To not sleep train my baby?

[MD1803]

So, the internet is full of advice how to sleep train your baby.

Are there many / any people out there who never bothered and just allowed things to happen (and how did that go)?

My DD is 4 months old (in two days). We are now about two weeks in into the 4 month sleep regression. In general, it takes fair amount of rocking to get her fall asleep for her naps or at bedtime. I never put her down drowsy but awake. In fact I always wait about 20mins when she is normally in deep sleep and doesn’t wake up once I put her in her cot.

From about 2 months old until the regression started she would sleep from 9:00 and later 8:00pm to first wake up around 3:00 / 4:00 am.

Since the regression I started to take her to bed with me after her midnight / 1:00am wake up. Frankly I get better sleep that way. I never took her to bed with me before.

I’m thinking she will just naturally develop sleeping habits where she will get over the regression and eventually learn how to fall asleep on her own.

Am I being delusional?

Op I’m so pleased you are feeling happier. So much to be said for going with your gut

@MissHavershamReturns thank you 😊

@Wouldloveanother I believe you are referring to my update post. To make it clear, if people feel that any form of sleep training is right for them and they are happy with their choices I personally think no-one is to judge them.Everyone’s circumstance and baby is different.

But I think that’s exactly the point. She is getting better at sleeping because she is older. So there was no need to rush to push something too early, when perhaps the baby isn’t actually ready. No need to worry about bad habits as they naturally get there as they get older.

I was coming as someone who didn’t see for my personal circumstance how avoiding any of the bad habits would benefit me or my baby at 4 months but given this is my first and all that is found on the internet I was confused if by not doing something more interventional she will NEVER learn to fall back to sleep during the night on her own.

It all just reads a bit smug and like you weren’t really asking for help, you just wanted to put down mums who do sleep train. But okay.

I went with the flow on everything with my children including sleep.

dd didn’t sleep through til 6 up and ds 2 yo so take that how you will 🤣

I think just do what you want. No need for a performance. I sleep trained eventually, but it doesn't suit everyone.

I didn't sleep train either of mine.

They're 13 and 11 now and go to sleep fine!

I would say that each of them were between 2 and 3 years old at the point when they they'd go to bed at 1930 and wake at 0700, pretty reliably. It was linked too to when they had their big girl/boy bed and we ditched the cot. Plus when they were at nursery a few sessions a week so were very stimulated and tired.

But even tho they didn't sleep through reliably until they were 2.5 to 3 yrs, their sleep was not all that bad before then either. Just more that they might wake up and need resettling, a few nights a week.

There were bursts of sleep misery. Dd at around 12 months seemed to be wide awake between 2 and 4 in the morning! She just used to come in my bed and I would desperately put in the night garden on. Eventually she'd drop off again. I wouldn't be asleep but I used to think well at least you are resting and lying flat 🤣 this prob am went only 3-4 weeks but felt like forever.

DS had a grim few weeks at around 18mths when molars were coming through and I was trying to stop feeding him at night.

Again it probably didn't last all that long. Ur it felt like it did.

They've been great about sleeping for many years and we haven't had any issues.