Not to want to see your your entire holiday on Facebook

[SirGawain]

Facebook 'Friend' who I get on well with is on holiday abroad. They just posted 75 holiday snaps on Facebook AIBU to think this is excessive. Incidentally they have dozens of random "Friends" so they've just told the world that the house is empty so please burgle it.

To people who are using Facebook as photo storage... don't. At least not for important photos. It's very easy to get hacked, and some people have lost all access to their account as a result. Plus it's not particularly secure, and stores them in a crap resolution.

Much better to just pay for cloud storage - it's usually not that expensive, and you pay for the amount of space you use, so delete all the rubbish photos and just keep the ones you want to look back on.

I'm not of Facebook and never have been. One particular friend has always tried to persuade me to join and I can never come out and tell her the main reason I originally refused. It's because she has an unnatural interest in her own and other people's holidays, and I just know I'd have been bombarded with endless holiday pictures and information (she'd even urge me to look at other people's, I know).

I may be weird (probably am) but if you had a scanning electron microscope, you would not be able to detect my interest in other people's holidays. I'm barely interested in my own once they're over.

I don't care where you've been, what the hotel/beach/meals/locals/weather etc was like. I don't care how/where you booked it, which airline you flew with, what the flights were like, how much it cost/how much you saved etc etc. I'm sorry, I'm a very friendly person with lots of mates - honestly! I never come out and say these things because I don't like to rain on people's parades...but I am thinking them.

I think, if I'd joined Facebook all those years ago, I would now have fallen out with friends and be needing a lot of treatment for all kinds of mental health problems - and I'm being serious, not facetious.

I mean baby kicking from the inside is pretty special lots of their friends would have been happy to see that! What is It about Facebook that you do like ? You don't have to see these posts you can delegate these "friends " to a list so you don't see anything that you consider overcharging.

Someone I know posted 30 odd photos of the first stop on a cruise yesterday. Wonder if they'll keep it up as the holiday progresses or if they'll lose interest....

A couple of PPs have mentioned that too-easy jibe: you're jealous!

This really irritates me. It's possible to dislike something pure and simple - it doesn't mean you're jealous or envious.

I have zero interest in other people's travels and am not much of a traveller myself by choice. Dreading being shown lots of holiday pics is nothing to do with jealousy for me. After the first few 'Mmm - great!' 'Wow - amazing!' comments, i don't know what else to say.

I hasten to add - I'm interested in all kinds of places - their history, natural history, culture etc - but I'm NOT interested in your visit there. Sorry. This may sound bitter - it's not - it's just that nowadays so many people travel mindlessly (they are often the ones who take the most photographs and post them almost as a reflex). Mass tourism horrifies and depresses me. I wish people would put their phones away and live in the moment!!

Someone put it brilliantly when they said 'People now seem to live their lives as an anticipated memory.' Yes, exactly that. The whole idea of 'making memories' is really harmful, I think. No - live in the moment, enjoy the place and the experience and buy a postcard.

Rant over.

Yes definitely, taking 900 photos instead of enjoying it.
I love seeing nice places but would rather look at photos on tripadvisor or hotel websites and not scrolling through photos of someones DC eating nuggets at a dodgy looking hotel. But yes, I mute the annoying ones...

I also find the posts of a pint of beer at the airport before departure annoying, yes I also have a traditional pre holiday drink I but dont feel the need to show people an half empty glass with lip stick smeared around the top. I enjoy a pre-flight visit to the loo...maybe Ill post a cistern selfie and start a new trend😀

"Yes definitely, taking 900 photos instead of enjoying it."

900? Exaggerating much? You know it's possible to take photographs and enjoy yourself at the same time.

Yesterday we did something new and I took photographs (and posted them to Facebook for my family and friends to see). We had the most amazing time and I'll look back on the photos happily - when they pop up as a memory and I'll print some for a scrapbook too.

Between us we took around 50 photos. I posted 20 of them. We spent 6 hours there. Trust me when I say we thoroughly enjoyed it despite managing to snap a few photos

I love seeing nice places but would rather look at photos on tripadvisor or hotel websites and not scrolling through photos of someones DC eating nuggets at a dodgy looking hotel

Then do that. What is stopping you?

Some of you seem to have a different version of facebook that forces you to look at things you hate. Get the proper one, where you can look at whatever you want to and not the stuff you don't want to.

Yes I was exaggerating, thought it was a light hearted thread but some people are quite touch about it.

