Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

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Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

Charging for drinks at weddings and funerals.

This!!

It is the HEIGHT of rudeness to ask someone to take their shoes off! I don't want to be walking barefoot on your floor during the summer. I'd rather talk on the doorstep.

The utter bastard in my office who comes and talks to me the minute he sees me return to my desk with my lunch. Fuck the fuck off and let me enjoy my food while it’s still warm 😡 😤

The bell end who send me an email and then calls me to tell me about the email. You can fuck off too. And for being such an insufferable twat, I will put your email to the bottom of my list of priorities.

Massive arseholes who sit next to me on the train and encroach upon my seat. There is a special place in hell waiting for you.

And I think it's really rude if you don't ask if it's ok to keep them on. Queen included! I'm disabled and still ask. We're all different

So bloody rude. You invited me. You pay.

I honestly don’t see the point of returning mouldy or undercooked food - the trust has gone. Pay or don’t pay or pay in part and explain why, obviously don’t eat it. Leave. Don’t return! Thanks for hearing me out 😊

You are a customer, not a guest.
you are paying for a service. If that service isn’t as expected, of course you raise that. Politely.

When you have family round and they go in your fridge (usually for more wine ) without asking 😤 so rude and just overly familiar

When someone calls and you let it go to voicemail and they try calling again immediately. There's a reason I can't speak right now, stop badgering!
Pedestrians not acknowledging you when you stop to let them cross at a zebra crossing. Yes I know it's your right of way but a nod or quick wave is still polite.
The one that enrages me most though is when the person in front of you at the checkout doesn't put the divider after their shopping. I always make a big show of reaching over to get it myself.

Seems like many of these are things that most people find annoying and bad manners.

People doing make-up / nails on public transport is something that I regard as bad manners, when it probably shouldn't. I regard it how I imagine others would regard getting clippers out and cutting your toe-nails on the bus.

Using phones and leaving them on in relatively formal settings. It can be slightly bad manners to wander off and browse some pointless discussion forum when you're at - say - an informal barbecue. But we all do that. But if a couple invites you and DP over for a proper sit down meal everyone should have their phones off and out of sight at all times (doctor on call, have it on vibrate and answer if it's the babysitter being two obvious exceptions to the rule).

Well not paying would surely mean you'd have to tell them there was an issue. So you're contradicting yourself there. Unless you just leave the food on the table and walk out? That would be rude

Pah, you've over egged it now @Ylfa

This. So so rude and It makes me feel sooooo awkward standing there wobbling trying to balance while taking my shoes off. Such an imposition. It’s always a certain ‘type’ of individual who demands ‘shoes off’ too. Fine if it’s part of your culture but in the UK, it has nothing to do with culture and everything to do with some sort of an attempt to be something you’re not 🙄

People are giving @Ylfa a hard time, but they're one of the few posters to have answered the question properly. What do you find bad manners that others don't? They know it's not a popular opinion... That's the whole point!

Doesn't matter if it's the Ritz or McDonald's. You should expect food you can eat

I can’t bear it when people treat the whole world like it’s their living room.

Keep your voice down, keep your hands, arms and legs to yourself and keep your bloody shoes on!

I sat next to a younger woman on the tube and she proceeded to take her shoes and socks off, brush her hair and spend ages messing around with it, it was horrible. All fine to do at home, not in a confined space like a tube carriage. I had to move to stop
myself vomming

I don't mind this.

Especially if there is a provided drink with dinner. Alcohol is expensive why should it be at their expense? Some guests do not know when to stop and could easily drink up a large tab.

That's foolish. You lose your money and your planned experience, and the restaurant doesn't know any better so it loses custom unnecessarily.

You may be unable to bring yourself to discuss a perfectly legitimate problem with the waiter, even politely, but don't kid yourself that it's about good manners.

Blowing their nose loudly in public then inspecting the contents!

Many of these are a difference of opinion but this is just ridiculous. The last time DH and I went out to a restaurant it was upwards of $350. There's no way I'm going to sit politely and eat something I didn't order/something cold/something cooked badly for that sort of money. I'm not an invited guest in someone's home, I'm a customer paying for a service to be provided.

So OP, if you ordered an item from a company and then went to the store to pick it up when it arrived, and it was the wrong item, would you politely pay for it and leave rather than ask for what you ordered? That's what you're suggesting.

In Aldi or Lidl or any supermarket, when there is a huge queue and they open up another till, a random who wasn’t even in any of the queues just walk up to the newly opened till. Rude!!!

I'll agree with 2 and 3. I agree it's very bad manners to badger, but it is very easy to just miss a call. If it is genuinely important then a second quick try (just in case the other person missed the first one by seconds) is OK in my book, plus two missed calls increases the chances they know it's important. But beyond that I get your point. I have three numbers people can get me on - when people try them one after another it does get pretty tedious!

This is not rude. If you accept badly cooked or incorrect food the. You are a sap. If you are paying for something, have the confidence to say something if it's wrong. No need to be rude but speak up for yourself

Because shoes are dirty. You walk in all sorts outside.

I think it's rude to walk into someone's home and not offer to take them off.

If you're going to someone's house wear shoes that are easily removable.

So a young couple or an elderly couple are fine?