Strange man judged me for putting hand gel on my 2 year olds hands. AIBU?

[NojudgementMum]

I was in a queue in a cafe today and I had my 2 year old DS with me in his buggy. I looked down and notice his hands were mucky and I didn’t have wipes or tissue with me. So I grabbed a small bit of hand gel from the counter and rubbed some on his hands to clean off the muck.

This older man standing behind me stared at me and said “he’ll have that rubbed into his eyes any second now”. His tone was cold as he glared at me judgementally!

It took me a few seconds to register what he said because I was so shocked and taken a back by his intrusion.

I would never put my son in danger, I only used a tiny bit of gel and waited for it to dry in fully so he wouldn’t put it in his mouth or near his face!

Who does this man think he is judging me like that? He stood there on his own in his nice suit, seemingly having a stress-free day, meanwhile I’m struggling to do my best and get through these long summer days with my 2 children (DD was in camp)!

Why can’t people mind their own business?! What right do men have to judge mums like this? The fact that he was a man pissed me off even more! He was in his 60s and I’d say like most men back then he never lifted a finger to help with his own kids back in the day!

AIBU?

Gosh there are some unsympathetic nit pickers out on this thread!

Generalisations and judgements aside, yanbu.

It's horrible and jarring, to have someone criticise you, when you're just doing your best, going about your day. Maybe you're "over reacting" but so what, your feelings are your feelings. They're valid. And you can't change how shit this man made you feel, just because you "shouldn't" feel that way.

I get it.

You were stressed, doing your best. This man had nothing to gain by butting in, besides making himself feel superior. Did he think his comment was going to help your day go easier? No? Then he can fuck right off. Want to help Mr? then maybe offer to help get a tissue if the OP is doing something so wrong. If you've not got something constructive to say then keep your bloody beak out and piss off.

You've every right to feel annoyed by this. His comment was unnecessary and unhelpful. Try and let it go.

And ignore the nit picking and attacks on here. Some people just love an argument for the sake of it, and will pick on every little detail to prove what a shitty person you are.

Everyone judges. We do. The best we can do is to notice ourselves doing it, and try not to, as yes, it's not nice and often not accurate. But hey ho, it's done, and it's not going to make you feel any better getting into arguments where you justify yourself to strangers on here, who are just out for a disagreement.

Random man - either actually offer help or STFU!