Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

• Opening a window on public transport without asking first
• Being late to a time limited invitation (i.e. a meal at a restaurant)
• Chatting with cashiers at supermarkets long after they've packed and paid for the goods
• Posting on social media that everything is "absolutely disgusting"
• Asking me to stand up for your child on a bus or train or using children as an excuse to jump queues

In terms of food in restaurants, it depends how it's done. If there's a fault, there's no shame in asking for it to go under the grill for a bit longer/salad redoing or similar. I think restaurant staff hate the people who kick off and/or immediately demand money off the bill.

People looking down at their phones whilst walking along and expecting everyone else to move out of the way.😡

Picking your teeth in a Teams meeting! I was expected to tolerate this from a University professor recently. Frankly , I would have preferred to watch Gollum trying to clean his teeth with a twig 🤣. Not much difference between the two, come to think of it. Seriously rude and disrespectful- as well as stomach turning to watch🤢

@Ylfa

I know I’m very alone on this one but behave as you would if you were a guest in someone’s house.

No! Don't be absurd!

I'm not paying good ££s for shit service or food! More fool you if you do!

Being late! WTF! Inconsiderate, lack of self awareness and respect for others.
Talking to servers/retail staff rudely, Iv been both and it’s astounding.
Not using headphones on public transport.
Failing to control kids when out in public/other people’s houses.
Not giving your seat to old/pregnant/frail on public transport.
When dining, Serving your self first before offering to serve others.

Totally agree with using using phone on speaker... either for conversations or games in public... but my particular bug bear is putting your feet up on train seats. It's disgusting.

Not getting a thanks for gifts to the children of family members. I’m not looking for a elaborate hand drawn card or anything, just a text from the parents saying ‘thanks for Barry’s gift, he loves it xx’.

It’s been happening for years and now the children of the children my mum had the same issue with are doing the same. It’s incredibly bad mannered, how do I know if it’s arrived even!!! Funnily enough, one of the parents was quick enough to text and ask if I had sent something when a present was delayed once.

And again ... That sometimes can't be helped

Wow that's weird your close friend can not even walk in to your house 😖

Omg I have so many which makes me realise that I’m clearly not very tolerant lol
My bug bears include :-
When you meet a friend or relative for lunch or coffee and they spend most of the time on their phone.
People who order wine or alcoholic drinks when I don’t drink or order starters and the most expensive meals and just assume you’re splitting the bill equally.

Visitors who make themselves a bit too comfortable in at your house. Dumping belongings untidily, putting bare feet on the upholstered footstool.

Walking straight in through the back door without knocking and getting food out of the fridge or cupboards.

Another thing that I think is really yucky and bad manners , is when a woman I know eats in public , like in my house or restaurant and then gets a tooth pick out and starts picking bits out of food her teeth.
i think that’s something to do in the bathroom in private ! It really grosses me out.

• not replying on emails (work etiquette)
• chewing loudly or eating with open mouth or speaking with full mouth
• being late without good reason
• interrupting when someone speaks

I suppose it depends what kind of restaurant it is. If it is Burger King, or similar, I wouldn't complain, but if it was a really expensive restaurant, I certainly would complain! There'd be no way they'd be getting my hard earned money unless I enjoyed the food and it was perfectly cooked and presented. You've obviously got too much money 😂

Speaking loudly on the phone in coffee shop, bus, train, etc. I don't want to hear it!!! Arghhhh.

I don't even understand this one.

I think it's because the excuse me is a request, and the please is the manners of requesting it nicely. Excuse me is basically "move"

Same - I wouldn't dream of turning up at someone's house, not even a member of my own family, without checking with them first. However much I tell people to text or phone first, if they're thinking of calling round, they STILL just drop in. It gets me so angry!!

I hate whistling with a passion. Think it’s some kind of phobia. I have to walk away if I’m in a queue and someone is whistling near me. I swear to god it gets me so triggered 😆

People who don’t treat other people’s adult children as separate individuals. For example asking the parents things instead of going to the adult child directly, and not giving them individual Christmas cards and invitations to events after they’ve fled the nest. I also think it’s rude the other way round when adult children don’t bother to get individual cards etc for people and just expect their name to be added to their parents’ card.

Calling their child’s name loudly in public so that all know the child’s name.
Table manners being Americanised
Glottlestops.
Not holding the door for others.
Please and thank yous.
Dressing poorly for occasions.
Thanking the bus driver when embarking and disembarking.
Those who dress in extremely revealing clothing, there’s a time and place.
Those who give you tea and you just get a cup of tea.
Those who ignore their neighbours.
Over pushy parents who don’t allow their children to be children.
Its truly bad manners to think and verbalise the south of England has priority over the rest of the UK.

Drivers and cyclists ignoring green pedestrian lights, and especially if they (usually cyclists in this case) expect pedestrians to just manoeuvre around them, and shout at us for not crossing quickly enough.

People standing over me and watching when I'm doing something; especially 'keeping me company in the kitchen', and watching me/chatting to me while I'm washing up, preparing food or even just pouring tea/coffee. I have co-ordination difficulties and doing these things takes concentration, plus I have performance anxiety about such things. (I realize that it's also rude to spend all your time doing things in the kitchen when visitors come to see you, and I keep such kitchen activities to a minimum.)

Not accepting someone's expressed wishes: e.g. in my case, pressing me to tell them when my birthday is, when I've told them that I avoid my birthday.

Criticizing other people's choices and habits unless there is a really good reason; e.g. eating a very high-fibre diet is actually unhealthy for me with my Crohns, so please do not lecture me about 'eating more fibre'.

@DangerouslyBored

The utter bastard in my office who comes and talks to me the minute he sees me return to my desk with my lunch. Fuck the fuck off and let me enjoy my food while it’s still warm 😡 😤

That used the happen to me too (in jobs where there was nowhere provided for you to eat your lunch in peace and going outside was impractical). After the first couple of times (and realising it was nothing urgent) I'd say "sorry I'm taking my lunch hour now but I'll come back to you after lunch. Or perhaps you could email me with what you need and I'll come back to you in an hour)." That didn't go down well with the interrupter initially, but I always kept my word about coming back to them and they eventually learned to leave me alone when it was obvious I wasn't free. 🌹

Person behind me at the checkout (today) loading their shopping onto the conveyor belt when they could clearly see I had a trolley full and was still loading mine onto the conveyor belt. AND THEN WALKING OFF TO GET A FEW MORE ITEMS 😡. I had to put her stuff into a basket on the floor so I could fit my shopping on - and she had the audacity to give me the stink eye upon her return!

You have paid for a service (edible food). If the food is not as described, send it back. You should not send it back if you just don't like it, but if it is not good enough it is not good enough.

I met a woman the other day who was a multi millionaire, set up and sold a fantastically successful business, came from money, clearly had no class though. She was eating a meal and licked the knife clean. 😂😁I kind of see it as old school appreciation, but I am sure she wouldn't do it whilst eating with her millionaire mates. I hate massive burps around the dinner table and feet on bus/train seats. Old people who push in queues........ just bcos they're old. 😂. People who do not appreciate that a waiter (ess) has many other customers and take 20 mins to choose what they want to eat when everyone else has ordered. I just tell the waiter (ess) to put my order in and come back in 30 mins for their order.

Well, then don't answer the phone. No-one wants to hear your phone call.