To think it’s perfectly possible to assemble a lasagne in my half hour lunch break?

[KensingtonGore]

I did this yesterday and my husband says I didn’t. He thinks I couldn’t possibly have had time, and therefore I must have used working time (I was working from home). I have explained but he’s not listening.

To be clear:
I had the meat sauce in the freezer, so I defrosted and heated it up a bit in the microwave.
I used no-cook lasagne sheets.
So all I had to do was make white sauce and put it all together.
I left it to settle and put it in the oven later.

Perfectly possible, right? I’m kind of flabbergasted that he thinks it isn’t. And very pissed off that therefore I must be lying.

This is when you say:

I was making the lasagne for our family you ungrateful PIG so it doesn’t matter if it took me 5 mins or 31 mins, I cooked FOR OUR FAMILY, I wasn’t getting my nails done or sitting on my arse. Deal with it!!!!

Thanks all. I know it’s a silly (petty) issue but I hate not being believed and I didn’t think it was an impossible feat. But then I wasn’t sure, so that was my first ever AIBU.

And I still had to leave early to collect DD.

Sounds like my MIL .... I work from home and I swear she thinks I'm retired.

He sounds like an unbearable prick.

He sounds like a dick OP. Is he? Or was this a one off?

YANBU and I empathize with your frustration- I’ve had similar head-exploding arguments with my H when he’s being a total dick.

Tbf my bechamel would take at least half an hour to make so I’d need longer but each to their own and your husband is definitely still BU and should just be grateful for yummy Lasange

Och - demo state it to him by assembling it again on his head.

This^

I was so ready to comment "not a good one" until I read you had your meat and sauce ready and frozen. In which case, I applaud you for cracking it out in your lunch break, great work!

Ohhhh I see, even if that's the case you could def assemble a lasagne in 30 mins.

Oh so he DOES think he's your boss and he directs your work? And you did pick up DD even though you had work and he organised the issue.

I wish I was on my phone so I could put some duck emojis in a row for you. He sounds awful.

It is perfectly possible to wrap a homemade lasagne round the back of his head in a lot less time than it would for him to clean it off

Turn it back on him OP.
'I can't believe that you wouldn't be able to assemble a lasagne in 30 minutes. You wouldn't get on a cooking show.'

I can make a lasagne from scratch in 15 minutes ready for the oven.

Including the ragu?!

I didn’t get any further than than ‘heated up a bit’ 😱 then not fully cooked.

That does sound like a recipe for food poisoning though. Your pre-made frozen meat sauce was heated up a bit and in the bacteria multiplying "danger zone" temp for too long - presumably all afternoon.

It should have been either kept cold by defrosting in the fridge, assembling lasagne with cold components and kept refrigerated until ready to cook, or microwave the sauce as you assembled the lasagne and immediately cook to get to a safe temperature. ie over approx 75 degrees.

Perfectly possible to assemble in your lunch break though.

He's saying that because it would never occur to him to organise himself and multitask to get things done.

I bet he stands staring into space or at his phone while waiting for the kettle to boil instead of making use of the 2 minutes to empty the dishwasher, check the fridge contents or all the other things that always need doing in a kitchen.

It'll be fine, honestly. It's going in the oven for a proper cooking later. I do things like this all the time and have never been ill.

But absolutely possible to do in half hour. I have walked home from work in a lunch hour and made a lasagne like yours (ragu already made, white sauce from scratch).

I can make a lasagne from scratch in 15 minutes ready for the oven

How??? You have to peel and chop onions, garlic, celery and whatever other veg you're using. Fry them off, brown the mince, season with herbs, add tomatoes/passata/stock/ wine and reduce. Granted the chopping is the labour intensive bit but that whole process takes me about an hour and a half. Then you still need to assemble ragu and pasta sheets in layers, make white sauce and apply it. I'm not getting 15 mins at all unless your ragu is just raw mince with no veg!

Christ that will taste revolting

It sounds like him not accepting you are working when wfh. How you manage your day is up to you. It’s entirely possible to assemble a lasagne or put washing in while kettle boils. Leaving an hour early to collect dd isn’t same at all. I’d be very tempted to say to him nice you think I should spend my lunchtime having a break, nice of you to want to cook dinner on the days I work.

It’s a bit grim that you heated up cooked sauce a bit then left it to cook yet again. And you don’t really need the no cook sheets, just cook it a bit longer and lower, especially if it’s been stood before going in the oven.
but yes, that could be assembled in 10 minutes if your white sauce is also already made.

MN lesson. Never claim to make a ragu in anything under 3 hours.