To think it’s perfectly possible to assemble a lasagne in my half hour lunch break?

[KensingtonGore]

I did this yesterday and my husband says I didn’t. He thinks I couldn’t possibly have had time, and therefore I must have used working time (I was working from home). I have explained but he’s not listening.

To be clear:
I had the meat sauce in the freezer, so I defrosted and heated it up a bit in the microwave.
I used no-cook lasagne sheets.
So all I had to do was make white sauce and put it all together.
I left it to settle and put it in the oven later.

Perfectly possible, right? I’m kind of flabbergasted that he thinks it isn’t. And very pissed off that therefore I must be lying.

I hope you didn't let him eat any lasagne.

You slacker.
What about cleaning the house and doing 6 loads of washing?

Maybe he's a bit crap like me in the kitchen. It would take me ages to make a lasagne.

Easy peasy. He is jealous

Does this kind of thing happen a lot OP?

He doesn't seem very respectful to you

This man does not deserve to eat any lasagne.

Clearly he needs to spend much more time in the kitchen to get his own cooking speeds up to scratch too.

He's being an idiot.

However, there is some questionable food hygiene in your method!

To quote MN “ you don’t have a lasagne problem, you have a DH problem”. Plus why can so few people spell lasagne?

If he thought you didn't have time in your lunch break to assemble the lasagne, then why would he think you'd have time to collect your daughter?

He sounds like he doesn't do much cooking, child driving, appreciating you or thinking.

If he thought you didn't have time in your lunch break to assemble the lasagne, then why would he think you'd have time to collect your daughter?

Because obviously Op has so little work to do that she could piss about for as long as she wanted with the lasagne & could have finished at anytime required to fetch her daughter.

What?

It's entirely up to the op what she does in her free time. Not a fan of wfh I take it?

Because the spelling rules for Italian and English are completely different.

I get corrected when I ask for a panino for example. Even some dictionaries have panini as singular. I'll murder expresso people though.

Technically you are also wrong because one lasagna is a lasagna. Two (or the pasta sheets themselves) are lasagne. A good example of Muphrey's Law. Which I have probably also invoked!

I’ve no idea why you replied with ‘what’.

As for anything else - I can’t be bothered trying to clear up any confusion you have regarding my post.

think what you like.

just coming back to this, even if the lasagna did take you 45 minutes to assemble, why would that mean you have plenty of free time? If that were the case, the obvious good faith interpretation would be you had 45 minutes to spare today and you chose to use it making a meal for the family (saving you or your DH from having to do it in the evening). Instead of having a cup of tea and reading the newspaper like you might of done if you weren’t WFH, or like your DH might have done. “I don’t have time to do X family errand because I spent my lunch break doing Y household chore”, whereas he’s turned it into “you were able to spare half an hour from work to do one chore so that means you can spare another 30 minutes to do another chore.”

It doesn’t make any logical sense unless he doesn’t respect your work or the labour you perform for the family.

I couldn’t make a lasagne in thirty minutes, but I don’t think that is what you have said you have done, you correctly say assembled it. Strange thing for your husband to argue over. Perhaps he thought you were saying you made it from scratch.

The OP said, 'Assemble' which takes 2 mins if everything is already prepped.

Making a béchamel sauce takes 5 mins.

Because the spelling rules for Italian and English are completely different.

Yep paninis - drives me insane, also Americans who talk about a spaghetti or a ravioli (I watch MasterChef USA)

I did exactly that yesterday, in fact it only took me 15 mins. Got the sauce going, left that simmering gently while I assembled the meat and pasta, slapped sauce on, grated cheese, voila.

I'd have shoved the lasagne up his arse. What a tosser

Your husband sounds like a massive twat.

You've got much bigger issues than a spat over lasagne.

I think you two sound like you need to stop competing with each other to be the busiest and the hardest-pressed, and keeping score, and being resentful and instead work as a team.

If you make a lasagne, that is good for the team. If he collects DD, that is good for the team.

Instead it sounds like if he has to collect DD he experiences that as "bad" for him and "good" for you - and you owe him something.

Etc etc.

Does he have form for accusing you of lying and treating you as the default parent with the unimportant job when he fails to organise an activity properly?

Everything else is secondary.

Definitely possible, I often make one to freeze or eat later in the week while making bolognese. It only adds 5 minutes to cooking time (I use packet mix white sauce & sheets straight from packet). The only bit that will have taken time is the defrosting, but you could easily prepare everything else while the microwave does it, then a few minutes poring into a dish.

The issue here isn't lasagne.

Well I know what I'm having for dinner now.