Page 9 | Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

Novasmum · 2022-07-13T16:13:34+00:00

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room. Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners. what’s yours?

underneaththeash · 13/07/2022 18:43

continuousmonotonousbeep · 13/07/2022 17:34

the most bonkers thing I've ever read on here.

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Yep. But I suspect @Ylfa is just goading people, no-one could be that passive or stupid.

slowquickstep · 13/07/2022 18:43

Walking with head down and eyes glued to a screen expecting everyone else to move out of their way.

ReneBumsWombats · 13/07/2022 18:45

Ylfa · 13/07/2022 18:42

In the past I have complained and offered less than the full amount, not in recent years now I’m so much older and wiser. I haven’t ever sent food back and hoped for the situation to be rectified because clearly they’re not up to the job or it would never have left the kitchen in that state in the first place. If you ask for a rare steak and it’s overdone then those people obviously can’t cook. They’re not going to suddenly learn. People are giving quite extreme examples on this thread of potentially life threatening plates of salmonella, pink chicken or whatever and suggesting I’m stupid for getting the fuck out of there rather than accepting something else from that kitchen!

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What's this wisdom you've gained? Why is it wiser to pay full price for substandard food?

Johnnysgirl · 13/07/2022 18:45

I couldn’t disagree more, you’re a guest. It’s called the hospitality industry.
Oh my God! 😂😂😂
You actually can't tell the difference between being a guest in someone's home and going to a restaurant and paying to avail of their "hospitality"?
Little tip, if they'd sling you out if you refused to pay, you're not a fecking guest.

Pinkywoo · 13/07/2022 18:45

Ylfa · 13/07/2022 17:28

That’s a passive aggressive tantrum isn’t it. My pear isn’t cutted up!

I know I’m very alone on this one but behave as you would if you were a guest in someone’s house.

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I've worked in hospitality, trust me we'd rather correct a problem (politely pointed out obviously) than lose a customer. People talk and the last thing a business needs at the moment is someone telling all their friends what a terrible meal they had at your establishment.

Allthegoodusernamesareused · 13/07/2022 18:46

Johnnysgirl · 13/07/2022 18:37

How on earth do your sleeves dangle into your food?

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When using a knife and fork... loose sleeves do dangle. I did say, this one is personal to me!

Whodoiwanttobe · 13/07/2022 18:46

Ylfa · 13/07/2022 17:16

Sending food back in restaurants - this is the very worst of n. American/UK culture. I hate it! Just don’t go there again.

Why? You’re paying for a service!

TonightIamgointobe · 13/07/2022 18:46

Swearing

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 13/07/2022 18:46

Ylfa · 13/07/2022 18:42

In the past I have complained and offered less than the full amount, not in recent years now I’m so much older and wiser. I haven’t ever sent food back and hoped for the situation to be rectified because clearly they’re not up to the job or it would never have left the kitchen in that state in the first place. If you ask for a rare steak and it’s overdone then those people obviously can’t cook. They’re not going to suddenly learn. People are giving quite extreme examples on this thread of potentially life threatening plates of salmonella, pink chicken or whatever and suggesting I’m stupid for getting the fuck out of there rather than accepting something else from that kitchen!

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L O fucking L at wiser 🤣

Peanutbuttercupisyum · 13/07/2022 18:47

godmum56 · 13/07/2022 17:18

why? I mean why would you pay for something you either didn't order or which is poor quality?

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But that’s the whole point really.. manners aren’t always about pragmatism and practicality and what you are entitled to do or what you justly deserve. Theyre basically about behaving with grace and decorum and dignity and thoughtfulness, which means that it’s not always obvious whether something is polite or not, hence the thread.
Sending food back, not eating what someone has cooked…defo rude.

Johnnysgirl · 13/07/2022 18:47

Allthegoodusernamesareused · 13/07/2022 18:46

When using a knife and fork... loose sleeves do dangle. I did say, this one is personal to me!

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Well yes, your sleeves do sound quite unique.

VappyNalley · 13/07/2022 18:48

HappyHappyHermit · 13/07/2022 18:36

Asking for money when getting married.

Eating/using the last of something and not mentioning it so it can be replaced.

Honking your horn when you arrive at someone's house/are waiting outside for someone.

#3 is spot on. I am always tempted to go out and say "hi, how can I help?"

My fantasy...

Him "Erm, I'm picking up the lady at 27"

Me "Why did you hoot for me to come out then?"

Him "I didn't, I hooted to let the lady at no. 27 know her taxi was here"

Me "No, you definitely hooted for me - I heard you!"

Him "I'm here for number 27"

Me "THEN WHY THE FUCK DIDN;T YOU RING ON THE DOORBELL OF NUMBER 27 YOU LOUD ANNOYING LAZY ARRGOANT ARSEHOLE?"

slowquickstep · 13/07/2022 18:48

Coastalcreeksider · 13/07/2022 17:50

Friend who always takes calls on her phone when she is with anyone (not just me)and has a full conversation taking 10 minutes or more while you sit there like a lemon.

