Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

How so?

I mean a quick conversation is fair enough but not a drawnout one in a public place

I had this recently when I was in hospital after anaesthetic and person next to me was continually on the phone. Found it so irritating

Maybe it's cultural as quite common in the UK, but I find it rude when people ask some many questions like they are interviewing you, e.g. where are you from? How long have you been here? what do you do? Are you married? DO you own or rent? How di you meet DP? All in succession as if I am being interrogated by the police.

Also mmhm and uh-huh and general mumbling noises rather than yes or no. My DP does that and I want to kill him. How many calories does it burn to just say yes or no?

Doing makeup on public transport.

Not introducing people to one another, like when I am walking with A and we run into B, A just chats with B for a while. I find it rude to introduce myself.

Using mental health/anxiety etc as a trump card for not following generally accepted manners and social graces.

Waiting till a meal is ready, then deciding to go to the toilet. Like very male in my family.

I can't get my phone to my ear with one arm so if I have something in my other I can't answer the phone.

People standing talking and blocking a path. Just move, people shouldn't have to ask if they're in plain sight. And any lack of basic 'please' and 'thank you' - I know (hope) that everyone agrees that it's rude but the amount of people, even grown adults who don't have basic manners is very disappointing.

Yes I understand

My bad manners is not accepting or declining an invitation because ‘not sure what we’re doing/our plans are’. So obviously really means ‘No or not our first choice but waiting to see if anything better comes up’. Usually for Christmas/New Year, holidays etc. It infuriates me.

Absolutely loathe feet on seats. People that think it's acceptable to put dirty footwear up on public transport. Even worse - bare feet on planes!
Find it hard to watch Gogglebox because of people pointing their dirty socks at the screen.

Thiiiiiis! 2 hour train journey today and the man opposite me played loud tik tok videos all the way.

He seemed genuinely surprised when another passenger asked him to turn it down. He didn't and I wish I'd had the nerve to tell him to pack it in but instead I seethed silently.

This thread is an example of the original question, so many people disagreeing with what people consider bad manners that other people don't think are.

Or when it's a couple with two kids all holding hands spread across the whole pavement.
Wants to be shot down 😏

Oh gosh was it one of those hideous ‘tuneful’, warbling whistles that makes you want to pull your ears off?

even thinking about it is giving me rage 🤣🤣🤣

Kids interrupting and not saying 'excuse me'; it's down to parents for not teaching them social graces. When kids whisper to other children whilst in the company of school friends, potentially making others feel awkward. My Dd was upset, as this happened in primary school, she thought it was due to wearing glasses.. It's important that social etiquette is taught at home!

Passive aggression 🤪

Reminds me of my mother.

Serve up and start without them.

Friends' kids not thanking you for birthday/Xmas presents. I stopped sending any. Luckily they're all grown now anyway!

Coughing without covering your mouth
Talking with mouth full
Not placing cutlery together at the end of a meal

Overstepping boundaries
But also - creating your own boundaries as an excuse for rudeness

The whistling man might have sensory issues/ticks/ASD and may whistle without realising or as a way to regulate his stress and anxiety. Working in an sen setting I know a lot of people with these types of neurodiversities have habits/ticks which they can’t control.

Adults allowing their children to interrupt adult conversation

I find a lot of people annoying! Lack of awareness, I’m the centre of the universe, wearing blinkers, entitled…usually results in a lot of examples cited here.

Vaping inside buildings. Especially when they know they aren't supposed to, so they just try to sneak it.

Sticking out tongues in photos. It's a particular hate of mine because I find it so repulsive. I have a friend who does it on every photo she has taken, everyone else is smiling and she's childishly got her tongue poked out. It looks immature and ruins a nice picture.

Tailgaters!! It’s bad enough to when you’re doing the speed limit and someone is up your backside and flashing you to move in from the second lane, where you’re entitled to be as you’re passing loads of slower vehicles. Even worse when you’ve just realised you’re already slightly over the limit and you’re still being tailgated.!!

People who don’t use their indicators on cars.