Nudity between family

[Nudityetiquette]

AIBU to think that it is weird that my boyfriend let his mum come into the bathroom for a wee whilst he was nakedly shaving his body (possibly chest, possibly butt). Background: Portuguese family where bf is only child (seen as miracle child) and family are liberal and very comfortable with nudity together and talking about sex.

Yep, I mean if he was shaving his balls or asshole (that wasn't what I assumed from the OP btw)n that's a bit much and probably a stretch. But general nudity, or just going about their normal business - not an issue. The bristish are super prudish about nudity generally. Compared to most western european countried.

@Whitehorsegirl

"I also am not keen either on parents who think it is OK to be nude in from of their kids once they are old enough to know what is going on."

Know what's going on? Going on with what? What is that goes on if you happen to be naked in the vicinity of your children? I am very interested to hear this.

Not children as in young children. Older children/teens. Who just don't want to see it. Sensible to not flounce around naked at that age, that must be fairly common.

If your children are not comfortable with it, absolutely you should respect that. Same about their own nudity of course.

But I would like to know what "goes on" when whitehorsegirl is naked around her children. Or what she thinks goes on when others are naked around theirs.

Erm...It's not that it's not "normal". It's that it's uncivilized And regressive. But whatever. I don't care what you do in your home. You do you boo.

Bring back the empire, hey! 😉

I don't feel comfortable either. I think it's good to be private

Erm...It's not that it's not "normal". It's that it's uncivilized And regressive. But whatever. I don't care what you do in your home. You do you boo.

Oh dear 🥴

This.

I grew up in a fairly 'clothing optional' family and it's completely normal to me. I'm also one of those people that MNers hate, and strip off in communal changing rooms without a care (I draw the line at using the shared hairdryer to dry my bits, though 😉).

My OH, on the other hand, has never seen either of his parents naked and finds my family's approach to nudity utterly bizarre.

Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

I'm not sure repression is the right word, surely it's just preference, repression implies inferior in some way, its just different surely?

My ex used to walk around naked in front of his parents. We were together when he was 18-21. Only child.

I found it awkward but I have two brothers. No nudity in my house growing up!

He's not a stripper, just a slightly self conscious 24 year old about to go on holiday with friends.

How does this mean he has to shave his bum? What are they doing on this holiday? This is weirder than anything that happened in the bathroom tbh.

Personally I don’t think it’s weird. We are a household stuffed full with adult kids and everyone gets on with what they need to do, this may be one person going to the loo while another is brushing teeth, doing hair/make up/ in the shower etc. We don’t all have our own bathrooms and all have ‘preferred’ toilets/showers/mirrors etc so we just all get on with it. Having said that if one of my kids was shaving their bum I’d be quite wtf am I seeing here. We also detest visitors as then we shut bathroom doors, don’t double up etc and it shits us all as it’s like queueing at a bus stop, annoying.

Don't you want some privacy though from the adult dc?

I'd go in my bedroom to do make up, hair etc

Would someone HONESTLY come in and take a poo if you were in the bath...like honestly?

Whatever about the nudity but shitting when someone is that close proximity? NOTHING normal about that.

Disgusting.

I don't care if a man wants to shave his bum hole I just don't want to see it.

Why are people so obsessed by who shaves what? Can’t people shave or not shave whatever they want on their own bodies? Bloody hell.

Some people are less bothered by privacy than others.

I prefer to do my makeup in the bathroom, the lighting is better and I wash my hands afterwards. DH is happy to shower whilst I do it. And I'll sometimes go to the loo. I try not to shit, but sometimes it happens.

Yes I understand about the lighting and my dh wouldn't care if I was there if he was showering and I would pee

However not with my dc even when they were younger

Ones Dh/dp is different to adult children or parents surely?

@Loveisnotloving, please tell my DH that, I've been telling him for years and he doesn't listen!

And yes, he does that, HONESTLY! Why would anyone make it up, it's grim!

So you've asked him not to come in and shit while you're in the bath but he does it anyway?

He doesn't at least say, at the times he really can't wait, can you hop out while I go to the toilet (assuming there's no other loo he can use in your house)? Though depending on the outcome you wouldn't want to get back in the bath afterwards anyway. Not exactly a nice relaxing, pleasant space,

Does he think it's funny to make you uncomfortable by doing something you (understandably) find disgusting? Does he laugh about it?

Bleurgh.

Spikegilessandwich, can you not put a lock on the door? that's gross

Wouldn’t bother me. I’m from a naked family. My husband however is very much not but he is pretty much always naked anyway.