitch, your name instantly came to mind.

Tell them you're getting a dog & making it after them - 'Here, Cuntychops. Here boy!'

They sound like complete losers and at least you know to phase them out your life now.

Best thing would be no reaction however you’ve already given them one so id be tempted next time you see them if it comes up to say something like -

wow! I thought you were joking.

How wierd and embarrassing for you. I'd wondered why everyone was talking about your pettiness but genuinely a lot of us were sure it must be a joke. Hope you enjoy picking up my poo in the park.( confused face )

I hate that dog as it's one of those little yappy ones that constantly bark at people and I think they are teaching it to bark at me.
We would not et the dog into our house and I've only been once to their home since they had the dog and refused to go since but not told them.

You all sound insane to be honest

How long have they had the dog, have you heard them call it by name a few times or are they telling you they have done that to wind you up?

Blimey, that's a longstanding grudge...

Your DC have the right approach .

naming the dog your name says a lot about them not you . How you chose to react to it though is totally on you . Ignore it or laugh along .. I’m presuming that’s not what they expect you to do

At the end of the day, it shows more about them then you. If I heard this about someone I know calling their pet after a family member or friend, I wouldn’t be impressed. Pathetic really.

If they've done it to piss you off, OP, your best revenge would be to appear totally unbothered or even act pleased.

I would have acted honoured, like it was such a sweet gesture and thank them for naming such a cute puppy after me!!

first off you all sound batshit and toxic.
But. I agree that the name is a step too far and unfortunately you played their game by being upset instead of fronting it out with the "how flattering" type of reaction.

In your shoes I'd just stop seeing them at all, and do your own thing. And name a cockroach after them.

Years ago, our NDN's (good friends) had a very precious baby after many mishaps. We were close because I had given NDN many hours of one to one support during a difficult pregnancy. At the request of her husband who was afraid to leave her alone in th house.

They named the baby Wendy, same as our rescue cat. Actually, AFTER our cat because they liked her name so much . When they came down off cloud 9, NDN asked me to please rename Wendy cat to avoid future embarrassment to Wendy girl. She feared in a few years we might both be standing at the back door bawling to Wendys to come home for their tea. What would other neighbours think?

I very politely declined . Yes, it was just a cat ,and a very special baby , but the name itself was nothing special or exclusive and I could not care less what neighbours thought . NDN got over herself. We continued to live in harmony. with two Wendys.

OP, stop seeing it as an insult. Claim it as a personal compliment to your lovely name.

Most dogs are nicer than most people, so I'd take it as a compliment!

You both sound about 12!

You have your kids telling you to ignore them! Seriously, your kids sound like they have more sense then both of you.

Some people name their pets (&/or their children's pets) with names they think are clever & usually no-one else does. It can be a power trip, or vanity. Such people are generally narcissists & loathed by those around them.

Sounds like they got fed up with you taking the P out of them... maybe they found it really insulting too.

I liked the reply suggesting rats, but this wins!!

Get a praying mantis and name it after him. Then get a female and name it after you.

Hmm if my BIL named their dog after me I wouldn't be going back to his house. Its clearly an attempt to insult you, them smirking at you just reinforces they did it to offend.

You may have this type of relationship but they have taken it too far.

My brother called his son after our family dog. Don't think it was ever mentioned.
It's a name.
You were happy taking the mick out of them but see it as a huge insult they've used your name. Now you won't see them but haven't told them. You need to grow up.