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Not to want to see your your entire holiday on Facebook

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SirGawain · 23/07/2022 20:49

Facebook 'Friend' who I get on well with is on holiday abroad. They just posted 75 holiday snaps on Facebook AIBU to think this is excessive. Incidentally they have dozens of random "Friends" so they've just told the world that the house is empty so please burgle it.

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Abraxan · 31/07/2022 05:43

Taking photographs does not diminish my holiday experience. Photography is a hobby of mine and I spend a lot of time and money enjoying my hobby at times. Some times I might just use a phone camera, other times it might be a good quality compact which links to my phone storage and other times I'll be using a bigger SLR digital camera and various lenses. Even if I posted 40-50 snaps each day it's probably nowhere near what I actually take or reflect on the time I spend photographing things.

Some people like to spend hours cycling, at the gym, crocheting, hiking or whatever. Taking photographs doesn't prevent me enjoying my holiday; it's often a delete rate part of my holiday plans!



And no, posting you're on holiday to your or privacy protected social media where you only have known friends on there doesn't invalidate most people's insurance.

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CuntyMcBollocks · 31/07/2022 05:30

When I was on Facebook I'd post pics on there as an easy way to keep them in one place, not because I think anybody wanted to actually look at them.

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WomanStanleyWoman2 · 31/07/2022 05:24

Abraxan · 31/07/2022 05:13

I'd just scroll by, maybe a half second sympathy that this friend can't be present on the holiday.

Ha ha! Comments like these always amuse me.

Like the posters are claiming that you can't enjoy a holiday if you have a spare 2-3 minutes to upload some photographs. It takes so little time to upload a post!

Do you seriously not have any chilling time in your holiday days?

I'm currently away. Had some busy city days, some longer 'adventure' days and today is a chilling by the pool morning. Dh and Dd are in the pool. I was reading and then got distracted by a large lizard strolling by so picked my phone up for a snap picture, then sat for 10 minutes reading a bit of news online, checking the weather forecast and then scanned briefly on MN. We often have a spare few minutes whilst the rest of us are showering or getting changed, whilst sat in the balcony or by the pool, during a train journey when moving locations, etc. I don't believe anyone goes in holiday and never has any spare time whatsoever!

Totally agree. A few pages back, there was a puke-makingly twee posts about how people who share posts on Facebook are ‘missing out on lovely family time’ 🤮 Seriously, we’re not living in the age of film cameras, where you’d spent ages eyml

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Abraxan · 31/07/2022 05:13

I'd just scroll by, maybe a half second sympathy that this friend can't be present on the holiday.

Ha ha! Comments like these always amuse me.

Like the posters are claiming that you can't enjoy a holiday if you have a spare 2-3 minutes to upload some photographs. It takes so little time to upload a post!

Do you seriously not have any chilling time in your holiday days?

I'm currently away. Had some busy city days, some longer 'adventure' days and today is a chilling by the pool morning. Dh and Dd are in the pool. I was reading and then got distracted by a large lizard strolling by so picked my phone up for a snap picture, then sat for 10 minutes reading a bit of news online, checking the weather forecast and then scanned briefly on MN. We often have a spare few minutes whilst the rest of us are showering or getting changed, whilst sat in the balcony or by the pool, during a train journey when moving locations, etc. I don't believe anyone goes in holiday and never has any spare time whatsoever!

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Abraxan · 31/07/2022 05:05

I post holiday pictures. It's the quickest and simplest way for me to share snaps from our holiday with Dd. It serves as an additional back up too. My parents, MIL, siblings, etc actually ask to see pictures. They al go in one named album and posted once a day at most, so it's one post to scroll by - incredibly easy and quick for someone to do.

I only have Facebook friends and family who I know. I regularly cull so don't have people from random places I can barely remember. My family and friends already know I'm on holiday so no different to telling them in person safety wise. My account is private with the privacy set, as is Dd's account. We don't use our full names as our FB names and we aren't easily searchable on there. Individual posts and albums also have privacy settings in place. None of the pictures bar the cover one are visible to non FB friends.

I warn people that I will be posting and ti feel free to unfriend, unfollow, snooze or scroll on by. If they chose not to then that's their problem of me posting a message and photo drop once a day is an issue.


If we followed all of MNetters rules in what we can and can't post on FB nothing would be posted ever. It amazes me why some people even have social media they way they want to police what others post!

