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Strange comment from couple re children’s clothes.

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Uptheapplesandpearstobed · 15/07/2022 01:05

I’ve always taken pride in my children’s outfits. Always ironed, Boden etc.

I was at the local tea shop yesterday when an elderly man said to my two young children ‘ooo dressed for a wedding are we’ and his wife snapped at him saying ‘no, just a parent who dresses them properly’

I felt quite uncomfortable that he felt my children were going to a wedding because they were in a dress.

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Bringonsummer19 · 15/07/2022 02:36

I wouldn’t worry, I would say depending on age that children can look a bit dated in Biden, I would mix it up a little with some high st pieces

AppleCharlottie · 15/07/2022 02:37

Do you have any pictures of the style of dress you're talking about?

Namerchangerextraordinaire · 15/07/2022 02:53

Maybe they shop on ebay too & you outbid him for something?

NeedToLeaveNow · 15/07/2022 02:57

🙈😱😂

mungomidgeandmary · 15/07/2022 03:06

Nothing wrong with Boden clothes but they're not really wedding clothes are they. They stopped doing a limited special range, that I recall, a long time ago.

Strange OP if you don't mind my saying.

Bellyups · 15/07/2022 03:07

Boden is SO dated now. Ironed Boden even more so

mungomidgeandmary · 15/07/2022 03:08

To expand on calling your OP strange. I don't think the man did anything wrong, he just made an observation and was corrected by his wife... All is well?

OlympicProcrastinator · 15/07/2022 03:08

cringe

lickenchugget · 15/07/2022 03:11

Uptheapplesandpearstobed · 15/07/2022 02:24

Yes, my complaint is that I don’t want them looking over dressed for the park. I thought the dresses were comfortable and pretty, not wedding worthy.

Are you taking your complaint up with yourself?

TreeOfPain · 15/07/2022 03:16

Do you really care?

Really?

People, that one might encounter in their day-to-day business say so many bonkers things, is it worth worrying about?

If you genuinely are worried about a couple of off-hand comments made by strangers I'd have a think about why.

Why did it resonate? Did you have parents that made particular comments about the clothes you wore, or did you not have many clothes as a child and want your children to be well turned out, so a stranger's comments are particularly cutting?

Worth a thought.

Coyoacan · 15/07/2022 03:20

Ironed dresses for the park do not sound like fun to me.

Confuzzled19 · 15/07/2022 03:35

😂

custardbear · 15/07/2022 03:42

My DD wore sparky dresses every day til she was about 10, she now looks like a goth in training- don't worry about it

bakewellbride · 15/07/2022 03:51

If you want some perspective op the last time an old person interacted with me and my kids she deliberately prodded my preschooler with her walking stick.

Christinatherabbit · 15/07/2022 04:19

Boden clothes definitely do look more park or playwear in my opinion so it was a weird comment. Even weirder is that you ever even thought about the comment a second time never mind ask others for their options on it

KalvinPhillipsBoots · 15/07/2022 04:20

No one cares with your goady Boden post, the old man probably thinking the same as us.

AgentProvocateur · 15/07/2022 04:26

Ironed dresses for the park (or any dress in the park) is overdressed.

ouch321 · 15/07/2022 04:30

Okay.........

HerRoyalHappiness · 15/07/2022 04:34

YABU for putting them in a dress for the park. Shorts and T-shirt so that they can run around and play on the equipment without the restriction of a dress getting caught under their knees when climbing.

Fizzyfish · 15/07/2022 04:55

Where to start..

WTAF

DueyCheatemAndHow · 15/07/2022 04:55

Goodness.
Have you thought about who will play you in the movie?

43prego · 15/07/2022 05:05

I would not call Boden dresses clothes for a wedding. Some are nice, some are just fine for everyday wear.

Vikinga · 15/07/2022 05:06

When my girls were little they would often choose to wear dresses that wouldn't be out of place at a wedding and that was fine. Then when they got slightly older they looked like they were dressed for the park when we were at parties and they should have dressed up.

When I was young, my mum always chose what i wore and remember absolutely hating some clothes and loving others. It really affected how I enjoyed or not my day so with my kids, I've let them decide what they wanted to wear. It has made for some interesting choices but they are happy and it is only clothes so who cares?

NerrSnerr · 15/07/2022 05:09

My 7 year old loves a good climb, until she was about 5 she mostly wore the same three pink, sparkly party dresses wherever she went (all bought for about £2 in the charity shop and chosen by her). She did always wear trainers with them so she was more comfortable running around and had the grip for climbing on stuff. I initially thought they'd get in the way but they didn't hinder her. She now chooses to wear tie dye t shirts and cycling shorts everywhere.

SpartacusNotEsther · 15/07/2022 05:22

So one person thought your children wete dressed very well? Oh my, I can see why this would stay with you. I hope you managed to get some sleep...

To me, if this happened, it says way more about the couple and their family than it does about you. Sorry op. An off the cuff compliment is really not something to worry about.