To not want work colleague to go to same resort as me at same time?

[malificent7]

I booked my summer holiday last year for August. My colleague booked his to same resort with his wife about 3 months ago after hearing where i was going. Just came back...fine.

However,him and his wife liked it so much that they are thinking about going back to same resort in August when I will be there.

Now i like my colleague but i want to get away from it all. Not bump into him on the beach. Aibu to find this odd/ unboundaried?

And no...there's nothing romantic going on.

I would be gutted to go to the same resort at the same time as a colleague.
When I'm on holiday I want to escape work or any reminders of work YANBU

They’re entirely normal as evidenced by numerous posters agreeing with the op.

When we talk about holidays, we talk about getting away from it all. ‘It all’ definitely includes colleagues and neighbours as a minimum IMO. No, you can’t stop them going, but I reckon most people would be annoyed in op’s shoes. I’d be making plans not to be at the resort itself much of the time if I couldn’t cancel and rebook somewhere else.

What is up with posters these days? Need therapy because someone doesn't want to bump into Bob from accounts on holiday.

No, I wouldn't like it either. Holidays are a chance to leave all that behind. Sure, you and Bob won't be meeting up for dinner but I wouldn't really want to be caught in a bikini near Bob, or having to make small talk by the bar whilst waiting for drinks. It is awkward.

Your taking it to personal especially when he hasn't even mentioned meeting up.

I would just get over it

YANBU

Its a bit odd they booked to go the same time as you and same resort. Unless its some amazing deal, but even then.

As much as I like my collegues, I wouldn't want to be bumping into them at the hotel pool bar when relaxing in my bikini! It would just feel really awkward!
Maybe him being a guy he hasn't thought of this, but I wonder if his wife knows its the same time as you, because I'd be a bit weirded out if again I was sunbathing on the beach and one of DP's collegues walked by.

Accidental booking, you just get over, but to intentionally do this is just plain odd.

So although you can't tell him not to go, I feel for you.

Maybe August is the only time he could get off?

Just change your dates then. I don't think it's weird at all - people take other people's recommendations about things all the time. I assume it's a co-incidence that you are both going at the same time this year, but why do you think your colleague and his wife will even want to interact with you while you are there?

Agree @malificent7 Very odd, picking the same place AND the same time. Weirdo. I'd be moving my holiday tbh.

I bumped into my colleague as we were both checking in to the same hotel in Cuba. It was my honeymoon. Didn’t see them again until checkout. It was fine.

I'm waiting for a drip feed where you tell us its a nudist or swingers resort op! 😱
I understand why you feel odd, but it'll be fine, it'll be no more than a quick hello occasionally if you don't want to socialise with them. No need for it to be awkward. If you want to get rat arsed every night and dance on tables it might make for raised eyebrows at the photocopier afterwards though!

Sure it's annoying, but what can you do?

Yanbu - very odd - firstly why would he go back on holiday to somewhere he went THREE months ago?! There’s a whole world out there…That’s off in itself to me.
Secondly, to decide to go back when you’re there is really odd to me, just why?
It’s all very odd and you are definitely not being unreasonable. I would ask the colleague why he’s planning to go back so soon?

I know someone who bumped into a colleague at a swingers club. She said she tried not to look any lower than his chin and then scurried away into the darkness as quick as she could.

we go to the same place a few times a year... and always bump into colleagues or friends! Can’t say it bothers us (we stay in DHs parents holiday home, so that’s why we are there so often). But, I’m rarely in a bikini. Used to go to the same gym and pool as a lot of colleagues and one young guy used to chat away to me while I was in my cossie. A bit awkward

YANBU to not want them to go to the same place

YABU to be so dramatic with statements like 'copy cat' and 'treading on toes' etc

You don't own the resort, they have been before just like you!

Any chance of quietly requesting that their leave isn't approved at the same time as yours by work? If not and they actually go through with the booking could you move your booking?

The mere fact one of my colleagues is spending their holliday in a resort would be enough to exclude the resort from my holiday plans as much as i loved it there, so YANBU. It's weird and most people would chose somewhere else or go on a diferent holiday.

Seeing as you can't avoid it now as what's done is done, I'd be prepared to say "Hi! Good morning!", smile, and go sit far and i mean FAR AWAY from them if/when you bump into each other. Don't start chatting or sit together in any circumstance or you'll risk them tagging along and thinking you enjoy their company. They may have no desire to bump with you either, but I'd err on the safe side and distance myself qs much qs possible just in case.

I think you are being a bit nuts, actually.

i get you don’t want to meet them on holiday, but that’s not how resorts work, is it?

That's a perfectly normal reaction, I wouldn't want to be on holiday at the same resort as a colleague, a holiday is about getting away from work not taking it with you. I want to feel comfortable wandering around in my swimwear and eating desserts at lunchtime.

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Do you mean same resort as in town or actual same hotel?

If you are that bothered by the prospect of any interaction, then change your booking now.

Sensible advice

YANBU at all I wouldn’t like this either

Totally. Work clothes and sober interactions are one thing, cocktails at the beach bar in swimwear are quite another!

One way to limit the interaction is, at the first time you bump into themon holiday (if you do) is to suggest drinks/dinner for a night close to the end of your trip. Sure, you have to have a drink with them, but it implies you don't plan to socialise with him before then.