Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

No! It was just the first thing that came to mind when I read the thread title. It’s something that I hate most about US/UK culture.

Lol, pay and leave hungry? Pay? For inedible food?

People at the supermarket checkout who are looking around all tum tee tum until the cashier has finished, only then it dawns on them they have to pay and pack!

People who fill their car with fuel but don't check the pump number. Then do the whole rubber necking thing to try and see the pump number or just mutter something like 'it's the black one' not having clocked there are 3 black cars or the forecourt.

This really bothers me. I went to a (bizarre) hen do about 6 years ago and remember being absolutely furious and speaking to one of the women there about her phone. She literally just spend the whole evening on her phone - I told her how rude it was for the bride to be to have a "friend" paying more attention to instagram and facebook than the party.

also, another phone one, people playing videos etc on their phones which cause a noise in a confined space, like a train carriage or the hairdressers or a restaurant. Wear earphones and don't inflict the noise on everyone around you.

It is extremely rude and inconsiderate and I have never allowed DD to inflict noise on others when on gadgets

Oooh. I think it's really rude when people are really "relaxed" or "chilled" and therefore opt out of any planning or arranging of anything because they "don't mind" and it's "up to you". They act like they're being super accommodating but, in reality, they're just being lazy and putting all the workload on the other person to organise (and 99% of the time, they do end up having a preference that needs accommodating after the plans are made - when it's far more work). My DSis is like this, we'll agree to have lunch and I'll ask what time/day suits her and all I get is "I don't mind", "whenever", "I'm easy". So I'll book for 1pm on Saturday. Then she'll say "oh, DN has an appointment so I won't be there until 1.30, but don't worry, we'll be there a bit late, feel free to order without us, if they can't accommodate us later then that's fine etc".

Super weird responses on here - of course paying customers or paying guests are absolutely entitled to send substandard food back. definitely not a question of manners.

But why on earth would you pay? Why would you think it unreasonable for a customer not to pay for undercooked food?
If this is how you operate you must be very out of pocket and very hungry, what a rubbish combination.

Entitled is the key word!

People chewing with their mouth open. There is just no excuse for this. Just today I had a someone chewing gum behind me and I'm still irritated about it.

People not picking up their feet properly when they walk and their shoes slop and drag on the ground.

Not taking off a hat indoors.

Not putting cutlery on the plate correctly after a meal.

Slurping any form of drinks. And dunking biscuits in tea can go in here too. All OK at home, but not in public.

Not greeting someone before speaking to them.

Allowing children to run around restaurant or shops.

There are more, but I'll stop there 😊

My bad mannered hates are. Loud chewing, chewing with mouth open, sluping and gulping your drink, scratching the plate constantly.

Ditto driving round in a car with windows open and blaring music booming out.

Indeed it is. If you pay for food surely you should be expected to be able to eat it? No?

Yes I think Ylfa is trying to wind us up.

It’s true that customers are referred to as guests in the hospitality industry. (I waited tables when I was younger)

And so they are treated like guests. They are treated with respect as they choose to dine here. If they need to send their food back - they have every right to do so, so the staff can rectify and learn from it. It is in no way bad manners to send food back which isn’t up to standard.

Arrrggghhhh me too. It drives me mad and is just so inconsiderate.

Mine is customers saying can I get instead of may I have
Where I live "Can I get" is what everybody says. Shop assistants would look at you as if you've two heads if you said "May I have" - not bad manners, just regional differences.

I can't stand people blowing on their food.

People using their phone when in company 🤬

Visitors who traipse into your house in their shoes without even offering to take them off. I can't imagine doing it but loads of people do.

Not having common courtesy when walking or driving. If someone stands aside/let's you through etc say thank you.

People who cut in front of you then walk really slowly. Or walk towards you two abreast forcing you into the road.

Cyclists who ride along the road, parallel to a cycle path holding up traffic.

No, I really feel this way. I know it’s an uncommon point of view.

Is thismylifenow, ooh I've had my hat on most of the day....

Having your phone on loudspeaker / having a loud phone conversation.

Not taking shoes off when visiting my house. I have to ask my dad every single time when he visits, otherwise he just walks straight in wearing shoes and walks through the whole of downstairs and usually up to the spare room to drop off his bag.

No you're a customer, would you approach a builder in the same way? Just accept poor work?
This is the stupidest thing I've read on here for years 🙄

This is batshit!