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To not want work colleague to go to same resort as me at same time?

141 replies

malificent7 · 20/07/2022 13:46

I booked my summer holiday last year for August. My colleague booked his to same resort with his wife about 3 months ago after hearing where i was going. Just came back...fine.

However,him and his wife liked it so much that they are thinking about going back to same resort in August when I will be there.

Now i like my colleague but i want to get away from it all. Not bump into him on the beach. Aibu to find this odd/ unboundaried?

And no...there's nothing romantic going on.

OP posts:
fromsurrey · 20/07/2022 16:13

Would not bother me at all

LondonJax · 20/07/2022 16:18

I must admit I'd feel the same. I know you're unlikely to bump into them (if they're the average holiday maker) and I know you can't stop them going.

But it would make me feel they're a bit like getting one of those limpet holiday makers - the ones who you've been polite to on the first night and now seem to be everywhere.

I mean, when you're on holiday you can sunbathe topless, show yourself up on the dance floor or fall over drunk every night safe in the knowledge that no-one knows you. You may be the one that someone is giggling about when they get home but who cares? Except when that someone is someone you work with.

Are they the type that would be the 'limpet holiday maker' OP? Or would they sneak out of the restaurant if they saw you there?

BellePeppa · 20/07/2022 16:32

2bazookas · 20/07/2022 14:11

you're the one being very odd.

Not really. I would cringe if I knew a work colleague was at the same resort, at the same time as me. Seeing each other in your swimsuits 🤮

Quia · 20/07/2022 16:33

Will you both be staying in the same hotel?

mum11970 · 20/07/2022 16:35

He’s going to be at the same resort in the same month as you? Do the dates overlap, how big is the resort? Hardly the end of the world unless he happens to be in the same hotel and on the lounger next to you. You cannot dictate that no one else you know goes to that resort when you are there.

BellePeppa · 20/07/2022 16:38

MurderAtTheBeautyPageant · 20/07/2022 15:30

I know someone who bumped into a colleague at a swingers club. She said she tried not to look any lower than his chin and then scurried away into the darkness as quick as she could.

Lucky she didn’t get his car keys😬

BigSandyBalls2015 · 20/07/2022 16:42

Christ I'd hate this OP.

I like to let all my rolls hang out in my swimsuit, drink my bodyweight in cocktails, and have free reign on the all inclusive buffet .... wouldn't like to feel judged by a colleague as that obv isn't how I behave at work!

Actually, thinking about it, I'd be a bit concerned that I might overdo the cocktails/local wine and tell him what I thought of him copying our holiday 😮

Maireas · 20/07/2022 16:44

Duttercup · 20/07/2022 14:34

Who wouldn't find this a bit annoying??

I mean there's nothing you can do but... I do not want my pina colada lounging to be witnessed by colleagues. I can see why this would be irritating.

I wouldn't.
I can't see how it matters? If you see them, you're polite. Easy.

Singleandproud · 20/07/2022 16:45

I went on holiday to tenerife, flew from a regional airport and ended up sat in front of one of my students (secondary school) which was awkward enough but thought at least we will go our separate ways when we arrive, but nope, we ended up at the same small resort. I spent the whole fortnight panicking said student was recording me by the pool and sending the video back to his mates.

Maireas · 20/07/2022 16:46

I genuinely don't see the problem.
You see someone you know while you're on holiday? Why is that a problem?

Maireas · 20/07/2022 16:51

Singleandproud · 20/07/2022 16:45

I went on holiday to tenerife, flew from a regional airport and ended up sat in front of one of my students (secondary school) which was awkward enough but thought at least we will go our separate ways when we arrive, but nope, we ended up at the same small resort. I spent the whole fortnight panicking said student was recording me by the pool and sending the video back to his mates.

Ah, one of your students would be different!

Riapia · 20/07/2022 16:52

Bet you’re a bundle of fun at the work Christmas do. 😁

doris9034 · 20/07/2022 16:54

My boss and I went to the same campsite at the same time a few years ago - totally by accident and we saw each other once. Also, when I was a kid my nan and grandad used to take us away to Skegness for a week in the summer - most of the rest of their village were there at the same time cos thats when the miners had their week off so it was the only time for a holiday and the only place most people could afford.
Everyone has their own things to do - it will be fine!

fizzywat · 20/07/2022 17:03

Ah shit like this happens. If you see them - smile and say enjoy your holiday, and no more. Unless they are absolutely without any social skills at all they will want the same thing.

Reminds me of years ago when I was younger and carefree. Travelled from Cyprus to Israel for a tour of the Holy Land. Hadn't much money but Israel always fascinated me and it was too close to miss. So on a shoestring budget myself and friend booked to share a four berth cabin on the ferry across. Yes you guessed it, the other two who arrived in the cabin were my immediate (bitch of a ) supervisor at work and her husband. OMG. 😳No one knew where to look!

Myself and friend got hammered in the bar on the ship and I don't remember much of the trip after that. Thankfully they weren't in our hotel either in Cyprus or Israel, and we managed on the return by getting hammered again. The joys of youth.

Nothing was said back at work by said supervisor, but I regaled the "tea club mates" with pretend stories about her nose picking, snoring, sweaty husband. Quietly of course.

BalloonsAndWhistles · 20/07/2022 17:08

I’d hate that. What if the only sunbeds left are right next to there’s…do you..

a) Sit next to them in awkward silence
b) Sit next to them and occasionally make comments about Geoff from accounts
c) Walk on by and fume whilst they’re lounging there in the sun and you’ve got nowhere to sit.

Not cool at all.

balalake · 20/07/2022 17:10

Work and the rest of life I like to keep separate. Even on a day to day basis, never mind holidays. I'd feel probably more unhappy than you and would change plans if possible.

tableanadchairs · 20/07/2022 17:11

we went to Lanzarote a few years ago and both DD and DS met quite a few school friends in the resort although no the hotel . It was like an afterschool club.

Mumsnut · 20/07/2022 17:15

Brings back memories. South of France, nearly 40 years ago. Friend sunbathing topless, looked up and there was her boss …

Maireas · 20/07/2022 17:18

BalloonsAndWhistles · 20/07/2022 17:08

I’d hate that. What if the only sunbeds left are right next to there’s…do you..

a) Sit next to them in awkward silence
b) Sit next to them and occasionally make comments about Geoff from accounts
c) Walk on by and fume whilst they’re lounging there in the sun and you’ve got nowhere to sit.

Not cool at all.

Or d) say hello and enquire after the enjoyment of their holiday, then carry on as before

Xmasbaby11 · 20/07/2022 17:49

I think once you've bumped into each other once or twice, you won't think anything of it and it won't feel like a thing. It's not like it's a nightmare colleague who will want to spend lots of time with you.

rnsaslkih · 20/07/2022 17:52

I'd hate it. Holidays are to get away from everything.

AgentProvocateur · 20/07/2022 17:58

I went on holiday once and met a colleague (not a close one that I’d discuss holidays with) with a woman who was very much not his wife!! It was very awkward.

Dic · 20/07/2022 18:01

I can beat that!

When I was little we went to Eurocamps in France and we were in the tent next to my class teacher. I bet she loved seeing me every morning

Splicebaked · 20/07/2022 18:05

It's weird OP and I'd hate it too

marcopront · 20/07/2022 18:05

When I was at school, many moons ago, another student while on holiday went out to the balcony and saw the headmaster on the opposite balcony.