Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

Seat spinners. When you’re in the window seat and they’re in the aisle seat of the bus, and you say “excuse me, please” to get out at your stop and they just barely spin their knees so you have to clamber over them. Just stand up, were you raised by wolves?!

"Whilst I think about whether I am willing and able to find the time to come to your wedding may I ask you to my birthday party. I have a short list of gifts that you might wish to choose from.

Porsch 911
Vintage Rolex
19 Acacia Avenue which I've always admired as I walk past, and has just come up for sale

If you can let me know which gift you will be buying me that would be great should help avoid duplicates - no-one needs two sports cars, lol"

That’s because it’s bonkers

1. Constantly glancing at your apple watch when someone is trying to have a conversation / meet up with you.
2. Flaking out of an arrangement last minute when it’s not a genuine emergency. I consider it one of the most rude things to do as it shows such little regard for the other persons like and feelings.
3. Being distracted a lot when someone is talking to you. Asking someone a question and then blatantly not listening to the answer.
4. Talking only about yourself. Showing no interest / very little interest in the other persons life when meeting a friend etc.

@Ylfa I wonder if you do the same at a hairdressing salon. Do you always just mutter unhappily under your breath and not go back. That's so ..... meek

The only people who walk in my house without knocking are usually expected friends anyway and we all do the same at each others ' houses as know if in a different part of the house we won't hear the door anyway! Most of my friends know it's a shoes-off policy but I don't insist if people don't ask.
Sometimes I have to order off-menu as am coeliac and can't tolerate fatty foods - tbf I rarely eat out as it's such a nightmare but when a dear friend insists I sometimes have to ask for the plainest, blandest portion of white fish and rice. I do apologise profusely to the waiting staff as I know the chefs hate me and am always gushingly grateful when they can accommodate.
Bad manners for me equals the following:
Kids screaming and parents not fixing it
Kids running around in restaurants
Phones at the table (if out with friends for meals etc and they pick up their phone constantly I have been known to ask if they'd rather be elsewhere as clearly don't want to be with us!)
Children who say "what?" if they don't hear you. Children who don't say please/ thank you. Children who don't speak/say hello when they come to play etc
Children who don't clean their plates and at least put them by the sink when they've finished eating - if they offer to wash up I'll forgive all of the above!
Kids who do that thing where you'll cut up a pizza, for example, and veg sticks etc and then decide that they can eat half of it so put it on plate and say there's 10 cucumber sticks, decide 5 must be theirs so put them all on their plate rather than just taking ONE piece of pizza at a time or A cucumber stick at a time and having more if they fancy it. Greedy kids, full stop.

I hate to tell you but you’re the one who sounds grabby there. Tell them you want proper accommodation, free booze, the lot in return for fronting up 😂

Talking very loudly on a bus, phone of FaceTiming, long intense conversations with no end in sight.

Not saying please and thank you.

Blowing your nose in front of people. Yes sniffing is awful but go to the bathroom and blow it FFS.

Eating food while walking - I see so many people eating a sausage roll or sandwich etc at lunch time. Makes me feel a bit sick.

And one from my call centre days - eating, having another conversation or being in the bath while talking on the phone 🤮

Whistling is the height of mad manners.

I think punching someone in the face and shitting on their living room floor is worse.

They'd be getting a wooden spoon off me and be liking it 😂

Eating whilst walking down the street

Bringing siblings to a child's birthday party

Expecting a party bag when you do the above

Asking a 'quick question' of a shop assistant when they are serving someone else

Reaching over someone at the dinner table

Playing anything aloud on a device on public transport.

Talking excessively loudly on public transport.

Really just making any unnecessary noise on public transport.

Taking up two seats on a tube, train or bus so your bag can have a seat and icky strangers can’t sit down next to you.

So in fact you do complain then?

😂😂😂 To be fair though the thread is bad manners that other people don’t think are bad manners. And I think – hope? – we as a society have decided punching and living room shitting are bad manners.

Ask then to move the bag. I've never, ever had anyone refuse.

Nose blowing at the table is absolutely disgusting. It should always be done in the toilet unless you're desperate. Whistling indoors should be a hanging offence. Any form of removing shoes on public transport or near others. No one wants to see your disgusting feet.

Starting to eat your meal before everybody’s food has been served.
I always have to wait, I’d rather my food get cold, I just think it’s bad manners to start eating while others are waiting!

A customer in a restaurant is a paying guest?? I suspect you're a restaurant owner 😂

This

Asking a question without a question Mark or ‘please’. My boss dies this every day on Teams. One sentence instructions.

Csn you send John the spreadsheet.

Can you update the sales form.

It bugs me so much. Just one tiny change would render the sentence so much less rude!!!!

People that post on Facebook 'what time is the tip open? How much is this bus fare' and people are happy to do their research for them. Use your own fucking Google!

you may be able to do that, I cannot. Most things yes but cabbage or coconut is not going to stay down.