Besides I enjoy seeing my own friends and families photographs. The odd FB friend I have who posts 'too much' of stuff I do t want to see I have on unfollow and just check in every so often. Again - easy solution.

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skimper · 31/07/2022 04:34

I put photos on more for my memories than for anyone else's viewing really.
But it's the posts of kids or personal stuff that people now share on groups , what's this all about. It's so annoying!!

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ClaryFairchild · 31/07/2022 03:30

I think FaceBook is the modern photo album. People don't bother printing and keeping albums, phones run out of memory etc.

So it's probably not just about sharing (although clearly a lot do love to share) but for their own memories.

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Lolly86 · 31/07/2022 01:57

OopsTooLate · 23/07/2022 21:10

I do this too, I store all my favourite photos on facebook, so I can look back at them myself rather than for others.

If I'd started now I'd probably use google pics or amazon prime storage instead, but I started doing it on facebook years before those were available and can't be arsed changing over 16 years worth of photos now. I'm not forcing anyone to look.

Also, I only have people I like as friends on facebook, I enjoy looking at their photos.

Me too

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saddenedsosaddened · 31/07/2022 01:45

lol jealous much?

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LikeAStar1994 · 31/07/2022 01:10

Isis1981uk · 30/07/2022 18:54

I hate it when people are judgy about what is posted on FB. That's the very purpose & intention of FB - it's reason for existing. If you don't like it, don't use it...or at the very least unfollow anyone who irritates you!

This kind of thread is done to death on Mumsnet.

A miserable population on here. Can't bear to see others happy. It's jealousy plain and simple.

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Isis1981uk · 30/07/2022 18:54

I hate it when people are judgy about what is posted on FB. That's the very purpose & intention of FB - it's reason for existing. If you don't like it, don't use it...or at the very least unfollow anyone who irritates you!

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Marymary987 · 30/07/2022 18:33

Surely the whole point of Facebook is that people share photos etc, if no one posted anything it would be a bit boring on there! Just don’t look at them if you don’t want to.
I posted lots of photos of our holiday at Easter as I knew many of my friends wanted to see them and it was nice to show what we were up to after having the holiday cancelled 3 times due to Covid.

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ldontWanna · 30/07/2022 16:18

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That's a massive generalisation. I don't give a crap if my friends and family like my pics or even look at them. In fact I find it bizarre when some of them like every single picture. There's no expectation for anyone to look,much less at all of them. It's my Facebook,my pics and albums that I post for myself mostly.

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Bubblebubblebah · 30/07/2022 15:59

lionsmane22 · 30/07/2022 14:39

No. They assume that people who have actively chosen to look at their updates wnat to see their updates.

Bizarre and unselfaware is you choosing to look at their updates and then being fucking horrible about your friends and family, when you're the one with the issue

Amen to that.

I can quite see why so many people are not having great relationships with their families now....

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lionsmane22 · 30/07/2022 14:39

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No. They assume that people who have actively chosen to look at their updates wnat to see their updates.

Bizarre and unselfaware is you choosing to look at their updates and then being fucking horrible about your friends and family, when you're the one with the issue

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UWhatNow · 29/07/2022 18:18

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CloverGreen · 29/07/2022 16:15

Someone on my fb recently posted 58 status updates throughout a 6 day holiday. A lot of mundane stuff like "so hot going to the cafe for ice cream then get some dinner later." Surely she would have a better time if she didn't feel the need to stop and narrate everything.

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CulturePigeon · 29/07/2022 16:15

girlfrien

Yes, I know that no-one HAS to look, but it's more complex than that. It's the whole depressing thing about people snap, snapping away mindlessly and having the lack of self-awareness not to ask 'Does anyone, apart from my very nearest and dearest, give a hoot?'

I may come from another planet, but it would never occur to me that my holiday or day out was of any interest to anyone else except close family (possibly...) unless something really exciting and disastrous happened. Similarly, I grit my teeth when someone tries to show me their pics. Once had a friend's husband show me about 100 pics of his trek through Nepal on a mobile phone while I was trying to enjoy my restaurant meal. Yes- I did politely try to stop him, but he was pretty determined.

I've never been on Facebook for precisely this reason - that, whatever you say, there is pressure in the real world to look at and 'like' people's ruddy photographs. I'm glad I've never had to deal with the offence-taking and showing-off that goes along with all this.

