Brother-in-law/family have named their dog with my name

[Raul57]

My OH's brother and I get on but more recently no the case. We used to argue over anything and everything and take the Mick but this was often restricted to when it was only our family their family is there ie my OH and children and the same for him.

BiL retired early at 50 about a year ago and his son and his wife that live in the same house decided to get a dog. This was about a month ago. They've named the dog the same name as mine and I found it very insulting. My OH said they have always loved my name and this is why they have done. When we met last week at a wedding I said to them they could have picked another name out of the millions, they just smiled and said it was a lovely name. They all had smirks on their faces. My children lol initially but they get it and told me to ignore it.
My OH is saying I've always been too 'sensitive' and a 'hypocrite.' EG, I often take the p out of the BiL and his wife but as I said only when the two families are alone

I'm seriously embarrassed, hurt and fear others finding out about this and mocking me.

AIBU?

It does sound all a bit tit for tat in the pisstake stakes.

The only mistake you made is letting them know it bothered you.

I couldn’t be arsed with it all really. It just sounds like there is a nippy kind of family dynamic thing going on.

If you want it to carry on? You could always name your hoover after him I suppose. If he asks why? Tell him it sucks. Or get a rooster and give it his name. Because it is a cock.

In the real world? I’d back off or quit feeding the bitching. Just because someone is a smirky snarky twat doesn’t mean you have to join in.

YES!!! 😅😂😄

You have a point but naming the dog is going too far.

It's an insult. Sixty years ago a neighbour called his dog by my name. Currently he's working up to getting friendly. If he attempts it, I'll ask him, coldly, about how he came to name his dog...

Lassie? Shep? Fido?
I think you are being somewhat of a hypocrite if you can dish out the piss taking but you can't take it. Maybe try to have a grown up relationship with them or lessen the contact you have if you can't manage that.

I'd make it my mission in life to make the dog my best friend. Lots of treats and toys. Love bomb it, basically. It'll take the BILs power out of the interaction.

I would start calling BIL a slightly different name. Eg if he is called Bob, start calling him Bobbie.
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I feel sorry for the dog because rather than love and cherish it enough to choose a unique name for it, they've apparently chosen a name with the pure purpose or annoying the OP. Doesn't say much about their priorities.

What is that an unnecessary comment @Coffeeenema ?

I would say they def did it to mock you.
Shame you commented and gave them the satisfaction of knowing they have upset you.
In your position I would go v low contact or completely avoid them.
As is often recommended here: let your dh deal with them

In your house refer to the dog as YappyDog or insert any other name ending in y and in a derogative, that way it moves it away from your own name and becomes the norm in your own household where you spend the majority of your time. I find most dogs respond to a y name, think Puppy, Smelly, etc in a excited dog voice and the dog responds. So whatever they’ve called it doesn’t even matter.
Don’t sweat the small stuff; they’re the ones picking up shit for ten plus years and living with their untrained noisy YappyDog.

Because you were snarky with the OP, that's why.

This all seems very small-minded and mean. Them for smirking and you for making digs about your BILs height.

It's clear you don't get on, and that's fine, but everyone a favour (including yourself) and only have contact with them when absolutely necessary. Why seek out petty drama?

I also think that's taking it too far. It is clearly a pisstake of you. And if your OH doesn't think so too then he's an idiot

Is your name a good name for a dog??

Or is it a silly name for a dog like Susan or Karen? If it's this , you know they are doing it deliberately

Unless your name is Fido UANBU

It sounds like you are very easy to wind up and they find it funny that everything sets you off. It also sounds like you are a bit paranoid, how do you think they are training their yappy dog to bark at you? By showing it your photo? I would just rise above it, if they don't see you getting yourself worked up they won't do it but while you keep providing them with a reaction they will keep finding it fun to poke at you.

I was just about to suggest the same!!

As I type I'm getting angry and hoping the dog poo's all over their new sofa suit
that is made from fabric and not leather and won't be easy to clean as it's white. They keep a very clean house like us and I know that will hurt them, I hope.

you need to stop obsessing over these people, they’re nothing to do with you. Your ‘other half’ (boyfriend?) can see them if he feels the need.

I was looking at adopting a pig online and naming that pig my BiL's name but had second thoughts about it as this will make the situation worse. You reckon?! Honestly, if you can get your shit together about this and behave like a grown up, you can keep your head high. This reflects on them, not you. Stop obsessing about it, let your DH deal with them in future if you aren't able to in an adult manner. You don't need to join in with the juvenile nonsense.

As I type I'm getting angry and hoping the dog poo's all over their new sofa suit
that is made from fabric and not leather and won't be easy to clean as it's white.
This makes you sound about twelve, get a grip of yourself. What they've done is bad manners, you dont' need to join in.

So it's a small Yappy dog and they've named it after you? Sounds like a pisstake to me. Are you sure that is the dogs name and that they haven't just told you that for a reaction?

From the perspective of training it will only cause confusion and result in the dog ignoring their own name and commands. It will only be them that suffers, leave them to it and just avoid close contact.

I think you need to grow up a little...

This is completely ridiculous, your behaviour sounds as bad as theirs

No, they have gone too far with this one op. And your OH has not supported you which makes it much worse. I think its a horrible, spiteful thing to do. No-one owns a name but I the more liberal minded on here might be somewhat more sensitive if this happened to them.

Tell your OH again how upset and offended you are. He needs to say something.

You have gone along with the piss taking and this needs to stop. "Banter" as my gs's call it is only funny if everyone is laughing. I tell them it's an excuse to bully by making people afraid to speak up by branding them humourless. I think its time you all packed it in as its clear your piss taking has in fact been home truths.

This thread is definitely going to be picked up by a paper.

My mum did this. Got a cat and named it after my husband (an uncommon name). We just ignored the whole thing. It was really strange and I'm not sure why she did it, maybe a weird cry for attention? (It was just after we got married) Unfortunately the cat went missing after a year and was never mentioned again.