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To think it’s perfectly possible to assemble a lasagne in my half hour lunch break?

105 replies

KensingtonGore · 21/07/2022 15:06

I did this yesterday and my husband says I didn’t. He thinks I couldn’t possibly have had time, and therefore I must have used working time (I was working from home). I have explained but he’s not listening.

To be clear:
I had the meat sauce in the freezer, so I defrosted and heated it up a bit in the microwave.
I used no-cook lasagne sheets.
So all I had to do was make white sauce and put it all together.
I left it to settle and put it in the oven later.

Perfectly possible, right? I’m kind of flabbergasted that he thinks it isn’t. And very pissed off that therefore I must be lying.

OP posts:
KyaClark · 21/07/2022 15:10

What a weird thing to accuse you of lying about.

purplecorkheart · 21/07/2022 15:13

Why does he think you would lie about something like that? It is perfectly possible to do as you said. Perhaps he cannot multitask.

ForeverandAlways4 · 21/07/2022 15:13

Very weird. Also do you work for your husband? Because if not why in the world would he give a flying shit if you've used work time or not?

MiddleParking · 21/07/2022 15:13

Is he your boss? If not why does he think it’s okay to act like it?

Sweatinglikeabitch · 21/07/2022 15:13

Why does he even care?

Poppyseed14 · 21/07/2022 15:14

That's such a non event OP 😕

Whatwouldscullydo · 21/07/2022 15:14

With previous prepped ingredients like that of course u can.

What an odd accusation

coffeecupsandfairylights · 21/07/2022 15:15

Why does it matter? What a weird thing for him to accuse you of lying about!

Annoyedwithmyself · 21/07/2022 15:15

Yes of course, it's just the assembly and bechamel. Maybe he didn't catch where you said the meat sauce was already made

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/07/2022 15:16

This is definitely time for "you're not the boss of me".

Exiledone · 21/07/2022 15:19

That's not technically making a lasagne though is it? Does he realise the bolognese was already done?

knittingaddict · 21/07/2022 15:19

Of course you can assemble a lasagne in that time.

I'm much more concerned about your abusive husband though.

KarrotKake · 21/07/2022 15:19

From your title,I was all set to say not a chance.
But given the ingredients you already had, of course it was possible.

Skinterior · 21/07/2022 15:22

Next time he can do it

KensingtonGore · 21/07/2022 15:22

The context is that yesterday he expected me to pick up DD from a day out that he had organised. Which finished an hour before the end of my working day. I had said this was difficult, given my contracted work hours.

So he was making a point about how much free time I must have had and that therefore I had no right to complain about collecting DD.

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Blankbias · 21/07/2022 15:23

Goodness, seems like there is going to be a big backstory here!

Fairislefandango · 21/07/2022 15:23

Yes of course, with all the stuff prepared like that. Your husband is a weirdo. Why does he care what time you used anyway?

KensingtonGore · 21/07/2022 15:24

Poppyseed14 · 21/07/2022 15:14

That's such a non event OP 😕

Yes, I agree. It’s sad.

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Fairislefandango · 21/07/2022 15:24

Cross-posted. Wow - he sounds very tiresome.

caringcarer · 21/07/2022 15:25

Very odd accusation as that is perfectly possible to do especially if you had meat sauce already made in freezer. I bet he will enjoy eating it though. Mine takes a bit longer because I chop up tiny pieces of peppers into mine.

20viona · 21/07/2022 15:26

Of course you can, I could do one from scratch in an hour.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 21/07/2022 15:28

He sounds like an absolute dick. Sorry if he’s normally nice, but this would put my back up.

of course it’s possible - the key thing is you’d already made the sauce. Perhaps he misunderstood this? But wasn’t he just graceful you’d given up your break to make a nice (reasonably economical too) meal for the family?

PersonaNonGarter · 21/07/2022 15:28

He’s gaslight-y and controlling and that’s why this is making you so frustrated?

MajorCarolDanvers · 21/07/2022 15:29

I can make a lasagne from scratch in 15 minutes ready for the oven.

Burnt0range · 21/07/2022 15:31

How bizarre! Confused