And as for the sheer number of photos sometimes - it's like when you read a novel and it's about 1,000 pages long and you think...didn't the editor say 'it needs to be one third this length? It's just lazy. Edit down to 10, or better still, 5, pics and then people might be more interested.

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ldontWanna · 29/07/2022 14:57

girlfrien · 29/07/2022 13:35

How about don't want to see everything you do every day on Facebook and not want to see every cafe or pub you stop off on holiday for a drink at
Some ppl are addicted to posting every little thing on FB. It's sad and has time to read it all etc.

Does your FB have some kind of special feature that grabs you by the neck, sticks your eyes wide open and makes you scroll through every single picture?

I don't see more than one or two (+73) and tbh sometimes I scroll so quickly and I have no interest that even those don't register.

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hatedbythedailymail22 · 29/07/2022 13:48

girlfrien · 29/07/2022 13:35

How about don't want to see everything you do every day on Facebook and not want to see every cafe or pub you stop off on holiday for a drink at
Some ppl are addicted to posting every little thing on FB. It's sad and has time to read it all etc.

Again, if you don't want to see it, just don't look?

How are people so confused about how such a simple thing works?

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Bubblebubblebah · 29/07/2022 13:45

And some people are obviously addicted to readong every pist and checking every pic😁
For people who supposedly don't care everyone seems to have very detailed knowledge of other's social media content😁

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girlfrien · 29/07/2022 13:35

How about don't want to see everything you do every day on Facebook and not want to see every cafe or pub you stop off on holiday for a drink at
Some ppl are addicted to posting every little thing on FB. It's sad and has time to read it all etc.

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WomanStanleyWoman2 · 29/07/2022 12:36

SirGawain · 23/07/2022 20:49

Facebook 'Friend' who I get on well with is on holiday abroad. They just posted 75 holiday snaps on Facebook AIBU to think this is excessive. Incidentally they have dozens of random "Friends" so they've just told the world that the house is empty so please burgle it.

But as others have said, you’ll never see all 75 photos at once unless you actively choose to open an album or hit the ‘+70’ link. You will see the first five photos and can scroll past them in a second.

As for the ‘OMG you’ll get burgled!!!’ hyperbole that I only ever see on MN - I have a lot of friends on Facebook that you’d probably dismiss as ‘random’ (former colleagues, friends of friends) and guess what? None of them have my address. Given that for 18 months it was very difficult to have visitors, some genuinely good friends have never been to my house. Anyone who knows my address isn’t going to burgle me.

I see the ridiculous ‘But it will invalidate your insurance!!!’ myth still persists too 🙄 Think about it - if this was true, how could you ever tell anyone you were going away? Whenever you booked time off work, you’d have to pretend you were staying at home to decorate just in case any of your colleagues decided to take it upon themselves to break in. MN is full of threads about the joy of community and how people keep an eye on their neighbours’ houses when they go away a but surely actively telling people, and people who definitely know your address, would invalidate your insurance too if this was true?

It’s also a myth that no one shared their holiday photos before social media. It used to be very common to invite friends and family around for the evening to show them your pictures - and in that situation, you really do get stuck with looking at every single one. With Facebook you can just scroll on.

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crispsandnuts · 29/07/2022 11:56

Holidayy · 29/07/2022 08:30

"Yes definitely, taking 900 photos instead of enjoying it."

900? Exaggerating much? You know it's possible to take photographs and enjoy yourself at the same time.

Yesterday we did something new and I took photographs (and posted them to Facebook for my family and friends to see). We had the most amazing time and I'll look back on the photos happily - when they pop up as a memory and I'll print some for a scrapbook too.

Between us we took around 50 photos. I posted 20 of them. We spent 6 hours there. Trust me when I say we thoroughly enjoyed it despite managing to snap a few photos

Yes I was exaggerating, thought it was a light hearted thread but some people are quite touch about it.

Glad you enjoyed your day, photos or not

Just hope you didn't put #feeling blessed😀, thats a whole new thread...

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hatedbythedailymail22 · 29/07/2022 09:52

I love seeing nice places but would rather look at photos on tripadvisor or hotel websites and not scrolling through photos of someones DC eating nuggets at a dodgy looking hotel

Then do that. What is stopping you?

Some of you seem to have a different version of facebook that forces you to look at things you hate. Get the proper one, where you can look at whatever you want to and not the stuff you don't want to.

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