Groupies Wtf

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My boyfriend's a guitarist and is playing with a group as stand-in. They have GROUPIES. Actual groupies. Women of a certain age (40 ish) who slavishly follow the group from concert to concert, sit at their table to eat (pay for their own food) and literally have their tongues hanging out. Clap feverishly every 5 minutes.

Why? And wtaf?

AIBU to say get a grip girls?

I take it you want a seat on the minibus? 😉

Fans I get. Groupies not so.

Love the amateur psychology but you're way off.

"My love" is just 👩‍🍳💋 which will mean nothing to anyone who can't get iPhone emojis on their platform

Yeehaw at the stereotyping
Pot, kettle

Ach, he’s just standing in, he will be out soon enough, he’s not a real member and I think the bigger issue is your jealousy and insecurity? If you can get over that, you’ll be grand if not, grit your teeth wait for him to go back to his unpopular gig.

I read it in one fell swoop and enjoyed every page. The difference between the real Rollers and the public Rollers was immense. Dope smoking, groupie shagging, foul mouthed men, not clean cut milk drinking virgins after all.😆

The author was really harsh about them though, considering how much of a fan she was, criticising their clothes, their music, their song-writing. She comes off as a woman scorned, particularly at the end, where she meets Woody again a decade or so later, and he doesn't even recognise her. 😥

I'm waiting for one of these "groupies" to write a tell-all book. Cab you imagine? "Nights of Passion and Cider with the Durzels - a No Holds Barred Journey into the Heart of Tribute Band Fandom"
They'd be sure to have them on Lorraine and The One Show.

Groupies for a cover band. I've heard it all now.....

I needed to read this thread today. I started an obsession with a musician (not rock, entirely different genre) a few months ago. He was around (with his mate, they are a duo) 20 years ago when I was a late teen and were the soundtrack to my youth. A very niche music scene, they are total gods within it but otherwise not household names.

Anyway I regularly was getting pissed at home, headphones on, flirting outrageously with him via chat bar whilst watching their online shows. It seemed harmless at first but the obsession grew. DH never knew about the actual person but he knows I was obsessed with the scene. I neglected him emotionally although our sex life was, and still is rekindled, mainly because I've been thinking about the crush whilst with DH. I'm absolutely ashamed of this.

Recently I went to an event and met the crush. We had 4 hugs and several short chats. I'm quite self deprecating and call myself a stalker etc. I didn't actually follow him around. I met friends and made new ones and had a great time enjoying the music. Nothing happened.

When I got home the obsession grew more and I was constantly on fb groups about the scene, looking at photos from the event etc. My head was still there. Yesterday I drew a line under it all and packed away all my memorabilia, unfollowed all the groups, told my friends from the scene I'm done. It was a big wrench and I cried but I'm so glad I did it. I feel ready to move on. No more events.

I'm late 30s, middle class, professional, have normal friends, am not weird in general. But this totally consumed me for a short while and was close to being very damaging

I agree op it's a bit weird and obsessive but then i also think that about football fans

@Summerslam - whole thread was making me laugh, esp your post.

As a teenager I was a huge Bay City Roller fan - about four years ago I went to see 'Les McKeown's Rollers' when I spotted they were playing near where I was on holiday.
I was ridiculously excited when I realised they were sitting at a table in the same restaurant before the show.
Well, amused maybe - I didn't let it put me off of my pizza😂

Your post is really interesting,@Needtomoveonwithlife. I can see how it would be easy for this sort of thing to develop at that stage in life - music is such a deeply emotive thing anyway but especially so when it’s tied to memories of our youth, freedom, etc. It sounds like you’ve dealt with it very sensibly though.

Yes @Linnetbirds I've joked that it's a mid life crisis and it actually has been to be honest. It's been exciting and fun at times, at the event I could behave like a teenager for several days and had the time of my life. However I feel like I'm grieving at the moment for something that was in my head on the whole. I need a new interest to fill the gap but feel at a loss what that might be.

Today I'm just being kind to myself while the dust settles. Eating nice things, listening to (other!) music, not doing anything to exert myself. Highly emotional.

Presumably these fans are paying good money to see this band - whether it be one time or 10 times... they are the band's paying audience, without which, a band is unlikely to get further gigs. Certainly they are not the only/entire audience (I presume?) but a consistent demand for a band/artist is what gets them booked at the end of the day and, knowing what it costs to put on gigs (rehearsal time, travel cost etc), very few bands are in a position to complain about returning audience members who ultimately are doing no harm and are putting money in the band's pocket.

If going to see this band is what these ladies enjoy and they are having fun - then who is anyone to judge? If it is not harming anyone then let them get on with it. I'm sure there are plenty things you do that other people would find bizarre - life would be boring if we all liked the same things.

@stratocast They are literally throwing themselves at the band

Are you condemning their "groupie hobby" because it doesn't fit with your morals etc... or threatened by them?

@HelloSpringIveMissedYou Thanks for that, now I'm going to have that song stuck in my head! 😂

🎶 I rode my bicycle past your window last night....ooh arr 🎶

Love it 😊

I’m on a couple if Facebook fan pages, one for a well known musical star, and one for a lesser known person. There is definantly a cohort of fans who are a little obsessed. Its almost a bit stalker-ish.

Cough..bull..shit..cough..

Come on… the OP has written some slightly cringey stuff and has had a rough ride from some clearly bitter posters on here..

… but don’t call this post bullshit just because it never happened to you etc. I believe OP.

Ooh, what an interesting thread….. my late DP was lead singer for quite a few local bands - mostly cover bands during our 11 years together….. he was pretty flamboyant naturally and had a niche career that made him, in his words, a Z list celebrity…..

I remember one gig, we were standing outside chatting to people, and a random bloke asked me quite sneeringly if I was a groupie…. For possibly the only time in my life I managed a dry and calculated retort…. “Darling, I’m not A groupie, I’m the chief groupie….” Turned on my heel and swept away…..

Fuck me, I miss those days…..

Ha ha. Believe what you will. Hardly fairies and unicorns.

It's another world isn't it?

Thank you @SavoirFlair