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Not to want to see your your entire holiday on Facebook

207 replies

SirGawain · 23/07/2022 20:49

Facebook 'Friend' who I get on well with is on holiday abroad. They just posted 75 holiday snaps on Facebook AIBU to think this is excessive. Incidentally they have dozens of random "Friends" so they've just told the world that the house is empty so please burgle it.

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ShanghaiDiva · 23/07/2022 22:51

I like holiday photos on Facebook especially if it’s of somewhere I’ve never visited. I probably would not view all 75 though .

catwithflowers · 23/07/2022 22:52

SheilasLemonade · 23/07/2022 20:57

My MIL send us 20+ pics a day on WhatsApp of their holiday. Then posts them on Instagram and Facebook.

THEN when they come home, FIL makes a special DVD which we have to sit through.

We've had a week in Athens, a weekend in Bognor and a cruise to sit through so far this year...

😂😂😂

Bournetilly · 23/07/2022 22:53

YABU just don’t look at them.
Some people (myself included) like looking at friends/ families holiday photos and it’s up to them what they post/ who can see them.

Darbs76 · 23/07/2022 22:54

FB is for sharing things, I personally enjoy seeing holiday photo’s, if you don’t then no need to open any of them.

WidgetDigit2022 · 23/07/2022 22:57

Totally agree. I find it cringey and very self involved.

My cousin is doing the same at the moment. Posting everything theyre doing and eating. Not only do I not care, but it's also a car crash of a relationship with the person he's gone with, so it's totally fake and we all know it.

I just ignore, after making a sly remark to my partner 😂

WidgetDigit2022 · 23/07/2022 22:59

The worst are the full body pics in bikinis etc. The pic clearly isn't about the holiday, scenery or activity. It's about their body and it's screams immature to me.

savehannah · 23/07/2022 23:00

I'd much rather see people's holiday pics than all the adverts and companies who fill my Facebook. I miss the days when I could see pics of my friends' kids (who live far away) because hardly anyone posts pics of kids any more. I am interested in my friends' lives. But then I'm only FB friends with actual friends.

I share a lot of pictures, mainly for the benefit of the grandparents and other family members who like to see them. As others have said if you don't want to look at their holiday pics it's not compulsory. You don't even have to go Facebook at all. I'm not sure what you do want from Facebook if it isn't to see what your friends are up to?

Blameofmylife · 23/07/2022 23:02

There are 2 separate issues surely unless the reason you don’t want to see the 75 photos is that you are soooo worried they might be burgled?

don’t look/mute them/get a grip. They are having a lovely time and are putting up photos to a) record and remember their holiday themselves and b) share these memories with people who care about them an are happy they are having a lovely time. Unfriend them if you don’t give a shit

savehannah · 23/07/2022 23:04

Also as others have said one of the reasons I post pics is I love looking at the Memories from years ago. It's like a photo diary.

Seriou · 23/07/2022 23:04

When it’s somewhere really grim and they are genuinely made up with the place too - ughh.

Cheeseandlobster · 23/07/2022 23:12

Oh stop with the faux concern about burglary. As stated numerous times, lots of people use Facebook as an online photo album. I personally love seeing people's holiday photos whether they are in Skeggy or the Maldives. If you don't like it then don't look but you are just coming across on here as jealous despite how much you protest

TeapotTitties · 23/07/2022 23:14

WidgetDigit2022 · 23/07/2022 22:59

The worst are the full body pics in bikinis etc. The pic clearly isn't about the holiday, scenery or activity. It's about their body and it's screams immature to me.

Why not though! If they're happy with how they look now, they might not be happy forever.

It's nice they have the confidence to do that.

hulahooper2 · 23/07/2022 23:16

You don’t actually have to look at them x

TeapotTitties · 23/07/2022 23:16

Seriou · 23/07/2022 23:04

When it’s somewhere really grim and they are genuinely made up with the place too - ughh.

Would you rather they were desperately unhappy with the place?

