Brother-in-law/family have named their dog with my name

[Raul57]

My OH's brother and I get on but more recently no the case. We used to argue over anything and everything and take the Mick but this was often restricted to when it was only our family their family is there ie my OH and children and the same for him.

BiL retired early at 50 about a year ago and his son and his wife that live in the same house decided to get a dog. This was about a month ago. They've named the dog the same name as mine and I found it very insulting. My OH said they have always loved my name and this is why they have done. When we met last week at a wedding I said to them they could have picked another name out of the millions, they just smiled and said it was a lovely name. They all had smirks on their faces. My children lol initially but they get it and told me to ignore it.
My OH is saying I've always been too 'sensitive' and a 'hypocrite.' EG, I often take the p out of the BiL and his wife but as I said only when the two families are alone

I'm seriously embarrassed, hurt and fear others finding out about this and mocking me.

AIBU?

Take it as a compliment. The joke is on them because the dog is s loved member of the household

Oh my god, I can't cope 😂'went missing' and was never mentioned again.

And how old are you?
Honestly it all sounds so pathetically childish coming from (I presume) an adult, ffs grow up!

I had a sheep named after me. I was just relieved they didn't eat it.

You are both being puerile. I’m not surprised your MIL had to rebuke you.

How are they training the dog to bark at you if you have only since it once since they got it?!🤔

I have this kind of relationship with my BIL. But if you are willing to dish it, even privately, then you have to be willing for them to take it a step further. I'd have turned it round on them though... "You named your dog after me? It's an excellent name I have to admit, but a bit weird you're so obsessed with me you've chosen to name your pet after me and want to call my name out every time you want it's attention. Whose idea was it...?" And then look pointedly at BIL. Might give your SIL a different angle on the situation. Or maybe your BIL... ;)

Your dig about your BIL's height though was mean, nasty and unnecessary.

Similar situation, someone took great delight in showing me the sponsorship papers for a large cockroach in a zoo with her exes name.

You're playing right into their hands if you keep obsessing about this.

Your updates make you sound about 10. If you can dish it out (which you say you've done, then you need to be able to take it).

Ignore them and grow up some.

A boy at primary school who had a thing for me named his dog after me, I thought it was flattering.

My DSis lets call her Wendy, had a family pet named after her. It was because they liked the name and liked her.It was a compliment. The family just called the dog Wendydog to tell the difference.
My Dbro named a chicken after me. I was insanely happy about it.

Thanks. In defence of my OH, they are stuck between me and their brother. I get it but at the same time I don't.

I avoid contact, never ask re dog, won't visit them but not told them that and the few times they've been over, we never ask re their dog and I don't banter as we did and sit at least 25 feet away on the other side of the room citing 'you can't be too careful of covid.'

They attend ours over Christmas we they for the NY, and me and my OH have already fallen out over this as I don't want them to come and I won't be going over.

As a poster here suggested, "don't give them the satisfaction" and I won't make faces and or say anything even if they keep on mentioning the dog or anyone else for that matter as I guess people will look for a reaction.

If I'm asked by friends other family jokingly and or seriously what I think, I will say it was a nice gesture on their part and not show them how I really feel and/or given them the satisfaction.

It's hard but comments here have helped. We've, me and my OH have had our own problems and now those look as though they are sorted I'm thinking re this and my OH says that I'm a dram queen. I'm not.

Fair enough, good point, noted. Thanks

All of that. They got exactly the reaction they were after (if they did indeed make it on order to offend you).

You both sound a nightmare though. Your or MIL having to listen to this crap from you both in the past, to the point that she had to step in. And now your DH has to live with it. You really need to grow up.

You seem very paranoid. No one is going to name a beloved dog a name just to insult someone.

But it is weird naming a dog the same as a family member!

I don't really know why you'd care what they named their dog - how much time will you actually spend with it?? - but if they've done it with the hope of getting to you then you've allowed them to succeed. Better you pretended you loved that they'd named it after you IMO.
I can't imagine what sort of people you know though that would mock you because someone related to you called their dog by the same name as yours, it all just sounds very bizarre to me.

I would have handled this completely differently. 'Oh she's so cute and you named her after me, that's so nice!' Like fuck would I let on it bothered me, especially with someone I had the sort of relationship you describe. It's cunty, no doubt about it and I would be distancing myself as much as possible (emotionally at least) but I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of knowing their barb hit home.

Maybe not too late, you could try, the next time you go to their house/see them with the dog, saying 'oh hello cutie (to the dog obv), you know BIL I've been thinking and it's actually a massive compliment that you've named her after me, now I'll know you're thinking of me every single day!' Either way fuck them, life is too short for this shit and I would either be grey-rocking the life out of the general relationship (and that means stopping engaging with the tit for tat) or killing them with kindness. It's time to take control of the situation, you can't change how they behave but you can change the way you react to/deal with it.

I was looking at adopting a pig online and naming that pig my BiL's name but had second thoughts about it as this will make the situation worse.

Do it and don't tell them.

They're unlikely to change the dog's name now and I don't blame you for being upset. But you can totally make it backfire on them. Lean into, constantly be asking about 'furry me', ask for pictures, act completely flattered. So that everything they look at this bloody dog, and call its name they have to think of you and how happy they made you.

Even things like 'Raul57 threw up on the bed', fond smile, 'what am I like'. This could be hilarious.

Bloody hell - we've just named our dog after a shortened version of my uncle's name (think Charles/Charlie - it's not, that's just an example). It was a name we loved, he'll probably never see the dog and it certainly wasn't meant as an insult

It's obviously upsetting you so as the pp's suggested, pretend to be very flattered they chose such a lovely name and called him after you.

Very funny!

It's one thing to make a poor decision, it's another altogether to smirk about it. Rude fuckers.

Fuck em all. LTFamily

Get a pig and name it bills name :)

Wait so some other family have a dog named "James Smith" after your DH?

Bizarre!!

Nope, I'd love it.