Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

Well, if your food needs warnings, I’d be late too.

It's just so vulgar - you wouldn't ask the Queen to do it, so why ask me?

Because you can't send me to the Tower.

Another bad manners thing.

When someone calls during a text conversation. Text back or ask if you're free for a call, don't assume it's OK to call or that person wants to talk.

people who shove past you and then say 'sorry' instead of saying 'xcuse me' or 'please can I get past' I really don't understand it.

Commenting on or correcting someone's 'manners' (unless they're a toddler, or you're actually bringing them up).

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Yes to this, consistently late people are dicks. They wouldn't be late for a job interview or a flight so why when meeting their friends?

I expect if the queen tracks the corgis poop into the palace there’s staff to clean it up. Most of the time she seems to be walking on specially laid out red carpet, unlike the rest of us who walk on puked, spat and shat on pavements. Who wants that tracked into the house?

One could argue that it's bad manners on your part that you allowed them to empty their glass and get to the fridge without you having the decency to offer them a top-up!

I just pay and go and never return.

This has shot to the top of my 'most rage inducing things ' ever.

Everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect. Any restaurant can get something wrong. Anyone who cares about good service would much prefer the opportunity rectify any issue in the spot ....

How they deal with an issue is a much better measure of a restaurant than holding them to the impossible target of never failing.

Not giving them that opportunity, then never going back and possibly badmouthing them are all really bad ideas.

Mine's the other way around. I think it's perfectly normal between friends to interrupt each other's conversation/talk over each other. Not to introduce a completely new topic, but to carry on the present one, agree with the speaker, add an idea etc. Strict turn taking and waiting for the other person to finish sounds so stilted and overly formal for me, it's what you do in a business meeting, not with family and friends. Of course you all end up talking over each other, that's what large extended family gatherings sound like, and if you really wanted someone to hear a particular thing you said, you repeat it. But some other people think that's really rude. I've got a friend who actually pulls me up on it and I always feel so patronised like it can't be a natural conversation, it's back to the mode of how we teach classes and expect all the pupils to be silent when we're talking. It's so unnatural: recently we were having a conversation where he said he saw three solutions to a problem, and listed them, then I said there was a potential compromise solution between two of his ideas, and got told off for interrupting him!

That's ridiculous

Putting your phone (and keys, and other pocket detritus) on the table when eating. DP does this at home, at restaurants, at other people’s houses. He even has a giant man bag it could all go in so it doesn’t even need to be in his pockets, let alone the table!

Ignoring the let someone out, eg of a shop, before you go in ‘rule’.

Long (more than a minute or two) personal anecdotes not involving anyone else present. So boring!

Whistling is the height of mad manners. In fact ill go as far as to say its uncouth.
People taking photos without permission and sometimes never mind permission but without knowledge. I can't believe in this age of Safe guarding that is allowed.

Recipients not saying thank you for birthday presents. I’m not sure if it’s just my kid’s class (4yo) but good lord - I come to your kid’s party, bring a present that I hope they’ll like and have my kid write or draw a card. Send a fucking one-line text message saying thanks (please).

See, I think it would be bad manners if they expected an excuse or to be let in.

Turning up unannounced is fine in my book, so long as it is done with ZERO expectations. The home-owner can ignore the door, open it and say "sorry, busy bye", or say "hi, great to see you, come in". I think it is bad manners to be off with friends because you haven't got the guts to do what you need to do (which maybe be ignore them or get rid of them in seconds).

Dropping litter

I really really hate anyone who decides to stab their fork at food on my plate when I'm eating. It took several heavy raps on their knuckles with my knife for one person to get the message.

When it comes to shoes on/shoes off, I believe a part of British culture is 'your home is your castle'?

For many cultures, for example, the Japanese, there is a strong differentiation between 'uchi' and 'sotto' (possibly spelt those wrong, it's been a while). But it means it's quite distressing for many Japanese if you stride into their house wearing shoes. (I found this out to my embarrassment, and to theirs).

Talking on the phone when being served by shop staff or waitresses.

it has nothing to do with culture and everything to do with some sort of an attempt to be something you’re not

Now you’re just projecting. I hate shoes in the house because I find it unhygienic. I’m not pretending to be anything.

That said I think it’s rude to ask a guest to take off their shoes. The thing I find rude that others don’t is when guests don’t OFFER to take them off. I’d never ask them to, but watching someone traipse their shoes with traces off fox / badger / dog piss etc over my floors makes me shudder.