Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

@Ylfa that's bizarre, you wouldn't buy a car and accept a bicycle? You wouldn't accept a half painted wall. Why would you pay for something and not get the thing you're paying for?

People who come to my house uninvited with no warning. I absolutely hate surprise visitors. There's no excuse for it, with everyone having phones.

Texting whilst having a meal.

Children/ people who walk into someone house without saying good morning or afternoon to the parents of the house. Going straight upstairs etc.

People who pull up to a neighbourhood (especially in the evening) with their music playing loudly.

When children say mmhmm to adults instead of yes.

Eating whilst on the phone (this makes my blood boil)

Not cancelling appointments instead just don't turn up, especially for those in a business.

People who don't say please and thank you.

People who don't ask at the entrance of someone's home if they would prefer to take their shoes off.

Forcing children to hug or kiss an adult.

Gosh the list is endless.

Me too!

Well then you are a mug. The only ride one in the poor food situation in a restaurant is the chef who is incapable of doing his job properly.
If you bought a pair of jeans from next and all the stitching was loose and they were unwearable, would you return them for refund or replacement or just waste your £50 by chucking them in the bin?

Why is that bad manners if the food is poor?

Calling elders by their first names.

Sitting in the aisle seat/putting your bag on the aisle seat on a train to prevent someone else sitting down.

Food is on a totally different frequency, I don’t think construction is analogous. Choose a decent restaurant in the first place and behave like a decent guest and problems will very rarely arise.

Friend who always takes calls on her phone when she is with anyone (not just me)and has a full conversation taking 10 minutes or more while you sit there like a lemon.

It's always really trivial chat too, she could easily say she's out/with someone and will ring them when she gets home.

She is inseparable from the bloody thing.

So many....
Phones at the table
Facetiming in public
Listening to / watching stuff on phones without headphones OR with headphones but with the sound too loud so everyone can still hear it
Eating in the street
Eating in the theatre or cinema
Turning up late
Allowing children to interrupt adults' conversation
Not saying thank you for gifts
Anything that is selfish but inflicts that selfishness on the unsuspecting general public

Yep. Families walking 3 /4 across the pavement.

Yes, entitled to get what you pay for.

This! Were they dragged up?

Or couples stopping to kiss middle of the pavement on a busy street.

That's bizarre. A restaurant is a business, not someone who is kindly hosting you as a guest.

I've only sent back food once. I ordered eggs hollandaise, when I received it I only had to touch the white for uncooked egg white to spill out all over the plate. Should I really have ignored that and said it was all absolutely fine and paid for it?

I’ve had to do this a fair few times due to restaurants serving me things I’m allergic to, or bringing the completely wrong orders.

Seems stupid to pay for a meal you haven’t ordered and won’t eat. I used to be a waiter, taking food back is completely normal.

But even the most decent restaurant in the world can make a mistake. Why should the customer not ask for it to be rectified?

Oh, and I should add people who expect me to remove my shoes in their house - I'll do it to keep the peace, but I really don't want to be sitting around in my socks or bare feet. It's just so vulgar - you wouldn't ask the Queen to do it, so why ask me? Floors are designed to be walked on!

Not saying thank you for gifts.

A verbal thank you is fine. A text is fine. A thank you card is fine.

Not acknowledging it at all - not fine.

Answering your mobile phone when speaking to someone else.

I don't mind if someone says 'excuse me' if they're expecting an important call, then keeps it as short as possible. However, I used to have a friend who would simply answer her phone while one of us was mid sentence, no apology and then proceed to have a full conversation with someone else while I just sat there

People who sit on the armrests of your furniture and even worse, when offered a seat, claim they are 'ok here thank you'.
It's not ok with me, the arms are not designed to be sat on.
People scrolling their phones continuously whilst your speaking to them.

And I also don't feel bad about not eating the mouldy bread roll I was served once in a restaurant! I sent it back. Was a teenager at the time, could only afford soup and a roll and just the soup wouldn't have been enough food!

The rudeness was on the restaurant for serving it, not on me for returning it.

You don't throw up, you just eat it.

You are not a bloody guest, you are a paying customer!

I used to know someone like this! He'd phone his girlfriend in front of a group of us and expect us to be quiet whilst they were talking. Can't understand why it couldn't wait.