Glad you enjoyed your day, photos or not

Just hope you didn't put #feeling blessed😀, thats a whole new thread...

But as others have said, you’ll never see all 75 photos at once unless you actively choose to open an album or hit the ‘+70’ link. You will see the first five photos and can scroll past them in a second.

As for the ‘OMG you’ll get burgled!!!’ hyperbole that I only ever see on MN - I have a lot of friends on Facebook that you’d probably dismiss as ‘random’ (former colleagues, friends of friends) and guess what? None of them have my address. Given that for 18 months it was very difficult to have visitors, some genuinely good friends have never been to my house. Anyone who knows my address isn’t going to burgle me.

I see the ridiculous ‘But it will invalidate your insurance!!!’ myth still persists too 🙄 Think about it - if this was true, how could you ever tell anyone you were going away? Whenever you booked time off work, you’d have to pretend you were staying at home to decorate just in case any of your colleagues decided to take it upon themselves to break in. MN is full of threads about the joy of community and how people keep an eye on their neighbours’ houses when they go away a but surely actively telling people, and people who definitely know your address, would invalidate your insurance too if this was true?

It’s also a myth that no one shared their holiday photos before social media. It used to be very common to invite friends and family around for the evening to show them your pictures - and in that situation, you really do get stuck with looking at every single one. With Facebook you can just scroll on.

How about don't want to see everything you do every day on Facebook and not want to see every cafe or pub you stop off on holiday for a drink at
Some ppl are addicted to posting every little thing on FB. It's sad and has time to read it all etc.

And some people are obviously addicted to readong every pist and checking every pic😁
For people who supposedly don't care everyone seems to have very detailed knowledge of other's social media content😁

Again, if you don't want to see it, just don't look?

How are people so confused about how such a simple thing works?

Does your FB have some kind of special feature that grabs you by the neck, sticks your eyes wide open and makes you scroll through every single picture?

I don't see more than one or two (+73) and tbh sometimes I scroll so quickly and I have no interest that even those don't register.

girlfrien

Yes, I know that no-one HAS to look, but it's more complex than that. It's the whole depressing thing about people snap, snapping away mindlessly and having the lack of self-awareness not to ask 'Does anyone, apart from my very nearest and dearest, give a hoot?'

I may come from another planet, but it would never occur to me that my holiday or day out was of any interest to anyone else except close family (possibly...) unless something really exciting and disastrous happened. Similarly, I grit my teeth when someone tries to show me their pics. Once had a friend's husband show me about 100 pics of his trek through Nepal on a mobile phone while I was trying to enjoy my restaurant meal. Yes- I did politely try to stop him, but he was pretty determined.

I've never been on Facebook for precisely this reason - that, whatever you say, there is pressure in the real world to look at and 'like' people's ruddy photographs. I'm glad I've never had to deal with the offence-taking and showing-off that goes along with all this.

And as for the sheer number of photos sometimes - it's like when you read a novel and it's about 1,000 pages long and you think...didn't the editor say 'it needs to be one third this length? It's just lazy. Edit down to 10, or better still, 5, pics and then people might be more interested.

Someone on my fb recently posted 58 status updates throughout a 6 day holiday. A lot of mundane stuff like "so hot going to the cafe for ice cream then get some dinner later." Surely she would have a better time if she didn't feel the need to stop and narrate everything.

No. They assume that people who have actively chosen to look at their updates wnat to see their updates.

Bizarre and unselfaware is you choosing to look at their updates and then being fucking horrible about your friends and family, when you're the one with the issue

Amen to that.

I can quite see why so many people are not having great relationships with their families now....

That's a massive generalisation. I don't give a crap if my friends and family like my pics or even look at them. In fact I find it bizarre when some of them like every single picture. There's no expectation for anyone to look,much less at all of them. It's my Facebook,my pics and albums that I post for myself mostly.

Surely the whole point of Facebook is that people share photos etc, if no one posted anything it would be a bit boring on there! Just don’t look at them if you don’t want to.
I posted lots of photos of our holiday at Easter as I knew many of my friends wanted to see them and it was nice to show what we were up to after having the holiday cancelled 3 times due to Covid.

I hate it when people are judgy about what is posted on FB. That's the very purpose & intention of FB - it's reason for existing. If you don't like it, don't use it...or at the very least unfollow anyone who irritates you!

This kind of thread is done to death on Mumsnet.

A miserable population on here. Can't bear to see others happy. It's jealousy plain and simple.

lol jealous much?

Me too