Honestly, I can't get over how some people on this thread seem to resent other people showing how happy they are on their own SM accounts.

There's enough misery in the world without that shit.

MyDogsTheBestDog · 23/07/2022 23:21

I use Facebook as a back up photo montage / album for pretty much my whole life. I have lots of private albums and some public holiday albums though I only share with friends the best photos. Computers,.cameras,.USBs, storage, it all breaks down, but I see Facebook as an online, relatively resilient storage and sharing facility. So YABU

Blurp · 23/07/2022 23:25

My SIL posts about 80 photos a day when she's on holiday, and they are awful. The same photo of the same people taken 10 times in 5 seconds. Interesting landmarks hidden by her posing in front of them. The back of people's heads as they walk down a nondescript road. But I just scroll past and ignore; she's generally quite needy and lacks self-esteem, and I guess she just wants everyone to say how fab she looks and what a nice time she must be having, but I just can't be bothered with it.

Lisad1231981 · 23/07/2022 23:27

We post holiday snaps, as we create a Facebook album between us and the teen. We have a house sitter so not worried about it.
We never used to, but when DH got cancer we started recording days out and holidays more to show the children and to have those memories to look back on.

Bubblebubblebah · 23/07/2022 23:27

The burglary risk is only if you have everything public and are... I dunno... Interesting and obviously loaded. Frankly, from my experience with burglars, many are not on the level to go through that level of planning and research to check facebooks, find adresses, plan quickly and whatnot...

Holidayy · 23/07/2022 23:28

I love peoples holiday pics. I also have house sitters

Kidsaretryingtodestroyme · 23/07/2022 23:31

I think maybe up to 5 key photos is fine - the villa, beach, pool, restaurant etc but excessive photo taking and posting always makes me question how much genuine fun the people are having.

When I’m having a great time I don’t want to spend it taking loads of photos and posting it on Facebook. They must be really bored to have posted 75.

drinkallthecoffee · 23/07/2022 23:31

I get you OP.

I was on holiday with my ex dps family once and his SIL was the type to plaster every minute of her holidays on Facebook. They were always titled 'Destination name - part 1' and continued into part 5 and 6 sometimes. Many were the same photo over and over again. Anyway this one particular holiday had really bad signal in the hotel and she was getting sooooo frustrated that her posts weren't sending! And then that they were posting in the wrong order 😂.

Often when I see this I just think, can't you just enjoy your holiday without having to show off about it? The odd picture or two is fine, but albums of the same thing over and over? Nah.

TeapotTitties · 23/07/2022 23:36

When I’m having a great time I don’t want to spend it taking loads of photos and posting it on Facebook. They must be really bored to have posted 75.

That doesn't make sense.

Posting 75 photos would take less than about 3 minutes probably.

camperjam · 23/07/2022 23:37

Just have people you actually like as Facebook friends

StanleyBostitch · 23/07/2022 23:58

WeAreTheHeroes · 23/07/2022 20:58

Oh god I agree OP. The people who do this kind of thing post the minutiae of their lives as though they think everyone else is interested in them. Ime they are often pretty insecure. A Facebook friend of mine posted over 60 photos of a local tourist attraction the other day. I didn't bother looking at them after the first couple because it's somewhere I'm interested in visiting and experiencing myself. I don't want to see someone else's photos of absolutely everything there is to see there! There's also a complete lack of self-awareness, that they could be spoiling it for someone else.

This. It's the people who think that everyone is fascinated with the most minor details of their lives. I find it particularly funny when they don't post for a few days mid-trip and then come back apologising profusely for missing a few days. Yeah, no one cared, in fact your silence was much appreciated!

Gingersay · 24/07/2022 00:45

We have relatives who do this but with a running commentary of their day think - we went to the beach this morning then popped into a cafe I had a coffee and a strawberry tart wife had tea and a scone with cream and jam - with lots of photos of said beach, tart and scone. Three times a day!! It used to annoy me but now I read them to kids and we call it the exciting adventures of old Aunt and Uncle. The kids love it!