Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

Eating on the phone or in meetings. I have a weekly zoom meeting with someone who eats breakfast all the way through it, (including a large bowl of cereal) it’s a one hour meeting ffs! It’s utterly vile.

I just sit on the bag

This has really confused me.

so you go to a restaurant, your chicken isn’t fully cooked and it’s bad manners to send it back?

you are a paying customer - not a guest at a dinner party! While of course you should be polite you absolutely should send back sub standard food. I don’t think any etiquette guide would tell you to suffer on if you are young for the meal.

how bizarre.

Shoes - it is the height of bad manners to walk into a house without taking them off (if you suspect someone wants you to but may be afraid to ask) or at least offering to.

But, I also think it's bad manners to be a fussy snob with cream carpets everywhere who insists everyone takes their shoes off - entrance halls and kitchens and living rooms should be places where guests can feel at home.

It is INCREDIBLY bad manners to live like a complete slob AND ask people to take their shoes off before they come in. I once visited a man in his home. He wanted my shoes off... I was regretting not wearing boots as they'd have been more suitable attire given my footwear was going to touch his disgusting carpets. I barely exaggerate.

What would you do if you were at a restaurant and your food was cold / incorrect? Just sit in silence and not enjoy it? What do you say when the waiting staff ask if everything is ok?

Not putting sleeves up when eating a meal. Although I totally accept that this one is very personal to me, I find it really unhygienic when people eat with their sleeves down, and potentially dangling in their food. My children know to put their sleeves up, I bite my tongue when eating with others though!

Nagging people to confirm social events really early when they have made it clear they need time to plan.

And generally officious over organising. I get that some people get very stressed about not having an exact timetable for the rest of their lives. This sort of thing is rife in my industry: people need timetables to go to the toilet.

But some of us find the super organised very stressful and wish their way didn’t always have to prevail.

Listening to things on their phones without earphones on. Not replying to RSVPs.

Asking for money when getting married.

Eating/using the last of something and not mentioning it so it can be replaced.

Honking your horn when you arrive at someone's house/are waiting outside for someone.

How on earth do your sleeves dangle into your food?

Allowing a dog yo approach a random in public. I don't mind this because I like dogs, but every time it happens I think "what if I had a phobia/allergy/just wasn't keen?"

You need better fitting clothes.

A friend of mine lives in Notting Hill and is at her wits end as she keeps finding those pesky young girls filming themselves and taking pictures in her front garden. She has a very pretty Wisteria growing around the columns at the side of her front door, and I think that's what attracts them as well as her lovely front garden.

She forever having to open her front door or shout from the windows upstairs to tell them to piss off!

I suggested that she put up the electric type fences that farmers use to keep them out unwanted animals out but she doesn't think this is allowed. She also says that throwing buckets of water over them might actually be classed as assault. On no condition will her neighbours agree to her putting up large signs saying 'No Trespassing' and she thinks it might make her look anti-social.

Isn't just bad manners to walk into someone's from garden and start taking pictures of yourself?

Last weekend someone had tied a reflector to her one of her trees and was about to start taking pictures - a girl was in the corner getting into an outfit, when she opened the door and told them that if they didn't clear off that she'd call the police.

😂😂😂😂😂 the paying for food!! As if I'm paying for food that cannot be consumed. Fucking ridiculous. Some people

cross-eating

I think it's disgusting.

How big are your sleeves?!

I think rolled up sleeves look very scruffy, on a small child its fine, but on older child and adults it just looks messy. Imagine board dinners with us all in our suits rolling our sleeves up to eat.

Do you wear lots of fluted sleeves?

People who faff around.

Haha I was sniffing as I read this! 😅

Someone talking on bluetooth via an ear piece in company eg saying “hello” and you answer and they aren’t talking to you at all.

1)Not replying to invitations that clearly say RSVP
2)Sitting in a train carriage shouting into your mobile phone oblivious to everyone else who can’t talk, read or think with the bellowing.
3) Walking into someone else’s house with your shoes on
4) Touching stranger’s babies or the tummies of pregnant women
5) Making unnecessary noise before 7am or after 10 or 11pm
6) Sitting out late in your garden, drinking and shouting knowing others are trying to sleep and/or have young children
7) Leaving your car engine running early in the morning for 15 minutes to clear the windscreen

In which case I don’t expect a bill. You’re being absurd, I want what I’m paying for.

Lateness (beyond a 5-10 minute leeway).
Turning up people's houses without asking or being invited first.
Letting your off-lead dog run up to (and bother) my on-lead one.
Not saying thank you when I pull in to let you past on narrow lanes.
Walking really slowly (or worse, just stopping in the middle of the path) and not having the self-awareness to let people past you.

In the past I have complained and offered less than the full amount, not in recent years now I’m so much older and wiser. I haven’t ever sent food back and hoped for the situation to be rectified because clearly they’re not up to the job or it would never have left the kitchen in that state in the first place. If you ask for a rare steak and it’s overdone then those people obviously can’t cook. They’re not going to suddenly learn. People are giving quite extreme examples on this thread of potentially life threatening plates of salmonella, pink chicken or whatever and suggesting I’m stupid for getting the fuck out of there rather than accepting something else from that kitchen!

You're probably right, but I think it is more rude of the host or the other's waiting not to say "go on, get stuck in - don;t let it get cold on our account".