Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

And you sent a present and card!

Giving someone chocolates as a gift and them not opening them right away and offering me one, ditto wine, joking of course - (partly!)

My neighbours adult daughter always beeps her horn to announce her arrival! They are lovely neighbours so won't say anything but it really irritates me (she is around a lot as her parents help with childcare).

Horn beeping in general is very overdone, people are very quick on the beep for often very little reason

This is encouraged in our house.

Hairdressers, beautician etc talking to each other whilst you sit there feeling like you’re intruding yet paying for a service.

Staff at beauty counters doing their own it another member of staff’s makeup.

Calling other people rude including MN ‘did you mean to be so rude?’
Turning one’s nose up at other people’s perfectly normal habits.
Taking ages to choose a chocolate because you read every single description on the box.

I’m quietly amused by the zebra crossing one. Obviously all those drivers are super rude not giving you a nice wave/smile for waiting patiently to cross the road where there isn’t a zebra crossing and they have right of way 🤣

Completely agree with this!

Yes. Or when it's youngsters staring at their mobile phones and not looking where they are going. But in their case I think it's just lack of attention, whereas the middle aged/early retiree couples know they are taking up the whole path but just think they are more important than anyone else on it.

Totally agree. It's particularly annoying when you are a pedestrian and cars start beeping and you don't know if they are beeping you for some reason!

Phone zombies on pavement or crossing road without looking up

Being called stupid on mumsnet just for disagreeing

When you offer someone Americans something like a cup of tea and they say “sure” instead of “yes please”.

Disgusting habit

This one is very interesting. Living 20 years in Ireland and still find the overuse of "please" really unnecessary.
To a foreign person it doesn't sound necessary polite but forced, just a formality that is used without any meaning. It's nearly background noise sometimes. Sounds weird depending on the context.

I visited and lived in different countries including the UK and I feel the overuse of please is only happening in UK and Ireland.

I hate going empty handed to an event though so may take flowers or chocolates as they are not there forever itms.

People who don't say please after excuse me, apologies if this has already been mentioned

And taking ages to select things in supermarket like loose carrots and blocking others.

I once waited ages for someone to select a pack of smoked salmon, so frustrating

I am patient but there is a limit

I find nose blowing disgusting. Blowing the snot out of your face, making honking noises, a red face and rank tissues.

Sniffing pulls the snot in the direction it's supposed to go - to be destroyed in the pit of acid that is your stomach.

I find that gently squeezing your nose with a tissue stops dripping, doesn't make you sore and speeds up cold recovery. Blowing makes it worse.

You are absolutely right. I will never offer anyone tea ever again as I may not have the exact blend they require.

Drivers that don't acknowledge you've stopped to give way to them coming up the hill really pisses me off. just a simple wave or even a nod is enough!

There’s lots on here that have been mentioned repeatedly, so they are obviously seen as bad mannered by many!

People who cough without putting a hand over their mouth (a pet hate of mine even pre covid)

People talking into their phone loudly or when it’s on speakerphone

People putting their feet up on the seats infront on public transport or putting a bag on the seat next to them ( when the bus/train is busy)🤨
Clipping nails - I saw this too many times on the tube, when I lived in London🤢

People letting their dog/s run up to people when they are eating (happened a few times) worse one was at the beach, the owners let their dog run into our beach tent thing , our toddler was so startled, dog clambering over all our food, sand everywhere. They didn’t even try to recall the dog or come over to get the dog away , just looked at us, thinking it was funny. Lazy, gormless owners - not the dogs fault.

When people don’t say thanks to cars stopping at the zebra crossing, or when a driver pretends they haven’t seen you at the zebra crossing and just drives through.

The speakerphone one can sometimes not be avoided

Leaving the front door open when it's very cold, I think it's disrespectful to leave a house freezing cold for whoever is left at home. They think it's rude to shut the door if someone is following you out of the house, even if it's 10 mins later!

Teenagers serving themselves seconds when people haven't started to eat their first serving. It's usually me trying to get things on the table and they just start without me.
I get around this by dishing up in the kitchen and covering leftovers.

Teenagers who always leave a dribble in a jar or bottle (or box of cereal) in the fridge as a polite thing not to take the last bit.
This drives me nuts as I don't buy it thinking we have some of X as the bottle is in the fridge only to find out it's all gone. I wish they would stick a post in note and write we need another, then bin the old bottle.

And breathe...,,,,