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To not want work colleague to go to same resort as me at same time?

141 replies

malificent7 · 20/07/2022 13:46

I booked my summer holiday last year for August. My colleague booked his to same resort with his wife about 3 months ago after hearing where i was going. Just came back...fine.

However,him and his wife liked it so much that they are thinking about going back to same resort in August when I will be there.

Now i like my colleague but i want to get away from it all. Not bump into him on the beach. Aibu to find this odd/ unboundaried?

And no...there's nothing romantic going on.

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StrangeCondition · 20/07/2022 14:28

Yeah I'm sure he only booked to go back in August because you will be there 🙄. Maybe keep your plans to yourself next time?

fruitbrewhaha · 20/07/2022 14:30

Same hotel, or just same resort? Is it a big place or just a little 'fishing village'?

It will be weird. I wouldn't want to see someone I work with while I'm on the beach sunbathing with my straps down etc

MurderAtTheBeautyPageant · 20/07/2022 14:30

This has made my afternoon. I've just come back from the states, I hope no one I knew dared book a holiday for the same time!! I'm the only one who should be allowed to go and enjoy a holiday, especially to such a hard to find and unique place

I mean there's a slight difference between the USA and a small Mediterranean resort...

zighead · 20/07/2022 14:31

I would hate this but not sure what you can do about it.
Let's hope it's fully booked.

Duttercup · 20/07/2022 14:34

Who wouldn't find this a bit annoying??

I mean there's nothing you can do but... I do not want my pina colada lounging to be witnessed by colleagues. I can see why this would be irritating.

FlissyPaps · 20/07/2022 14:34

Sorry OP but you are sounding absolutely ridiculous!

Why do you even care? Just go and enjoy your holiday. If you can’t enjoy your holiday because a colleague is in the same resort/complex as you then it sounds like you need therapy.

LuckyLil · 20/07/2022 14:34

So he's already been there before, then you mentioned it and he decided to go back? Hindsight, perhaps if you hadn't mentioned it he wouldn't have remembered he'd been there in the past and liked it. But that doesn't change the now. I get why you wouldn't want to bump into him there and it does seem a bit unimaginative on his part but you can't change it. What you can change is where you go. Find another resort you might enjoy even more maybe.

MurderAtTheBeautyPageant · 20/07/2022 14:36

FlissyPaps · 20/07/2022 14:34

Sorry OP but you are sounding absolutely ridiculous!

Why do you even care? Just go and enjoy your holiday. If you can’t enjoy your holiday because a colleague is in the same resort/complex as you then it sounds like you need therapy.

'you need therapy' seems to be the new go-to put down on MN.

georgarina · 20/07/2022 14:36

It's like Forgetting Sarah Marshall 😂

Pruella · 20/07/2022 14:38

I once ended up at the same hotel at the same time as one of our corporate lawyers - so the poor man kept bumping into his client. There was an ongoing transaction happening at the time so we were also having to email each other while on our respective holidays.

pantsofshame · 20/07/2022 14:38

OP- did he know before this latest booking that you would be there at the same time?

This would be my idea of hell. When I am on holiday I want to be able to relax completely, secure in the knowledge that I'm unlikely to see anyone I encounter there ever again. When I am on holiday somewhere hot I am neither attractive nor classy. I don't disrupt others (I'm not an animal!) but would definitely feel self conscious if I was hot and sweaty at the beach/pool, or eating my own body weight in icecream if I knew that someone from work could appear round the corner at any time.

DangerouslyBored · 20/07/2022 14:39

2bazookas · 20/07/2022 14:11

you're the one being very odd.

She really isn’t

FlissyPaps · 20/07/2022 14:40

MurderAtTheBeautyPageant · 20/07/2022 14:36

'you need therapy' seems to be the new go-to put down on MN.

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Because OP’s views are not normal.

NC12345665 · 20/07/2022 14:41
Hmm

Another peak Mumsnet thread. They've been coming thick and fast these past few days.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 20/07/2022 14:43

It's tricky but as he's been to the same resort and liked it I can't see what he's done wrong in wanting to return (he may not even be able to go there if not enough room!).

Just be polite if and when you see them, maybe one drink/coffee/meal out if you're feeling really generous and then you could say (I'd say) "I'm on holiday to escape work if you don't mind, I don't mean to be rude but can we not meet up again?" (or something along those lines, more polite.

MurderAtTheBeautyPageant · 20/07/2022 14:43

Nah. It’s completely normal to not want to be bumping into colleagues when lounging about on your hols.

coffeecupsandfairylights · 20/07/2022 14:44

Does it really matter? If you see other, just say "hi" and carry on with your holidays!

Luredbyapomegranate · 20/07/2022 14:45

I would just say ‘aarrrdghhh not at the same time as me, we’ll be running into each other in our pants!! ’ - I’ll send you my dates as we’ve already booked so you can avoid them.

Jocular but with feeling.

if it ignores it you can do anything, but he’s being flat footed so I’d try and put him off

NCHammer2022 · 20/07/2022 14:45

How small is the resort that you have to worry about seeing them all the time? We’ve coincidentally ended up at the same hotel as DH’s colleague before but didn’t see him the entire time.

Phobiaphobic · 20/07/2022 14:48

2bazookas · 20/07/2022 14:11

you're the one being very odd.

No she isn't.

K8Shrop · 20/07/2022 14:50

Completely normal to not want to bump into a work colleague on holiday... who would!

But very odd of you to act like he is copying you! That's a very teenager thing to think. You even said yourself he'd been to the resort before you and loved it. So he went again. And now wants to go again next year.

You went to it, and liked it, so are going again too.

He did not get the idea from you, he simply really likes a resort he's been to and wants to go again. I can see why it's annoying the dates mean you'll both be there (august is peak holiday month, most people go then), but you're making it a much bigger deal than it needs to be.

2bazookas · 20/07/2022 15:02

malificent7 · 20/07/2022 14:03

I guess he just got the idea from me.

But you said he'd been there a long time ago and enjoyed it.
So he's not the copy cat, you are.

TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 20/07/2022 15:05

BlanketsBanned · 20/07/2022 13:50

What makes you think your colleague would even want to meet up with you.

It's not that per se. I certainly wouldn't expect them to want them to meet up when the other 47 of the weeks per year are spent with him.

I just dress very different on holiday to how I do at work, at natural, less clothes and swimsuits (if abroad). I'm letting my hair down and relaxing with my family and ya know if I don't want to wear a bra with that dress on Tuesday then I won't.

Swiftly followed by a flight home of
"Omg Lee from accounts saw me in a dress without a bra"
"Omg Lee from accounts was in front of me at the bar and we had to make awkward convo"
"Omg Lee from accounts walked past just as Dah was rubbing suncream into my backside on the beach!"
"Shit I never approved Lee's invoices! He will be straight on zoom when we go back in on Monday!!!"

Georgeskitchen · 20/07/2022 15:08

Yabu.
Colleague went, liked it, booked again
You went, liked it, booked again

Bloody grow up!!

Cheeseandlobster · 20/07/2022 15:11

FlissyPaps · 20/07/2022 14:40

Because OP’s views are not normal.

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Actually according to this thread they very much are. Who on earth wants to bump into a work colleague while in a bikini or find out they are at the next table or worst case scenario next room? It's awkward as hell and takes some of the joy away from a long awaited holiday. Op yanbu