It's always really trivial chat too, she could easily say she's out/with someone and will ring them when she gets home.

She is inseparable from the bloody thing.

Why don't you walk away and leave her ?

StationaryMagpie · 13/07/2022 18:48

Ylfa · 13/07/2022 17:20

You’re a guest, even if a paying guest, not a toddler.

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No, you're a customer buying a service, as such, you're entitled to what you paid for.

Whodoiwanttobe · 13/07/2022 18:49

Ylfa · 13/07/2022 17:28

That’s a passive aggressive tantrum isn’t it. My pear isn’t cutted up!

I know I’m very alone on this one but behave as you would if you were a guest in someone’s house.

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Cutted up?

You don’t pay in someone’s house.. that’s the issue!

Maireas · 13/07/2022 18:50

Sending me an evening only wedding invitation. Why not just send a label with "2nd tier guest" on it. Or "we don't want to pay for a meal for you but we still want a gift".
Greedy arses.

VappyNalley · 13/07/2022 18:50

Charlize43 · 13/07/2022 18:37

A friend of mine lives in Notting Hill and is at her wits end as she keeps finding those pesky young girls filming themselves and taking pictures in her front garden. She has a very pretty Wisteria growing around the columns at the side of her front door, and I think that's what attracts them as well as her lovely front garden.

She forever having to open her front door or shout from the windows upstairs to tell them to piss off!

I suggested that she put up the electric type fences that farmers use to keep them out unwanted animals out but she doesn't think this is allowed. She also says that throwing buckets of water over them might actually be classed as assault. On no condition will her neighbours agree to her putting up large signs saying 'No Trespassing' and she thinks it might make her look anti-social.

Isn't just bad manners to walk into someone's from garden and start taking pictures of yourself?

Last weekend someone had tied a reflector to her one of her trees and was about to start taking pictures - a girl was in the corner getting into an outfit, when she opened the door and told them that if they didn't clear off that she'd call the police.

It's not assault if you don;t know they're there and your watering your large hanging baskets from an upstairs window.

Keladrythesaviour · 13/07/2022 18:50

Not introducing people when you meet up is a pet hate of mine. For example A and B are out shopping together. They meet C who A knows. They chat together and then move off all while B stands there like a gooseberry.
Just introduce them. They don't have to join in the connersation, but it's rude not to even acknowledge them.

Allthegoodusernamesareused · 13/07/2022 18:50

Simonjt · 13/07/2022 18:38

How big are your sleeves?!

I think rolled up sleeves look very scruffy, on a small child its fine, but on older child and adults it just looks messy. Imagine board dinners with us all in our suits rolling our sleeves up to eat.

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I actually rarely wear anything with a sleeve longer than my elbow, even in winter I'll push my cardigan sleeves up. If I have to wear a formal jacket, I'd have to take that off to eat and would be wearing something short sleeved underneath. And it isn't ME getting food on my sleeves, it's other people... I once saw a lady eating with a spoon who managed to scoop up food in her sleeve with each mouthful!

VappyNalley · 13/07/2022 18:52

Ylfa · 13/07/2022 18:42

In the past I have complained and offered less than the full amount, not in recent years now I’m so much older and wiser. I haven’t ever sent food back and hoped for the situation to be rectified because clearly they’re not up to the job or it would never have left the kitchen in that state in the first place. If you ask for a rare steak and it’s overdone then those people obviously can’t cook. They’re not going to suddenly learn. People are giving quite extreme examples on this thread of potentially life threatening plates of salmonella, pink chicken or whatever and suggesting I’m stupid for getting the fuck out of there rather than accepting something else from that kitchen!

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Maybe they got the orders mixed up and someone else has your perfect rare?

KittyMcKitty · 13/07/2022 18:53

People typing on their phone and receiving numerous messages with the volume not only on but turned up to the max. This generally happens in doctors waiting rooms.

Maireas · 13/07/2022 18:53

Keladrythesaviour · 13/07/2022 18:50

Not introducing people when you meet up is a pet hate of mine. For example A and B are out shopping together. They meet C who A knows. They chat together and then move off all while B stands there like a gooseberry.
Just introduce them. They don't have to join in the connersation, but it's rude not to even acknowledge them.

Oh, I hate that. So annoying.

Mollymoostoo · 13/07/2022 18:55

CRbear · 13/07/2022 17:17

Sniffing. Blow your nose- it’s revolting!

I yqve allergic rhinitis and sniff all the time. If I blow, the floodgates open and I am streaming and dripping all day.

HotSauceCommittee · 13/07/2022 18:55

Licking the knife when eating.

wandrewarren · 13/07/2022 18:56

Naimee87 · 13/07/2022 17:27

When passengers in the front seat put their feet up on the dashboard even worse without socks, so vile. Never happened to me would NEVER EVER let anyone. So gross!

Also incredibly dangerous. If you're in an accident and the airbags are deployed there's two broken legs straight away.