Not to want to see your your entire holiday on Facebook

[SirGawain]

Facebook 'Friend' who I get on well with is on holiday abroad. They just posted 75 holiday snaps on Facebook AIBU to think this is excessive. Incidentally they have dozens of random "Friends" so they've just told the world that the house is empty so please burgle it.

These kind of comments are really narrow minded. If someone doesn’t like or approve of something they are obviously jealous / negative/ miserable!

I think it’s all a bit sad and pathetic but that’s just my opinion, I accept we are all different and I generally keep my opinions to myself. I’m neither miserable or jealous

Facebook would be the equivalent of taking the photo album to all the people you haven't spoken however many years and shoving it in their face.

I just do the old school thing and print the photos when I get home, we often buy a nice photo album on holiday as a souvenir. Very few people have just genuine friends and family on Facebook. For me it’s kind of weird to think randomers from school or uni or people I briefly worked with ten years ago are looking through photos of me and my children on holiday. I might pop one on as my profile pic, but not everything. But I generally don’t post about my children anyway.
There are people who I haven’t seen since the beginning of secondary school on my FB - I don’t know much about them as a person from their posts, but I know what I think is an alarming amount of information about their kids. Some people, I have to say it’s mostly mum, seem to use their Facebook page as a record of their children’s life. I think sharing all this information with virtual strangers is just bizarre.

I'd rather flick through on FB in my own time than have them foisted on me during a conversation on any messaging platform tbh!

Some people in my friendlist live in or visit some very nice places I will never go to - I am very grateful that those people share their photo albums so I can enjoy seeing stuff I will absolutely not see any other way.

So YABU about FB, you dont HAVE to look, no one has a gun to your head, just don't look if you don't want to!

I really enjoy seeing friend’s holiday snaps. I have planned holidays based on where friends have gone. Yes, most have been years later but the idea was born from seeing friend’s holiday snaps

I also post holiday snaps as it forms my own holiday snap album. with my family.

if you don’t want to see, scroll on by. Their holiday snaps are not about you.

This wouldn't bother me at all. You seem to just have a bit of a mean outlook.

If you dont like it then unfollow or delete them if they're only a 'friend' not a friend. Baffles me why people care so much. I have friends all over the country and other parts of the world. I enjoy their photos and posts. If I didn't I just wouldn't look.

Oh I quite enjoy holiday pictures although maybe not 75?but I doubt very much they will quiz you on all the pictures so you can look at a dozen or so .
my dh hate that people putting on fb on holiday all the time he actually blocks people if they holiday more than he this is excessive. He’s a bit weird and probably jealous. You can just scroll on it’s not bothering or hurting anyone .

I do it because I like looking back at previous years. No ones forcing you to look. Just move on

as gary janetti said "did people even go on holiday before instagram?" (i love gary janetti)

So was Tamara Ecclestone’s and that didn’t stop burglars.

I have a friend who both posts holiday albums but also titles and themes them.

But then I have friends who insist on seeing my holiday photos, and on showing us theirs. They're genuinely interested.

It only really annoys me when I go out with these friends and they spend forty billion years insisting we pose in front of stuff.

I love the fact that people post photos on Facebook. I can go through them as quickly as I like, like and comment on a couple then all's done and dusted. Stops the endless showing of photos on special dvds or passing round photos slowly one at a time when you go to visit (with lengthy explanations of each one!) which I find mind numbing.

So they could take all the pics, put them in an album and then show them to family and other visitors when they had a chance..... oooh or on a dvd

You're not obliged to look. Stop sniping and move on. It's her Facebook account and she can do whatever she wants with it - why on earth should she have to tailor her Facebook content to meet your personal needs?! It's not about you.

Facebook contacts that she doesn't know in real life are highly unlikely to know her address. Facebook contacts who know her well enough to know her address are not going to burgle her house.

I like seeing my friends' holiday pics. If I'm friends with someone it's because I like them and I'm interested in their lives. I like seeing pictures of new places and I like seeing my mates looking happy. Sometimes friends share loads of pictures of things I'm not interested in - eg one of them shares lots of pics from classic car rallies she goes to - so I just scroll past those ones without clicking. I don't get annoyed about it because I'm aware that her Facebook doesn't exist solely to meet my personal requirements.

👏 I love this so much.

Posting the odd picture or two or whatever can be sweet and of course people want to show off their kids and the things they're doing, but I've had people on my Facebook post pictures of their babies before they've even closed their legs after giving birth. I could tell you their kids full names and dates of birth, the school they go to (school uniform pics without the badge covered make me mad), where they're going to be on X date etc.

It's very dangerous and so new that nobody knows what the long term issues it might cause.

I'm sorry I'm digressing from holiday pics!!!

Someone I know photographs everything, even the toilet. I don’t mean the bathroom, but the actual toilet gets it’s own close up.

A friend of mine has just posted loads of pictures, but what gets me is that she’s posted extremely unflattering pics of the nearly teenage dc and the dc (who shouldn’t have accounts on social media, but hey ho) have asked her to remove the really awful ones. I understand wanting to show what a lovely time you had, but why deliberately post embarrassing pictures? She is known for this kind of behaviour, thinks it’s funny to embarrass her dc. I think that’s pretty shit. Keep them and in 10 years, they can probably laugh at them, but they’re excruciatingly embarrassed at the minute.

why on earth should she have to tailor her Facebook content to meet your personal needs?! It's not about you

What! It’s “social” media. Clue’s in the name

I thought this too. Facebook is literally about showing other people what you're doing. It's more about everyone else than it is yourself!

I don't believe these people who say they're using FB as a photo album are genuine. If that were the case the albums would be set to private and not shared with everyone.

I don't use Facebook anymore, because I just couldn't fathom why on earth anyone would care what I was up to? If my friends want to see my holiday pics they ask me or I'll send the odd few to my closest friends and family privately. No one else cares what I'm doing.

The people who do this kind of thing post the minutiae of their lives as though they think everyone else is interested in them

Lots of posts like this from fools who don't understand how FB works. YOU CHOOSE TO FOLLOW THEM. You choose to look at what they post. Nobody makes you. They assume that people who have CHOSEN to look at their posts are in fact interested in their posts.

It's not an odd assumption. They don't realise that you choose to follow them only so you can bitch and moan about what they post. Why would they?

I just saw this on Twitter and wondered if it had been prompted by this thread. Everyone reads Mumsnet, right?

twitter.com/Journojacko/status/1551961700399779840

"I'm looking for a psychologist who can comment on the joy of posting holiday images on social media, for a walk around the topic. Shout if you can help or have expertise or stats to share too"

YOU CHOOSE TO FOLLOW THEM. You choose to look at what they post

Actually I don't think that's strictly true anymore with the algorithms choosing what you see. I am quite old fashioned and just want to see people I follow's posts in reverse chronological order. But that appears to be far too easy for the platforms. Only Twitter gives you an option to do it.

I get your point though!

I just don’t look!

I tend to only post pictures once I’m back, and then just an edited highlight

yes hundreds of badly taken photos in excessive. Why not pick one or two and post up when you get home. Plus people who post photos of their kids in bikinis, beyond odd.

I do often put stuff up as locked just to me (so no one else can see it) as a photo Al him.